Ok I just received a phone call from my mom a few minitues ago. She told me to wake up and that my sister is about to get dropped of by my aunt. (she spent the night there last night.) By the tone of my mom's voice i could tell something as not good. She started talking about how my sister and our couzin stripped down last night and kissed on the lips. (they are both only 7.) My sister called my mom this morning and told her she wanted to come home. This is not the norm for my sister to do this so she was obviously not comfortable. My aunt and uncle do not know about this, beccause my couzin hasn't told them anything, the only reason my mom knows is because my sister called and tod her thats why she wants to come home.I dont know what to do! How do i bring it up when she gets here?
2006-12-28 02:41:35 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Why must YOU bring it up? Let your sister bring it up when she is ready to talk to you about it. Give her a little time to think about it without everyone pumping her for information.
2006-12-28 02:44:37 · answer #1 · answered by †♥mslamom♥† 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
First off, your sister is going to be emotional and I am hoping she does talk to you. then you tell her that she was right in getting out of there and that she is only a baby and does not know better. She learned a lesson and hopefully will not repeat it again...which I am sure she won't since she feels so rotten. Just love your sister and be there for her. I think your mother needs to talk with your cousins parents about this. When my daughter was 4, her cousin took her in to the closet and was teaching her to 'french kiss." I think all kids must experiement so don't let her feel it is the end of the world. I talked to my brother right away and these kids never "taught" each other that type of thing again.
2006-12-28 04:05:22 · answer #2 · answered by LaRae 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's what kids do
just be glad it wasn't uncle roger she was smooching
a little bit of curiosity is ok dont let it weird her out for life though
sit her down and explain that what she did was ok that one time cause she didnt know better and now she knows that it is awkward and she shouldn't persue such things in the near future
might want to promote more social activities with her as well to take her mind off of it don't just let her dwell on it watching tv and eating snacks or she's gonna have issues
make sure you dont dodge the issue though be very up front and non judgemental and everything should go smooth
remember play it down as though it's not a big deal but be sure the behavior is not repeated
also see if you can learn where they got the ideas and if your cousin has had similar experiences previously their could be something more evil afoot in your family tree or neighborhood if your cousin is already having sexual contact
2006-12-28 02:47:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough position to be in. You know your sister best. Handle in a way that she will understand and try not to get to excited ( i am sure your mom already has). She looks up to you because you are her big sis. Ask her what happened and why. It may just be curiousity gone wrong. But is someone pushed her into doing it call your mom right away. Kids learn behavior like that if they are taught it. Maybe your cousin is the one who was exposed. Remember it could be kids being kids.
2006-12-28 02:46:56 · answer #4 · answered by *♥Tarita♥* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, stay calm. It is perfectly normal at that age to be curious and experiment. Ask your sister if she wants to talk about what happened, and let her know that it's okay, but that it's probably not a good thing to keep doing. She should be talked to by someone about "private parts". If she seems to be feeling really bad about what happened, maybe she should see a counselor.
2006-12-28 02:45:36 · answer #5 · answered by hotgramma 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just bring it up slowly, and ask how it went. Don't try too hard to get it out of her, cuz she mite not want to talk rite now. If you try too hard you mite upset her. Just wait for her to come out, and if she doesn't, maybe she's not comfortable talking to you about it rite now. Wait till your mom gets home and maybe you can both approach her if you want to, or if you don't just let your mom comfort her. Remeber not too try too hard tho, because this could be an upsetting experience for your sister for watever reason.
2006-12-28 02:46:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kangri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say don't bring it up until she wants to talk about it. I'm guessing she's going to get the third degree from you're mother anyway, so just remain calm and act as if nothing happened for the time being.
2006-12-28 02:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her why she wanted to come home so early, but don't make it look like you know anything, or it's a big deal. Take it from there, but don't get upset or overly excited. Just find out the facts. Kids tend to do this, anyway, not like it's abnornmal. (At least ONE time.) Btw...where's your mom? Why isn't she handeling this?
2006-12-28 02:48:06 · answer #8 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let her relax and feel comfortable.
Then say she can talk to you about anything and not feel embarrased or pressured. Don't make her feel any more self-conscience of the situation. Tell her she was right in wanting to leave and she did the right thing and that you don't know why the cousin did that but it was wrong. Good Luck!
2006-12-28 02:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just talk open about , everyone knows that these things can happen , and it does in every family almost.. just that no one wouldn't wanna talk about, and its normal. U also have to talk with u r sis that its not good and u must explain why.
2006-12-28 02:46:46 · answer #10 · answered by AlinaU 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋