I have been with my bf for 4 months ( i know not long) and we both love each other. the problem is this, His sister died a month before i met him, and this is his families first newyear without her. Understandably he wants to be with his family on new years eve, and he and his family have been invited to a party, But i'm not invited? Should i be worried, that he doesn't want me to go? (I have meet all of his family and friends)
2006-12-28 02:37:51 · 19 answers · asked by rachraquelle 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nah! just give him some space, go out with the girls instead!
2006-12-28 02:40:30 · answer #1 · answered by red devil 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loosing a member of a family is a very tragic thing for everyone to go through, no matter what ages are involved. You boyfriend does love you very much, and is extremley grateful that you are there to support him any time day or night when he needs you the most. The reason that you probably are not invited is as you have said it is the first new year they are having without his sister around, and this will be a very hard and upsetting time for them, all you can do is tell your boyfriend and his family that if they need anyone to be there for them, whether its to shout and scream at, or just to have a shoulder to cry on you are going to be there. Just be very understanding to him, and i am sure you two will have many happy new years together to come.
Hope i have helped.
2006-12-28 11:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by kkaayylleeiigghh 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The lost of a sibling, child or parent is a very difficult one. While you may feel that you and your bf are in love, you have not known him or his family long enough to be with them through this difficult time. You didn't know his sister and would just be an outsider looking in. Give him his space and be there for him if he needs you. Don't be so intrusive. Don't make this be about you. Otherwise he can look at you as being insensitive and self absorbed and may not want to further his relationship with you.
2006-12-28 11:24:55 · answer #3 · answered by mothersister_3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should not be worried
plan something with ur friends or family and let him be with his parents , they had a hard time and maybe they want to support each other on this day just the family
if things go well u will have the chance to celebrate with him a lot of things in the future
all the best
2006-12-28 10:48:27 · answer #4 · answered by athina68 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Forget it. Let him spend some time with his family . They all are still adjusting to sisters death. Don't worry. He may not want to show you how emotional he really is. You've only known him 4 months . give the guy a break.
2006-12-28 10:43:23 · answer #5 · answered by toonice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His sister died not to long ago. Maybe this is his family's way of moving on into a new year without her.
2006-12-28 10:40:33 · answer #6 · answered by kat81886 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i wouldn't worry about it if he loves you enough he would not cheat on you. maybe the party that go invited to is wanting to remember his sister, and have the family there.
2006-12-28 10:46:44 · answer #7 · answered by hazeleeyes 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing to worry about. Most any man would choose family over a short term gf.
2006-12-28 10:41:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, don't worry. The party is probably a personal one. He can't invite you, not because he doesn't want to. Don't read too much into it.
P.S The answer that this person Penelope Yel gave you is wrong. Don't listen to him/her.
2006-12-28 10:49:21 · answer #9 · answered by Webballs 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should be worried. I suspect another woman would be there unless there was something special about his family at New year's, like some tradition... otherwise every holiday would be like this. New Year's is usually a date night, not a family night.
2006-12-28 10:41:33 · answer #10 · answered by Penelope Yelsopee 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
girl, just let him be with his family..my guy and i have been together for almost two years now..last year we werent together for new years because we had an argument..now this year he told me that he will be with his family..and that he think that i should be with mine for new years..he told me its something his family do every new years spend it together..then after he will come over to my house..you know what..I just told myself that whatever..I am giving this man his space..because we have been together for almost 2 years and if you cant invite me to spend new years with you then you know what i am not important to you...I swear wheni am ready i will leave him..then he will miss good a thing
2006-12-28 10:45:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋