2006-12-28 01:53:53 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
I did not know her at all.
My girlfriend did not know her either.
My girlfriend's mother did know her pretty well.
2006-12-28 01:58:44 · update #1
If your girlfriend is obliged to go, then you go to keep her company, and give her an excuse to leave early. You would not be the first to attend a wake for someone you never knew in order to be supportive of someone who did know the deceased and wants to have his/her friends and relatives there for support.
2006-12-28 02:03:17 · answer #1 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wakes tend to be for family and close friends, not everyone in vicinity. But if your girlfiend or her mother are asking you rather empatically that you attend, then make an appearance They may need you there as much want you there, be the man, show up, if nothing else you score major points.
If the deceased is having a catholic wake, you need only show up briefly before the priest begins a very short service and stay til the others begin to filter out. Its not a big commitment of time and dressy casual can pass for a wake.
2006-12-28 10:09:32 · answer #2 · answered by monkey dance 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not there for the dead person, you are there to support the surviving friends and family. If your girlfriend's mother knew her well, then it would be a nice gesture for you two to at least make an appearance at the wake. Let your girlfriend's mom know how sorry you are for the loss of her friend.
2006-12-28 11:57:45 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say you should go if your gf is going. However, I don't really see the point of either of you going, unless your gf was close to her mother's friend's mother. It might be nice to stop in, but anything more is kind of an imposition.
I would suggest sending a nice plant, instead.
2006-12-28 10:00:05 · answer #4 · answered by Phoenix, Wise Guru 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends...did you know her? does your girlfriend want you to go? If you knew her well..yes. But if not no, send a card or flowers and that should be fine. Do you call her mother though.
2006-12-28 09:56:56 · answer #5 · answered by Willow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it was your gf's mother, it would be a definite yes. For the gf's mother's friend's wake, that would depend. Was the friend close to your gf? If the answer is yes, then you and your gf should go. If not, it depends on your gf. If your gf goes, you should go to support her.
2006-12-28 09:59:11 · answer #6 · answered by c.s. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's "necessary" per say but it would be a nice, supportive thing to do for your girlfriends mother.
2006-12-28 09:56:27 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. If you didn't know the person, why go? The only time I will go to the wake of someone I didn't know would be if they were closely related to a close friend of mine. Then, I would go to support my friend.
2006-12-28 10:38:16 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you HAVE to, but it would be a nice gesture towards your girlfriend's mother if you wanted to stop in, buy by no means should you feel obligated.
2006-12-28 10:02:42 · answer #9 · answered by Jcord29 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That depends - how well did you know her - if you knew her you should probably go - if you didn't I see no reason for you to - unless she was close to your girlfriend and your being there would make her feel better.
2006-12-28 09:56:57 · answer #10 · answered by bikerg 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋