Are we guilty of being Jealous of our Children?

Question

I am sorry. But, I felt compelled to ask this!
I read about so many people complaining about today's children not getting the discipline that they feel children need. Are we jealous because they now have more rights than we did back then?
Before, a parent could take the "easy-out" and smack their kid. (Really that's no work) Now, we actually have to take the time and "teach" our kids. Yes, it's harder. But please! When in history, has the easy-way, ever been the correct way?
I believe that we have back-talking, mouthy kids because honestly, look what we adults do. Are they not just guilty of coping us?

I have three children: 10, 12 and 14

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Answer 1

well this subject to close to my heart. Kids today are just plain spoiled. I hear so many parents say they want to give there children all the things they never had. They tell their children that too, " I want to give you what I did not have." Saying this and doing this creates an impression that they are owed something. Therefor the children of today feel they are owed everything in life. They are NOT taught that you must work for the things you need or think you need. Therefor there is no disaplin. I come from the old school, spare the rod spoil the child. This is what is wrong with our society today. They get what we did not get cause for some dumb reason we feel as if we owe them that then they feel the same. We as parents owe our children Love, not mesured in material things. We need to be there when they come home from school, rather than they come home to an empty house or apartment, or a stranger who babysits them. We need to sit down at a dinner table and have conversation. Not go to our perspective corners, like prize fighters. We need to teach them responcibility. Go out to work and earn that car, don't just buy it for them. Yes you can help them lets say they are working and maybe one month they don't have enough for lets say the car insurance, then yes help them out with the differance of what they have saved, and you make up the differance, but good God don't pay the whole thing. All this makes them more responcible adults. When you work for something and attain it , it has more meaning, then just having it handed to you on a silver platter.

Earlier here I said spare the Rod spoil the child. This BS of time out is the most stupid thing I have heard of. The child does something that deserves a spanking then a spanking they get. This is not to be confused with child beating. I am in no way in favor of that. My golden rule is simple. You talk back to me, or curse me, you will get a smake in the face. You lie to me I will not trust you. I have always said to my children if you did something
wrong be truthful and own up to it. If you lie your punishment will be much harsher, and my respect for you will be tarnished. I will always doubt what you say to me. The fact that you told me the trueth will way heavely on the punishment you recieve. Not to say if you told me the truth you won't be punished cause that is part of life, but my respect for your honesty will in the end also help in you own self esteam, therefore creating for you a good measure of self worth and create for you your own self respect. If you respect yourself, others will too.

Well thats it.

Answer 2

This is a very strange question. I don't think they have more "rights', I think parents are AFRAID to discipline their kids for fear of DHS being called upon them. I think there is a lack of discipline among today's children. I believe that spanking, not smacking, is okay and appropriate in some cases. I think using a combination of time-out, grounding, and spanking is appropriate for raising my child properly. The key is using the correct technique at the correct time and actually teaching the child why he/she received the punishment and why his/her action was wrong. Any form of discipline is not the "easy-out". Disciplining your child in any form is hard if you love them as a parent should. Each parent should discipline his/her child in the way they see fit, excluding abuse of course. No person is perfect, including parents, and we will ALL make many mistakes over the years of raising our children to be responsible, respectable adults. Let us all try to be supportive of one another and not judge... And I think you mean "copying" us, not "coping" us...

Answer 3

I am not jealous...

I think more people are taking the easy route now and will pay for it later - I work in retail and see kids throwing hissy fits and their parents often give in to avoid a confrontation.. this is not good
I see kids raised with TVs in their cars and being entertained 24/7 - this is not good and these kids will grow up never learning how to deal with boredom..

beleive me I dont ever see anyone smack their kids now.. I see them completely avoiding doing anything

encouraging their daughters to be "Princess's" is DISGUSTING!!!

Answer 4

The difference between "now" and "then," is that "then," parents weren't threatened with CPS, or DHR, or whatever your state calls them. Prayer was in schools, Dad and Mom stayed married, went to church every time the doors were open, and basically lived their lives right.

You obviously don't have children if you think that smacking a child is an "easy-out." When I have to spank my daughter, which is rare, I cry more than she does. Lecture us when you're a parent and a spanking is the only thing that works!

Answer 5

i also agree that hitting is never the answer and that we should take the time to teach our children right from wrong. thats how my mother did it will her six children and thats how im doing it with mine. i do what i know works. other mothers are trying things that won't work but they will learn. no one knows just what to do its not like children come with a to do list. i feel as long as you teach your children and love your children they will make a good life for themselves. give them what they need to suceed. im not jealous of my children i am proud of who they are. best of luck to you.

Answer 6

And you believe that spanking will get them to stop? Boy you are naive!