My girlfriend's mother's friend's mother passed away earlier this week or last week.
I am not sure if I should go to the wake or not, but I think that since I never met this woman and there are 4 degrees of separation that I should not go.
Me - My girlfriend - Girlfriend's mother - Girlfriend's mother's friend - Girlfriend's mother's friend's mother passed away.
Doh...............please let me know what you think.
2006-12-28 02:03:44 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
The only degree of separation that matters is the one between you and your girlfriend: if she says she needs you, she needs you. Others will see that you're there for her without hesitation, which is in the very best taste.
2006-12-28 02:12:29 · answer #1 · answered by Colin T 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
You should not have to g unless your girlfriend needs you there for support. Also, how close of friends were they? This woman who dies could have been like "a second mother" to your girlfriend, which would put the degrees of separation down to 3. Ask your girlfriend this question. If she says you should go, you should go.
2006-12-28 10:08:40 · answer #2 · answered by mystery_me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This depends more on your GIRLFRIEND'S sense of closeness to this woman. If she felt she was close, then you should go to support her. If she didn't, or doesn't believe your presence is a good idea, then you can skip it and go bowling.
The other matter is: What will you have to give up? If the funeral occurs during work hours, then you have a legitimate excuse. On the other hand, if you were simply going to stay home and watch reruns of America's Funniest Home Videos, your excuse is pretty lame. AFV you can TIVO. Leaving work is a real sacrifice.
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2006-12-28 10:14:01 · answer #3 · answered by NHBaritone 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So she was your girlfriend's mother's friend's mother... Unless you knew the lady or you happen to be friends with the daughter of the deceased, forget it.. unless you like to dress up and get a free meal, and schmooze a little.
2006-12-28 10:09:44 · answer #4 · answered by Joe K 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a complicated one. A funeral is not a social occasion where your g/f should ask you to come for companionship. This is her relationship, and it's up to her to go and pay her respects. Sometimes it can be off-putting to the bereaved family to have strangers at a funeral, people they do not know and who did not know the deceased. I would not go if I were you.
2006-12-28 10:24:42 · answer #5 · answered by meatpiemum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Once I went to my uncle's cousin's girlfriend's mother's sister's best friend's brother's wake. I remember thinking to myself: "Doesn't he look great?"
2006-12-28 10:07:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't go to the wake, but if your girlfriend is really upset about it go to the funeral with her.
2006-12-28 12:23:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't ever go to wakes or funerals... I find them utterly stupid....
"WOW someone died, lets go look at the dead body and then go eat!"
No thanks... My mother-in-law recently died and I did not go... the family knows better than to question me on such a stupid event!
If you DON'T feel like going then certainly don't and you have no one to answer to.
2006-12-28 12:59:47 · answer #8 · answered by Kitty 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋