how can i help my 25 year old daughter she lost her husband christmas eve and my daughter and her husband had a 7 year old and a 3 year old the kids dont understand where there daddy is my daughter dont no what to do the 7 year old knows her daddy dead but the 3 year old old thinks her daddy is still at her nannys a sleep could u let me no how to help them
2006-12-28 02:11:57 · 12 answers · asked by cathymp44 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
http://parentcenter.babycenter.com/refcap/preschooler/praising/64608.html?scid=ssp:site
This link has a great article about 2 year old's and how to explain death to them and how they may react.
I know you grandchild is 3, but you might find some helpful information here.
I am so terribly sorry for your loss. You are a strong person to be so compasionate and caring when you must feel sorrow as well.
God's speed to all of you.
2006-12-28 08:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by scorpio1913 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to live with your daughter for a little while. Explain to the children as best you can that daddy went to heaven and they wont see him for a very long time. tell them that daddy is an angel now and he is protecting them. Help your daughter with everyday chores, help take care of the kids, and just be their for her. This is a tough time and she needs support. there is nothing you can do that will instantly make her happy, but just helping her will be enough. Also, make sure she doesnt mope around while the world passes her by, help her to stay active, make her get some exercise (i.e. going for daily walks) because exercise is proven to help depression. Also, rent funny movies, and find anything to make her laugh. remind her that her husband wants her to enjoy life even after he died.
2006-12-28 02:18:06 · answer #2 · answered by sj 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are able to, I would move in w/her, and help her as much as you could. Being single w/2 small kids and losing her husband Christmas Eve, she must be lost right now. My heart goes out to you, your daughter and your grandkids. Tell the kids that he went up to heaven. Only thing you really can tell them. God made him an angel because he is so special...
2006-12-28 02:50:57 · answer #3 · answered by momof3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter and oldest gran daughter know your son-in-law is gone. Telling your three year old gran daughter is the problem here. Has the seven year old told anything to the younger child? You might start by speaking to the seven year old. It might give you ideas on what else to say. Also, do you and your youngsters believe in God? You could always say their dad is with God in a good place. I'm sorry for your loss.
2006-12-28 02:21:34 · answer #4 · answered by rubyred 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not helping those children by keeping their dad's death a secret. You are going to make them very angry and hurt when they find out the truth. Those kids have the right to say goodbye to their dad. I know your daughter is hurting and very depressed right now, but those kids are the most important thing for her to focus on right now. She needs to keep her mind busy right now until her mind is ready to reflect on this tragedy. You can help your daughter by being there for her and helping her deal with the children. This is never going to be easy for your daughter to get over. Family and friends are very important for her right now and don't let her be alone for longer than a day for the next 6 months. I know that sounds wierd, but believe me she is going to hit a deep depression before she snaps out of it. Good luck and GOD bless.
2006-12-28 02:19:08 · answer #5 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be truthful with them. This way they will learn to trust you.
It typical take one year for adults to go thru the greiving process. Make sure that you ask lots of questions when with the kids. They have a harder time processing a death in the family. Sometimes that act out in anger other times they are silent with some depression.
2006-12-28 06:09:48 · answer #6 · answered by 2 know Him & 2 Make Him known 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before everything I dont think of ur daughter realizes the end results of being with a 25 3 hundred and sixty 5 days old guy whilst she is 17. He ought to get in vast hardship for even being accused of doing something with a minor. whilst she turns 18 then this is genuinely criminal yet for now in the criminal sence she could back off for now. If later on whilst she is eighteen and continues to have an interest then she will choose for him. As for u a father i be attentive to this is frightening to think of ur lady offspring is starting to be up and SO quickly. She is 17 and that i could think of by employing now u have taught her the fundamentals and he or she is conscious of actual from incorrect. She does ought to get out and learn the way existence is in the actual worldwide. confident she gets some bumps and bruses alongside the way and for a discern this concept is AHHHHHH. yet she does ought to learn and u ought to be there to no longer say i advised u.s. yet to assert u love her no count what and are there to be a help and a sholder to cry on. as we communicate u do ought to shrink what she does with this guy with the aid of fact this is unlawful if there is any sexual intercourse. this is hard yet in basic terms u be attentive to ur daughter and what style of lady she is. She continues to be ur lady offspring and continues to be considered a new child so i could set limits and permit freedoms to pass alongside with obedience. good success and GOD BLESS
2016-10-06 02:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, first, take deep breaths. In and out, in and out...
Second, be there for your daughter. What she needs most right now is support, as her mother, you're the one who can give her the most.
Third, make sure you're paying close attention to both your grandkids, not just the younger one, again, be there for them, help them through the tough time they're having.
For the three year old, well, I would say, talk to her, tell her what happened, it'll be easier for her to bear.
Give her lots of hugs, just talk to her about death and heavan, and God, and your belief.
I offer my condolences to you.
2006-12-28 02:19:57 · answer #8 · answered by ♥Nidhi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I am sorry to hear such a sad thing.. You need to explain that daddys in heaven up in the clouds looking down on her, tell her daddys spirit will always be with her and you, and that he watches from heaven everyday, and that he will always be with them in their hearts.. :) I hope this helps bless her heart. May GOD BLESS YOU BOTH>>
2006-12-28 02:15:43 · answer #9 · answered by Hi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry for your loss, I offer your family my condolences.
You have to explain to your grandkids that their daddy is in heaven right now; your daughter doesn't seem strong enough to do it right now. You can offer to bring your daughter to therapy or counseling.
2006-12-28 02:17:20 · answer #10 · answered by Dimples 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋