I've been with a guy for a very long time...but lately he doesn' want to spend as much time together. However, he did just get a very time consuming job. I want to have time together, but it doesn't seem like he does. I feel like we only see each other (out side of school) when its convienent for him.
2006-12-28 03:01:03 · 14 answers · asked by Just living.... 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
In a relationship, it take compromise and it is not always about one person. I would say sit down and if you have to make a schedule when it would be the most convenient for the both of you to spend time with one another. People have to be willing to make it work even when it gets hard. I would also say that you should do something nice. Just a little thing. Like giving a little note that says i am thinking of you or have a great day today. Little things can make the biggest impressions!! Also, just call to say hello once in a while, no reason needed. Tell him how you feel and that you want this to work and you are willing to compromise if he is. If not and it is too much, then you do not need all the drama and pain. But first talk it out and see when the best time is to spend time together. Everything will work out as long as 2 people are trying to make it work not just one... Keep trying!!
2006-12-28 03:08:04 · answer #1 · answered by sactified1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stress and the time consuming part of his new job are putting a damper on the relationship right now. Once he gets in the routine of the new job and starts getting more rest for it things will start to fall back into place. He's probably tired from all the extra work from this new job. Give him a little space and time to adjust.
2006-12-28 03:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thin to do is tell him how you feel. He may not realize that he is putting you on the back burner. With school and a job it can be kinda crazy. If you start see changes in the way he treats you and how much you guys talk when you talk on the phone, kit could be signs of a bigger problem. I don't know iF YOU ARE IN HIGH SCHOOL OR WHAT BUT IF THAT IS THE CASE, IT MAYBE TIME TO FIND A NEW BOO.
2006-12-28 03:05:33 · answer #3 · answered by *♥Tarita♥* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be patient. His job is demanding a great deal of his time now...add that to his studies and well- he may be a bit overwhelmed right now...just do all that you can to see him when he has time. If he is spending his "free" time with other friends instead of you, you might have something to worry about, but until you know that to be the case - cut him a little slack and let him find a routine that functions in a manner that gives him time for school, work, and you.
2006-12-28 03:10:06 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That can be hard- and I guess I did the same thing to my boyfriend. It wasn't anything bad. The newness wears off and it\s not that their not important, but a job that takes up a lot of time can be hard. I've been in both places. At first my bf worked a lot and then quit for baseball. Now I work a lot. It usually doesn't mean anything except life must go on outside your world. :)
2006-12-28 03:08:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well.
1) you have to give hI'm a beak im sure that his job is tiring. and its hard.
2) you had to expect it.
3) just because he spends less time with you doesn't mean he doesn't think about you or wish he was with you.
4) there is no harm in surprising him sometimes. make him a sandwich and bring it to him after work.
5) good luck!!!
2006-12-28 03:07:44 · answer #6 · answered by Niko 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is very hard not to be upset over, when I was with my last ex yeah it was nice I saw him at work and yes we were dateing he is my ex now anyways he all of sudden told me I didnt need to tell him I loved him all the time and call him all the time sense I see him at work evuentally he only came over once a week so I know how tough it is but have patience and u will be fine.
2006-12-28 03:06:06 · answer #7 · answered by Renee B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe the new job he got wears him out and he too sleepy to do anything... I know because thats how i feel when i get off of work.. i dont even want to pick up a phone after 5 pm...
2006-12-28 03:03:47 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is trying to drop you a hint.....Get a hobby, hang out w/ your friends, don't sit at home worrying about not having enough time with him. Next time he wants to get together, who knows? You might be too busy yourself. Don't let him be in charge on you.
2006-12-28 03:05:28 · answer #9 · answered by mvngs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be wary of this attitude. Men who don't want to make time for a woman in their life are not good marriage material. I know, I married a person addicted to work. It has made life really difficult.
Beware!
2006-12-28 03:05:09 · answer #10 · answered by Marie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋