what are you supposed to think and do when an exboyfriend calls you out of the blue when you havent talked for months and wants to hang out? even though you know he screwed up big time but there is something in the back of your mind thinking what if he has changed?
2006-12-28 02:23:42 · 23 answers · asked by brebz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hey im in this situation.....im a guy....lol.....i messed up a 4 year relationship with my gf...(fiancee of 4 months).....bc i always got mad and everything.....over lil stuff......she told me i had a bad temper and everything......so she ended it with me.........4 days later she is talkin to another guy..........so she wont talk to me or anything.....i am in love with the girl she is the love of my life.........and i understand my mistakes and i am really tryin to correct my problems.....even if i dont get back with her then maybe it wont be so hard for the next girl.....we've been broke up almost 3 weeks and i am in torment....i cant eat, sleep and i dont even want to go out with another girl yet............some ppl dont change.....but what i would give to have my ex give me another chance to prove to her that i can change........
2006-12-28 03:07:07 · answer #1 · answered by chris h 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) None of that reflects on you as a worthy or desirable person. You aren't worthless or subhuman just because some guys are too horny to respect what you've got going for you. 2) It seems like you've built up a pattern. Do you by chance notice any other traits that may be connected to cheating behavior that you seem to find attractive about these guys? I just feel like there may be something in particular that you are attracted to that is in high combination with likelihood to cheat, and that may be your real problem. 3) Don't worry, unless Nicky and Chad decide that they're going to have an open relationship because they can't stand not sleeping with other people, I really wouldn't expect their relationship to last. It's not you: it's people who are insatiable in committed relationships. You just seem to pick them repeatedly. 4) If I were you, I'd take a break from dating for a little bit and try to figure out what it is that I want in a partner compared to what it is I keep getting, then find what's causing that discrepancy. You want someone faithful. You're getting cheaters. What is it that's making that happen? (I really doubt it's that you're doing something wrong; I really think it's probably more that you find some particular trait---*********, maybe?----attractive, and that that trait tends to correlate with cheating behavior, so you end up with a lot of cheaters.)
2016-03-28 22:16:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey i know this situation well it happened 2 me, very recently, my ex just moved across the street from me last month. Well my advice is to go hang out. But keep your guard up cuz u don't want to fall for lies and get hurt again. Let him be your friend cuz it won't hurt. At first it might seem ackward, but it won't sooner than u think. Don't kiss him even if you see he's ready cuz in reality you may think you are but ur not. You'll just know if the time is right or if your not suppose 2 at all. Have fun!
2006-12-28 02:30:42 · answer #3 · answered by GFEM213 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, people don't change much. It does not sound like he apologized or even said he would never do again what he did to screw up big time. Be very careful as you are putting yourself in danger of having the same thing happen again.
2006-12-28 02:27:39 · answer #4 · answered by Terry K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Normally there is only one reason for a move like this, A booty call. I could be wrong, but you need to remember why you guys called it quits in the first place. I tis really easy to start feeling feelings for some one you have a past with. Becareful here and think about it before you jump in.
2006-12-28 02:26:54 · answer #5 · answered by *♥Tarita♥* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From my experience, people usually don't change. You can hang out with him if you really need to know, but I wouldn't count on meeting a changed man. He may seem like a new guy, but after awhile, things will most likely go back to normal. Good luck!
2006-12-28 02:27:39 · answer #6 · answered by NikNak 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am in that situation, the girl that left i know will always be the love of my life and i want to call but i have not. i don't see a problem with it. the one thing is remember he screwed up, you have to make sure the trust factor will not be a problem. he is calling to see if you 2 can make it work again not just hang out
2006-12-28 02:28:44 · answer #7 · answered by bone 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happens to the best of us. I just always remember that we broke up for a reason, and most people dont change all that much. I keep my Ex's as friends, but ONLY friends. Dont let that little voice in your mind fool you, its just wishful thinking and will end with another broken heart.
2006-12-28 02:32:55 · answer #8 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just go out with him, whats the worst that can happen? find out he hasnt changed?
u really have nothing to lose. just make sure to go with an open mind because if he has changed u dont wanna be a rude to him and make him think that u changed into a witch.
2006-12-28 02:28:54 · answer #9 · answered by ronny t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably blew another relationship and he wants go back to you... And I'm thinking you had a good reason when you broke up with him. Nothing out of the common. Just say no.
2006-12-28 02:30:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋