2006-12-28 02:17:05 · 11 answers · asked by DiggityDad 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Try: "honey, you need professional help."
2006-12-28 02:18:20 · answer #1 · answered by tampico 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
How old is the child? I am assuming still under 18. One way may be to say something like, "I have noticed that there are some problems in your life, and you seem to be having difficulty handling them all on your own. I think that WE should go to see someone that may be able to help figure out a way to deal with all of this." Be supportive, and offer to go with her, at least for the initial appointment. Try to keep it not stigmatizing. Discuss it like it will help her deal with difficulties, not that she is crazy and needs to see a professional. If she is under 18 (or even if older) maybe try to see a family therapist for help. If she won't go to the initial appointment, maybe go without her, and get some advice from there.
2006-12-28 02:25:27 · answer #2 · answered by Bag-A-Donuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's important to understand that once our children are adults they are left to make their own decisions about life. All we can do is express our concerns. In doing that, (expressing our concerns), it's really important to speak to them in a way that isn't demeaning. Words and statements like; you need, you should, you have to, you've gotta, only result in shame, and a feeling of loss of control on the adult child's part.
Here's a tip. When you express your concern say things like; "I'm really concerned about you and maybe it would be a good thing to go and see someone." or "I feel worried when you... (fill in the space) so I was hoping that we might be able to go talk to someone about it."
These are called "I" statements. You speak about your feelings and don't push your agenda on them. If you take their power away from them they will only try to get it back. Then you'll find yourself in a power struggle and the point of the conversation will be lost in the fight.
2006-12-28 02:48:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you love her and want her to live a full, happy life. Tell her you simply want the best for her and her psychological problems are preventing her from living a full, normal life and it's breaking your heart. Tell her if she cares about those who love her like her family and friends she will seek help so her family and friends don't have to see her suffer anymore.
2006-12-28 08:57:38 · answer #4 · answered by Citygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's best to be straight forward. Let her know why you think she needs help and what the help could do for her. Assure her that you aren't saying it to be mean or as punishment. Be loving but assertive. You really need to give examples of why and what the outcome could be if she received help. Have names and phone numbers ready in case she is receptive to the idea. Good luck.
2006-12-28 02:23:33 · answer #5 · answered by mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As lovingly as you can, get her to discuss her situation and and point out that "if she would like to get better" there is someone who can help. Try to let the decision and choice be hers, make her think it was her idea. Not knowing the nature of her disorder of course it is difficult to be anything but general, so in general, people with any sort of mental issue all have a fear of not being in control, that's why it is important to at least let her think she is doing something to help herself.
2006-12-28 02:27:25 · answer #6 · answered by newph1956 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are her mother, and her behavior is bad and/or she is taking advantage of you or causing you stress and pain, tell her that you would be more than willing to take her to a psychiatric appointment if she wants help. If she refuses, then you may need to tell her you love her but until she gets help then you have to let her go. I know it's hard but it does work. If she doesn't want help, there is nothing you can do.
2006-12-28 02:22:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Say, "I'm worried about you and want to take you to get some help. I don't like to see you suffering like this when you don't need to."
You don't have to go into the office if she/he doesn't want you to. You could let the doc. know ahead of time what your concerns are.
2006-12-28 02:47:10 · answer #8 · answered by Claire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't say it directly, just talk to her. Maybe all she needs is YOU to talk to her. Of course, if she is anything like my grandmother, then you better get psychiatrist or something because maybe her problems are deeper than you imagine. Try and be supportive because I know what you have to deal with.
-Kiarra S.
2006-12-28 02:23:45 · answer #9 · answered by Walking Contradiction 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just lightly suggest it to him or her, don't be too demanding. Say that many many people get pys. help, which is true. Tell him/her that he/she can just try it once, and quit if they want to. Chances are, they will like having someone to talk to.
2006-12-28 02:21:27 · answer #10 · answered by iknow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him or her that you are going and would like him or her to go with you for support....
2006-12-28 02:44:26 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋