I've been in a relationship for 3 years. I care for him, im real comfortable with him, i can do and say anything to him. Some times i think we would be better off being friends. He says he loves me and i can sorta tell, cuz hes always callin me always checking up on me always making sure i have what i need, making sure i eat, and he even was thinking about what i would like and what would make me compfortable when he was buying his new car. The other day we were arguing and he said he wanted to break up and since i know how he feels about me i said "ye right u cant let go of me" and i was right we made up like 1 hr later MY QUESTION IS when i think about us breaking up a part of me is happy cuz then ill be single and ill be able to...live and learn, make my own deisions, and learn from my mistakes. BUT the other part of me starts to tear because im so used to him i cant imagine ho i would be without him and i know he would do anything for me and it will prolly take a while 4 anotherguy
2006-12-28 02:12:59 · 10 answers · asked by Lexis 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
" To be used to him " isn't a good point in a relationship. Love is.
2006-12-28 02:17:42 · answer #1 · answered by elgil 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
after a while there will be times when you start to think about the times when u were single and u wonder how it would be, but dont let those thoughts get in the way of what is really important. obviously this guy really loves u. all i can say is do whatever makes u happy. but if u decide to break up with him just to be single and "live and learn"...whatever that means...than he doesnt deserve a friend like you. from all the love that hes given u and all the work hes put in the past 3 years into the relationship to all of a sudden you not wanna be him, it would be pretty stupid to think that being friends would be right.
2006-12-28 10:24:49 · answer #2 · answered by ronny t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a big decision. Take a moment and ask yourself if your ready to just stay where you are for the future? Could you see yourself with this guy forever? Comfort is great, but what about your feelings? What about your gift of love? Things happen for a reason. Keep in mind though, he may not be up for just friends. There is a good chance that you may not be as close as you are now. But you need to think about you. Good luck!
2006-12-28 10:19:27 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i totally understand what your saying. my boyfriend isnt PERFECT but i am so comfortable with him. the thing is i too want to be single and live life without having to worry about whether your decisions are gonna effect someone else and you kinda have to tip toe around? its pretty difficult cause you dont want to lose that comfort but when you think of it you shouldnt really just be with someone cause your comfortable. you should be with them because thats exactly what you want to do. when you start debating and thinking other wise maybe its time for you to go your seperate ways and if your meant to be you will be later when you've cleared your mind. if not then it was just something you had to do through. i hope the best of luck to you in whatever decision you make!
2006-12-28 10:20:21 · answer #4 · answered by TheLight 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look at it this way, you can break and take the chance of being single and having fun then i na few years when you are ready to settle down you might not find that right guy, why cant you have fun with your boyfriend? do things together oyu do not have to be with lots of men to enjoy life. have fun together. and tell him for now on noe threats of breaking up unless it is going to stick.
2006-12-28 10:19:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
About 2 - 3 yrs is all you should spend on a relationship
without a serious proposal of marriage...
2006-12-28 10:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend a couple of months single, and then how do u feel,. are u comfortable? it'll take time for u to determine the answer
2006-12-28 10:19:54 · answer #7 · answered by Vanessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just find a friend and allow him to show to you his gilfriend friends so that you too can select one and date with experence o.k
now find me a girl frien that i will date in my ife for real.
2006-12-28 10:29:52 · answer #8 · answered by danny-mills 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you love him you should stay together
2006-12-28 10:16:02 · answer #9 · answered by brians girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't take him for granted...
2006-12-28 10:17:47 · answer #10 · answered by Sweety 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋