A friend of mine never knows when to leave no matter how many hints I drop! HELP!
2006-12-28 02:14:30 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
Love your questions..and thanks for picking me in one of your other ones...but to answer this question....umm... Tell them that you are going on a 3 day church retreat and they are welcome to tag along.
I think their immediate response will be to say " no thanks" and just leave
2006-12-28 02:17:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
All in all you cannot worry about offending someone who won't leave your house. If they have nothing better to do but hang around your place all day, I am sure that they don't mind being put out.
One thing that you should not do is encourage people to stay- i.e. never say things like, "Awww... leaving so soon?" or "Wow, your stay was pretty short last time".
Secondly, if you have a significant other, you can say something to the effect of, "Hey, my wife has been feeling bad all day and she really does not like company when she is feeling this way."
And to be more direct while remaining polite, you can always say, "Hey, buddy. Let's call it a day. I feel like being alone right now".
2006-12-28 03:35:49 · answer #2 · answered by Joe K 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend like this and I always just tell her when we make plans that I only have an hour or so to hang out and then I have other things to do. Hang out and then after and hour or so, get up and say, "Well, Lori, this was great but its time for me to actually get some stuff done. Can't wait to see you next time" and usher her to the door. If she asks what stuff, just tell her "I've got a household to run" or "Schoolwork, cleaning, laundry" or "errands". It isn't really any of her business what you have to do since it may just be sitting on your bum catching up on TV shows!
The key is to be polite but firm about it and don't let her veer you off course!
2006-12-28 04:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by Goose&Tonic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this person is a friend stop hinting and just tell them it is time to go. I know I would appriciate the honesty I'm sure they would too.Try something like "wow, look at the time I have a ton to do so I'll see you next Monday." Or how about " Hate to throw you out but it's time to go." A true friend will understand.
2006-12-28 02:25:00 · answer #4 · answered by SHERRI 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just simply get up as if you have errends to run, grab your keys, and tell your friend that you've got to take care of some business, errends , or whatever, ask him/her, if you can pick up where you left off, at a better time... Its just you simply have alot on your plate today, that needs taking care of..... Or, make some phone calls, and or have someone call you out of your place, to run errands, as a favor, and once he/she is gone, do whatever, you know.... There's ways of getting around friends like that, I used to tell my friends who stayed too long, I had to go to Mom's to help her with some things, and they'd understand and leave.... Good-Luck, and Hope you & your's have a Wonderful , Peaceful, & Prosperous New Year!!! Smile, you'll get the hang of it, soon enough!!! Even if you have to get honest, sometimes you just have to, with some people!!! Again, Good-Luck, to you!!!
2006-12-28 02:21:36 · answer #5 · answered by Hmg♥Brd 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop with the hints and be direct.
"Oh, look at the time. It sure was nice of you to come. I'll get your coat for you."
If that's too much for you, program your cell phone to ring at a certain time and step into the other room to answer it. Explain that something came up and you're so sorry but you'll have to cut the visit short. "So nice of you to come by though"
2006-12-28 02:31:34 · answer #6 · answered by smartygirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the subtle hints aren't working by themselves, you can use body language. Just stand up and move toward the door. Your friend will feel very uncomfortable sticking around.
If that doesn't work just make a joke like, "Well, I'm gonna kick you out now. It was great to see you."
2006-12-28 05:17:46 · answer #7 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, I have had this experience a lot of times. Before the person comes in, you set it up. You say "I have a conference call at 9:30" or, I can visit for an hour.... or if they don't leave, say "I have to go to bed now" or "I have things to do, sorry, see you tomorrow?"
One time I just looked at the clock and shouted out "OH MY GOSH IT"S 10 PM"
2006-12-28 02:29:23 · answer #8 · answered by Penelope Yelsopee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best one is, if you're having coffee or wine or any other drink or food items eg. biscuits. Totally emphasise on the words: "Would you like a LAST drink of coffee." They should then get the picture if not, just totally emphasise on the your tired concept, if that still doesn't work just say something like werent you busy today? Or show them to the door!
Hope this helps, usually I don't get past the first stage, they get the hint!
2006-12-28 02:17:36 · answer #9 · answered by sparklindiamondsatine 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You can just flat out tell a person to leave. I have many times, said I'm sorry I have to work tomorrow, or it is getting late. I have really enjoyed your company but I really need to be turning in for the night.
Be direct.
2006-12-28 02:21:02 · answer #10 · answered by smedrik 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I came to this quest. to read the answers. I have a friend like this and hints don't seem to work. She always stays too late. Try giving the silent treatment. Maybe it will work for you. It hasn't for me.
2006-12-28 03:41:00 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋