can i make up my broken relation?

Question

my marriage was broken before one month of marriage date.
it was an intercaste marriage and the boy 's family demanded for car and cash. though it was alovemarriage but the guy didnt support that time now he wanna patch up and says wanna make up wat shld i do???my family now is totally against this relation now ,suggest the way as i cant decide the rght way .....

Answer 1

I think you should take the lesson from whatever happened and marry someone who deserves you better. This boy ditched you at the crucial time because perhaps he was trying to see whether you will give in to the situation and your family may give the money or just because he was spineless enough not to be able to oppose his family, when it was most needed. Your family has been extremely supportive and its quite evident that wahtever happened must have hurt them hard and they must be wondering what kind of future you will have with such a boy. Let him be. He made his choice when he had the chance. Don't give in to emotional blackmailing now and get a better suitor.

Answer 2

First of all you need to be sure whether he is really in Love with you or not?
Did he support his family's decision in the previous episode for dowry?
If yes he is worthless.
Will he agree to marry in a court and you will go with minimum belongings?
May be he and his family are creating a trap to syphon out the money (Car and cash) from your family at a later stage?
There are many cases of violence due to dowry demand after happy marriages. I am not here to scare you but if your family is rich enough to fulfill his demand he will not hesitate to do so at the later stage in life and your life will become hell.
As I am sure he must be a candidate of dowry for his family and they must be having enough hopes and dreams on his marriage and dowry he will get.
Please note this is a very tricky situation. You can be in a fix if you make a wrong move, your family will not ever give you a support even if your to be in-laws do not ask for any dowry. And if they ask later you will have nothing to say. They won't even give you gift and blessings. So you are going to marry someone in plain clothes. Is he and his family going to accept you in that condition?
Please think twice before you make a move for free email counselling contact [e-mail].

Answer 3

If the boy you love really wants to marry you and does not demand money, cars etc just wants you and you alone, then Marry him One can not take money with them when they die but they can take pure love that they have shared, this is priceless. If you have to go against others, then do so, after all, it is your life you are leading and no one can do that for you, they had the chance to live their lives the way they wanted, now, you must do the same

Answer 4

do u love that buddy truly, n think that he loves u too. Try to find out first that if his part is truthfull or not. because after marriage there wl be no option left. nither ur family wl support u so it is better to think for the future than to patch up the broken relation, take ur time n then decide.

Answer 5

It can work, my fiance called off our wedding 12 weeks before a large wedding in may 2005 we are now happily married. if both families are aginst the wedding i suggest getting a few close frinds and going on a cruise, get married on the boat , check out www.carnival.com they have great delas and it would be exotic and romantic. let him pay though since he broke your heart the first time he called it off .

Answer 6

Your family cannot make this decision for you. You have to check your heart and your mind and focus in on what you want. In the end it will be you that has to deal with your relationship. Do you love him? Is he worth the energy that you will have to put into this relationship? Check within yourself for the answer. You already know.

Answer 7

the question is why didnt he stood up at that time . and as you said you want to patch up , now the question is why do you want to do this and if you do this then who will be responsible of the position if you are in a trouble tommorow .

Answer 8

yes of course u can make it work, but u need to be absolutely sure that he isnt going to pull it off this time too. let him pay for everything this time, coz he was the one who pulled it off last time & u dont want to take the risk. good lucs.

Answer 9

Just relax, give it some more time. Dont decide anything immediately. Time will tell you what to do.

Answer 10

if u cared about him then you should try to get him back or if he drop u for another girl dont get him back get someone that realys care about u and take all the stuff that u give him.