me and this guy are really good buddies at work and go out for drinks etc but hes never shown me he thinks of me as anything but one of the guys (I am not a guy!) then last week just before he left to go home for xmas he sent me a text telling me he liked me but he didnt like doing workplace get togethers so didnt do anything, he comes back next week - should I tell him I like him too or was the workplace thing code for dont really like you - help! I am very confused!
2006-12-28 02:35:40 · 32 answers · asked by bloggsrhere 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
we work in way seperate departments - just on the same site. It all came about becuase one of his workmates apparantly likes me and wanted to make a move so he said he liked me too but he didnt belive in workplace romance but would leave it up to those that didnt mind...I have never said anything about liking him we just get on well.
2006-12-28 02:58:00 · update #1
tell him i love u dont be confused about that
2006-12-28 02:40:04 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your office was having a party, he could have meant that he didn't like joining in. I'm not sure what he meant because of the way you wrote it. You need to just point blank ask him what he meant. This is the problem with this world today. Too many people are afraid to ask straigtht out what they want to know. Now you are going to be worried and stressed until he gets back. You could have had your answer and saved yourself so much trouble. By the way, men love when a woman doesn't make them guess. Thank you.
2006-12-28 02:46:05 · answer #2 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When someone says that don't do "workplace romance" it means, he wants whatever comes out of you and him to be kept between you and him. He doesn't show in anyway affection at work, and I'm assuming he told you this, because if you to get together he doesn't want you showing affection.
It isn't because he doesn't like you, but most people that work with their mate, either have problems because of it or so many people are in their business.
For him to tell you he doesn't "do workplace romance" obviously means he likes you, so he's giving you fair heads up about it.
2006-12-28 02:41:33 · answer #3 · answered by heaven_forsaken_dark_poet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's telling you that he really likes you, but will not be romantically involved as long as you to work together. It is a very wise decision on his part and shows that he has good self-control and character even, perhaps, as workplace romances can be detrimental to one's career and source of income. In his mind, it's not worth the risks.
If one of you leaves the company anytime soon, it may be a relationship worth persuing.
2006-12-28 02:42:30 · answer #4 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he tipsy/drunk at the time? Often, our true feelings come out when we're inebriated... other times, it's just because we want to have, "physical relations,".
Either way, I would go to him when you get a chance and let him know that you like him to (it sounds like you do), and then ask WHY he doesn't like doing workplace romances.
You could always suggest that you try to have a relationship off hours, and at that at work, you keep it professional. Or, that you don't try a relationship at all, and just have some fun and intimacy and see where it goes.
2006-12-28 02:40:23 · answer #5 · answered by sammysunset 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is probably trying to explain that he does not want to disclose to any one in office that he is having a relationship with an office colleague. Until and unless you don't give him a feed back, you will only be playing a guessing game. Reply him back that you also like him. Find out his response. If he accepts have a gala time and in case he refuses, just find someone else.
2006-12-28 02:44:58 · answer #6 · answered by Tony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he didn't really like you he would not have told you he did that is unless he gets a kick out of leading women on however i think he just trying to follow works rules and we all know that it is against the code to date co-workers either that or he is kind of shy when it comes to expressing his feelings romantically which could be the reason why he text messaged you instead of telling you face to face when he had all the opportunity to do so which means maybe you should take charge outside of work or take the easy way out and confront him.
2006-12-28 02:51:00 · answer #7 · answered by ohsosexy2006 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from workplace romance, honestly. There could be other politics in the works: policy, other corworkers, your work ethic, your business as in (what you do at home and work start to blend.....boring.), rumors and of course, your emotions. It's a mix up disaster waiting to happen.
Basically, find another job if you want to get things on and I wouldn't bring any of it up unless he does.
Good Luck!
2006-12-28 02:41:02 · answer #8 · answered by pinkchicchild 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is not interested in you romantically. Saying you don't do workplace romance is a cowards way of letting you down easy.
Move on and find someone who will love you like you deserve to be loved.
2006-12-28 02:39:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's taking care of both your jobs. Workplace romances can affect your jobs--especially if they don't work out--then one has to leave because of the conflict one way or the other--he's smart.
2006-12-28 02:39:23 · answer #10 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can do better than a guy who won't be prepared to climb mountains & obstacles for you. Men like challenge. Word of advice: Don't act like one of the guys unless you expect to be treated like one. Texts are also lazy. Men who know how how to behave like *men* and who are genuinely interested will pick up the phone. If you are the dream girl then they wouldn't dare just send you a text for fear you lose interest.
2006-12-28 02:43:31 · answer #11 · answered by femme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋