i ended my 6 year relationship with my fiance 9 months ago.i really like this guy who used to work with my ex. he wasnt friends with my ex but he knows all about our relationship.
i had bought a flat with my ex and since i ended it, the flat has been transferred into my sole name and my ex has moved away. he no longer works with this guy either.
would this guy who i fancy be put off by all this???he knows all of the above but he doesnt know why i ended it. he says he doesnt want to know either.
we have only kissed but sometimes he is really distant and ignores me for a while but then comes back as if nothing has happened. (cat and mouse situation).
is he playing it cool or is he playing games with me???
hes 29 and im 25.
he has his own place too.
he is single.
2006-12-28 02:08:34 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i didnt end my relationship cause of this guy!my ex was abusive. this guy doesnt know this tho. xxx
2006-12-28 02:09:24 · update #1
I think he just really doesn't want to hear about your past relationship.
2006-12-28 02:30:41 · answer #1 · answered by Rosie aka Rosie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's possible that he is not ready for a long-term relationship at this point in his life. Remember that guys tend to mature a little more slowly than women. Even at 29, he may be thinking he has a few more years of playing the field before he wants to settle down. Talk with him about the future and where he sees himself in a few years. It will tell you a lot about what he is thinking...
2006-12-28 10:12:02 · answer #2 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would suggest, that you two sat down and converse ;
Lay your cards on the table (explain, how you feel for him and what is worrying you).
Give him chance to say his bit.. Perhaps the 'Feelings' you have, are one sided?
It's best to be sure, that you are both feeling the same way.
But don't rush into a deep relationship, too quickly.. Perhaps the guy, thinks, that you might dump him, when you get bored?
Perhaps, it would be a good idea, to explain, the circumstances of your break up, with your last guy?
Maybe then, he might feel more secure, about showing more feelings? He could be scared of rejection?
Please talk to him on an equal level and Good Luck, for the future hunny...
Karen.
2006-12-28 10:17:36 · answer #3 · answered by Karennerak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He probably is not ready for things to evolve into a different stage. he probably is comfortable with just kissing at the moment. But, to really know, why don't you ask him, instead of second guessing him. He is not your ex. (PS: good on you for leaving your fiance! Too many women get stuck in a bad relationship!)
2006-12-28 10:21:03 · answer #4 · answered by Meela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really like this guy, ask him directly how he feel for you. If he couldn't give you an answer or uncertain about his feeling. I would suggest both of you to have a "quiet moment" for each other to think if you still wants the relationship to go on. Or else you will be wasting your time, there are still many good guy out there.
2006-12-28 10:17:45 · answer #5 · answered by whiteeagle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is definitely playing games with you, working his way up to a booty call. Next time he gets distant and ignores you, return the favor. If he calls, tell him you are busy, and will call him back. Wait a couple of days, then call him. Turn the tables on him; that way you can gauge his seriousness toward you.
2006-12-28 10:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by dkiller88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he is interrested in you or he would not be kissing you. Maybe he is worried that if he starts dating you the ex boyfriend will find out. I would not tell him why you broke it off with your ex unless he asks.
Since he is being hot and cold. I think you should flip the script..act like it doesn't bother you.. let him call you..and act happy well, do not just act happy be happy! It will all work out in due time.
2006-12-28 10:13:07 · answer #7 · answered by brit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes playing games! He wants to come and go as he pleases getting what he wants when he wants it and able to just walk away. Stay Single! Have fun for awhile. Hes not the only guy out there.
2006-12-28 10:12:36 · answer #8 · answered by *RoCKsTaR* mommy of 1!! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I may be wrong here, but it sounds like your new boyfriend has another girl. If you have commited to each other, that's taboo! If you have not commited to each other, just ride it out and see where it goes. Don't tie your life up in him. Enjoy who you are and what the future may bring. There are some good things ahead for you and they are not all in guys!
2006-12-28 10:14:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anna 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he is trying to play it safe. What if he does know about the abuse and is afraid to hurt you again. I think you need to play it cool to. Obviously, games are for children. You need to get back on your feet and be the strong women you know you are. I say try to avoid him, see what he does.
2006-12-28 10:14:05 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him a taste of his own medicine and ignore him for a bit and when he contacts you and asks why he hasn't heard from you say I thought you weren't interested.Then tell him to make his mind up or P*** off!
2006-12-28 10:13:32 · answer #11 · answered by MANC & PROUD 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋