any one to give me any edvice i have a 13 month old son
2006-12-28 02:24:45 · 12 answers · asked by modiey_blue 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
i have a 13 month old son and i have lost my 2nd baby at 6 weeks and i was wondering what should i do. also i have pain in my stomach and i feel sick
2006-12-28 02:34:04 · update #1
You ALLOW your self to grieve the loss of your unborn child...
ALLOW yourself to go through all the emotional things that only a mother can feel... it is not only the death of your unborn child...but the death of the dreams that you (already!) had FOR that child....how they would look, how you would teach them all the things that only a mother can teach...what they would grow up to be ...how they would feel in your arms, how they would smell...how they would laugh, cry, and grow within your family... you need to move through all of these emotions...
Then you need to concentrate on all the love ,joy, and blessings that your 13 month old child has given you and will continue to give you...and concentrate on all the love, joy, nuturing, and blessings your 13 month old baby NEEDS from you!
When YOU are READY....plan for another child and know that it will be okay...
Some times we do not understand the complexities of this life, ...but KNOW that there was nothing you could have done differently to change the outcome...and then just look forward to a new tomorrow...and rest assured that everything has a higher plan...and "what is meant to be" will be!
God bless you and comfort you in this time of loss!
2006-12-28 02:30:00 · answer #1 · answered by photogram1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I just recently had a miscarriage during the week before Christmas. I was 6 weeks and 4 days. I also have a 3 year old son. My husband and I both grieved for the loss of our would be child but, being around our son and spending lots of time with him has helped. I haven't cried since Christmas Eve but, I still think about what could have been. My OB/GYN says I can start trying to have another baby in 2 months. We are just trying to look forward to what the future will bring us. My due date for my baby was July 24th 2007. It will take you a bit to get through the loss but. I promise if you look to the future, you will find your peace.
2006-12-28 11:36:39 · answer #2 · answered by darkchild39702 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It'shard and i feel for you I've had 3 miscarriges... and you see all of the replies and I'm sure there are plenty more to come. You are not alone on this subject... everyone has there way of coping and dealing. You'll never forget, but time will help you cope and heal. Talk to your family and friends. Be sure to get out of the house and do some things... go have a girl day with you girlfriends or sister. or go on a date with you significant other. And spend plenty of time with your son. Everything happens for a reason... Try not to dwell on blaming yourself.
2006-12-28 10:38:12 · answer #3 · answered by dani girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a miscarriage and 6 1/2 weeks and I'm still sad about it. It happened in April and I would have had the baby by now. Its hard but the pain lessens alittle, even thou on occasion, I still cry about it. Some times I dont think about it for a few days or weeks then something reminds me of it and i get sad again.
Just focus on the baby you do have and remember life is precious
2006-12-28 11:22:39 · answer #4 · answered by Olivia's Mama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor thing - I feel for you. I have never had a child so I can't imagine what you are going through but please allow yourself to grieve for however long it takes. Show your son lots of affection because he may feel that he has taken second place in your life. I know he is too young to understand but he does have his feelings too. Go and see your doctor or have a chat to your health visitor. They can both offer lots of support and put you in touch with professionals that can help as well. Time will heal I'm sure of that.
2006-12-28 16:00:17 · answer #5 · answered by pussycat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi my name is cathy i lost my 3rd baby it was hard the pain will get batter you will all ways think about it as you get older i lost my baby when i was 23 when i lost my baby i am 45 now i still think about it sometimes love your son you have now he needs his mommy my daughter lost her first baby it was hard on her she now has to sons and she is 19 i have 4 kids my daughter that is 25 lost her husband christmas eve and thay have a 7 year old and a 3 year old it is very hard on her and i have been so worried about my daughter and my grandbabys my 3 year old granddaughter thinks her daddy is at her other nannys a sleep my daughter dont no what to tell her i hope you fill batter soon from mrs pace
2006-12-28 10:40:08 · answer #6 · answered by cathymp44 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MIscarriages are difficult at any time, but they are really very common. Most women you know have probably had at least one to their knowledge (and more that they didn't know about). The way to deal with it is to realize that they happen because something genetically was wrong or something developmentally unusual occurred where the life couldn';t be sustained. It's just part of nature.
2006-12-28 10:59:32 · answer #7 · answered by chicchick 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the only way ive got thru the 12 miscarriages ive had is by thinking that its just wasnt right . if your meant to have another kid it'll happen. ur lucky as u already have children so to a certain extent u know it's not YOU. Its so easy to blame yourself , keep thinking if i'd done this... or not done that.... well ive done it both ways. ive done everything by the book and also been quite relaxed about the do's and dont's and it still happened . go to a local group if you can. they can be intimidating but sometimes just hearing someone else vocalize something you thought only you felt can be a hell of a relief
2006-12-28 10:30:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
hiya my name is liz i had a miscarriage 6 weeks ago and i was 5 weeks pregnant, i was devastated only way to get through it is just to remember it wasnt ur fault i'm trying again for another baby andi shud find out t the weekend if im pregnant again or not and for me its the only way to deal with it
2006-12-28 12:14:49 · answer #9 · answered by liz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to go through all the grieving statges in order to try to get past it. Just getting pregnant again is just a cover. Grieve and move on.....
2006-12-28 10:37:42 · answer #10 · answered by jachooz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋