He's Cheating on Her! Should I tell her?

Question

I was with this guy for 3 years. He cheated on me once that I know of...anyway, we've been broken up for the past 7 months, and he has a new girlfriend, who wants to wait til marriage to have sex. He's been sleeping with me, however on and off since we broke up. I kept thinking that he would come back to me, for whatever reason that I wanted him back, but now realize that's just dumb, and I don't want him back. The girl that he is with now doesn't deserve to be with this guy. He's such a jerk. Should I tell her that he's cheating on her? Or just get him outta my life and let her figure it out on her own?

Answer 1

I think you should tell her she deserves to know.... if you were the gf being cheated on wouldn't you like to know I would want to know.... I dated a guy who was dateing me and his ex ( who he said he had broken up with) and I was talking to an ex who knew about my new bf and it turned out he was friends with my current bf's "ex" gf so we ended up talking to eachother for almost an hour about what an *** he was and how we would get back at him ... lol and you should have seen his face when we both showed up at his house and said we were friends...

Answer 2

Thats a tricky situation.... On one side you hold the key to unlock a side of him she needs to know about and on the other side you have to understand that sometimes its not your place to say anything. If I was you and in this position (which I pray I never am) I would tell her. Someone who (in my opinion) is saving herself for marriage is trying to look for the right guy and keep her life in order and she doesn't need a guy like that around. which neither do YOU! Just explain to her that you two have been seeing each other off and on and you have finally come to the point that she needs to know what is going on. Tell her that you think she deserves better than this and You hope she finds love some where with someone that deserves her. Because he doesn't. and he doesn't deserve you either! You need to cut all ties with him. Clear your differences with her and move on to bigger and better things. I think you will feel better about yourself if you talk with her and I know you will feel better when you get away from him. The thing you have to remember is that she is going to be upset regardless if your helping her in this or not. you slept with her boyfriend and that will make no difference to her even if your telling her. but in the long run she will have more respect for you for actually telling her oppose to hiding it and running like most cowards do. Good Luck Sweetie!

Answer 3

Yes, you should tell her, to say the least. You should also tell that girl's father, who hopefully will beat him within an inch of his life, and run him out of town.

I was also going to criticize you, but you appear to be waking up and wanting to do the right thng. A couple of people below, however, have suggested ulterior motives on your part, such as revenge, ect. I'm questioning you also on this, and I think that you need to provide the answers in the "details" section below your question.

I'm really outraged about this.

Answer 4

Your gonna walk up to this girl and say hey "Your bf is cheating on you with me." Go for it. She deserves to know, and you deserve to tell her, cause obviously he's not going to. I went through the same thing with one of my ex's. When she wasn't around me and him would hook up. It was better than being together, cause there was no strings attached, or anything like that. But I started feeling guilty cause the girl he was with was one of those save it for marriage type girls, but my ex isn't ever getting married, or at least not till he's 35 -40. So she's kinda sol. But I felt bad and had to break it off with him, I didn't tell her cause I didn't feel guilty cause I wanted him back.

Answer 5

No, she will just think you want him back. However, I would not see the jerk again, and tell him that if he does come back around, you will tell her. If you do decide to tell her, I would send a note telling her where he will be with you and make sure that he is caught with his pants down. 7 months is a long time to be still with this guy, are you sure you don't have issiues with him still?

Answer 6

You telling her would just be your way of getting revenge on him. Drop the loser, forget about him and keep your mouth shut. If his new girlfriend figures it out then so be it. If not, then that's okay too. Its not your place to say anything and being the fact you are an ex she would most likely not believe you anyway. Why stir the pot??

Answer 7

Tell me why the dose of conscience now? Is it because he wants YOU out of his life. Is this your way for revenge. Still, telling her may backfire on you. (Some women tend to believe what they will) Anyway, here's hoping to you being a better woman in the future. Remember, Karma is a *****.

Answer 8

Yes, you should tell her. He's the average jerk, so you shouldn't have any hopes of him changing. Let her know who she's "waiting until marriage" for.

Answer 9

I DONT KNOW WHAT OTHER PEOPLES ANSWERS ARE FOR THIS QUESTION, BUT MINE IS : YOU KNOW HIM BETTER THAN SHE DOES AND YOU WERE HURT WHEN YOU FOUND OUT THAT HE WAS CHEATING ON YOU SO OF COURSE SHE IS GONNA BE HURT TO, REALLY HURT WHEN SHE FINDS OUT IT WAS WITH YOU... HIS EX-GIRLFRIEND.... IM NOT SAYN KEEP IT TO YOURSELF, IM SAYN DO WHAT YOU WOULD WANT SOMEONE TO DO FOR YOU...... GIRL LIFE HAS ITS UPS AND DOWNS AND SINCE YOU DONT WANT HIM ANYMORE MAYBE YOU SHOULD TELL HER WHAT HE HAS DONE OR IF YOU THINK ITS BEST FOR HER TO FIGURE THIS JACKASS OUT ON HER OWN THEN DO IT THAT WAY.... GIVE HIM ENOUGH ROPE AND HE'LL HANG HIS SELF..... IF I WAS YOU ID LET HER FIND OUT ON HER OWN, SHE'LL SEE THE REAL HIM LATER ON...... LOL

Answer 10

He is a jerk. And you being part of that makes me wonder why you suddenly care about how she is being treated.
Do the right thing. tell her