I have the hots for this guy who is sharing my pain. He cuts himself too, and he totally understands me. We have the exact same kind of depression, Chronicle Depression. He has a girlfriend, but has feelings for me. He said if he wasn't going out with his current girlfriend, he'd be with me. I am totally heartbroken, and I wish I could find a guy similar to him!
♥ Help? ♥
2006-12-28 02:50:36 · 15 answers · asked by Kiki_♥ 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I don't completely understand cutting but I do understand being depressed...I have found that having someone who has the same problem can be a major problem...When I was into drugs and suicide I began to get around others who were the same, they seemed to make my situation worse than better. You might think that there is no one that cares and understands you, I just now myself figured that out and I am 24...There are people in this world that are good people and being in a positive atmosphere will help you, I know it is hard to see this at this time in your life.
Guys will never completely understand any girl no matter what the situation. It is eisear to find people with the same problems as you, than look to someone who doesn't understand, but in this type of situation the saying "two don't make a right" is just the thing to say.,.,.,If you don't always want to feel inside the way you do I would not hang around ones who have the similiar problems, they will hurt you..Think about it if you hurt your own self why would you not hurt another..That is definatly not what you need in your life, you need love and kindness, exceptness is hard to come by, but remember you are not alone all of us suffer in ways from the rich to the poor, from the ugliest to the prettiest. YOU ARE NOT NORMAL IF YOU DONT HAVE PROBLEMS AND ARE NOT DIFFERENT!!!!! Think about it this way I could love and understand the same lyrics in a song as you do even though we have completely different lives...How do you think they make so much money...I wish the best for you, don't ever give-up on your self you will overcome this I don't know when or where it is different for everyone, but life is greener on the other side you just got to make it through the jungle first...
You are strong and will survive, God has a funny way of teaching lessons in life, and your problems now will solve future issues...Don't ever give up, I know that it seems impossible to make friends without the same problems, but its not until you try that it will happen and you will have to try and try again but believe in yourself and others You will find your way if you try hard enough, you just have to work hard. Life will always be a challenge and there will be many times in life when you want to give up, it might not seem like it now, but you will overcome these obsticles and more obsticles will come you have to make the choice on how you will solve the problem,
2006-12-28 03:25:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is the third attempt that I have tried to impress upon you to get professional help. Your chronic depression doesnot need to be compared with this boy. He is just stringing you along. He said that he would be with you if he was not with his current girlfriend. Does she know about the two of you? Before you have a relationship, you need to get up close and personal with yourself. Having to deal with alcoholic parents is difficult enough without trying to be with someone else that is depressed and is probably causing some of your stress and your depression. He definitely needs help. Professional help. Have you thought that if he is abusing the relationship with his current girlfriend that he is abusing you just as much as your parents do. Donot worry about finding a boyfriend. Now is the time to "FIND" help for yourself.
2006-12-28 06:55:16 · answer #2 · answered by Jean 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am depressed too and I have figured this out the hard way, but it's not good to be with someone who is depressed, even though it might make you feel better because you don't feel alone and you know you're not the only one going through depression. Both cases of depression begin to link and you aren't helping each other. You don't need to have a depressed person to fall back on, let this guy continue his relationship with his girlfriend and live your own seperate lives atleast until you both get better. It was hard for me to let the guy I was talking to go, but now I am getting better and so is he. Good luck! I hope you consider my advice.
2006-12-28 02:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
hi, From what you stated, i'm uncertain if it may desire to truly be defined as melancholy interior the experience of it being a sickness. incredibly, to be clinically determined with considerable melancholy a clinician is finding for here warning signs (lasting 2 weeks or greater): 5 or greater of here warning signs (interior the comparable 2 week era):depressed temper lots of the day, diminished pastime in events which you as quickly as enjoyed, weight benefit or loss or enhance in urge for nutrition, insomnia or hypersomnia (dozing too lots) daily, fatigue or loss of power daily, thoughts of worthlessness or intense guilt, psychomotor agitation, difficulty thinking, concentrating, or being very indecisive, recurrent innovations of loss of life or suicidal ideation. whether you're actually not depressed interior the scientific experience of the interest, it would not make your difficulty any much less considerable. living interior the "shadow of" a sibling is not any relaxing and that seems to be what's bothering you. i think of that's super to be acquaintances with the comparable human beings as your brother, yet you ought to additionally start to strengthen friendships of your guy or woman. locate something you're solid at no be counted if or no longer it truly is lecturers, activities, a pastime, regardless of and get entangled with it. perhaps that can assist you to fulfill people who've comparable interests as you. solid success.
2016-10-28 13:21:44 · answer #4 · answered by mosesjr 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok first you need to get some help with your depression. cutting is not a way to deal with your feelings. you need to call a hotline or talk to a therapist or pastor.
As for finding a guy for you, try online dating. There are quite a few dating sites to try out. They match you with someone that appeals to you.
Here are some numbers for your depression help:
Suicide Hotline: 1-800-SUICIDE
(1-800-784-2433)
LifeLine: 1-800-273-8255
Depression Hotline: 630-482-9696
2006-12-28 03:04:03 · answer #5 · answered by horsegal08 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Maybe you can find a guy like him. Keep looking. Depression is real and there is help. Cutting is just not right. Do you really want help or do you need the attention? You must first help yourself before anyone can help you. Don't "wallow" in your depression........it doesn't help you get friends. If you do get friends they probably need as much help as you do.
2006-12-28 03:05:14 · answer #6 · answered by mel 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you are crazy you should call one of those suicide prention phone numbers cutting is kind of creepy I had a messed up life to but I didnt cut myself i mean youre only 14if you have problems with family such as abuse go to the police station
2006-12-28 02:59:31 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
have you been to support groups maybe you could find some one their? it does help to have some one who knows what you are going through:)
best of luck to you:)
2006-12-28 02:53:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
he should leave his girlfriend to be with you - Why is he with the the other girl if he really does not like her?
2006-12-28 02:53:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
What the hell!!! Um, all i can say is pray about it sweetie...Take one day at time
2006-12-28 02:52:43 · answer #10 · answered by Simple1 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋