so im dating this guy whos a sophmore and im a freshman. and we get along really really well. but im losing almost all my friends because they think im hanging with him way to much. and some of his friends dont like me that much. and i dont know what to do. is losing your grades, familys trust, and friends worth a boy who you love and dont want to live without?
2006-12-28 01:29:32 · 19 answers · asked by Jen 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no...no guy is worth all that...he could be gone tomorrow and then where will you be....get smart....good luck
2006-12-28 01:31:42 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, there's a lot of stuff here. First, why should having a boyfriend effect your grades? Second, I'm going to assume that you mean freshman and sophmore in high school, because this situation wouldn't happen in college. Being a freshman in high school makes you like, 15? You better not be saying you 'can't live without' a guy at that young an age. And I'm not a fuddy duddy telling you this either, I'm only 22.
It seems like everyone in this situation needs to lighten up: you, your friends, your family (I don't know why you'd loose their trust?).
Your friends should be happy for you, but they're probably jealous. And that's just a sad truth. You're in high school and everything seems ten times as important and dramatic than it would normally be. Of course I know that seems ridiculous and dumb to you now. Just try to relax and calm everyone down. You can balance everything if you try, I promise. Don't be so nihilistic.
Good luck :)
2006-12-28 09:37:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you really need to do is try and put a balance in the mix. Your friends were there way before the guy as well your family. Your grades are totally more important because they represent your future. This guy is so not the future, there will be more. Your only a freshmen. So, what you need to do is step back and say "honey, love ya, but i did have a life before you and these are the changes i am going to make"! Thats when you realize how much he cares about you. If he does, he supports all the things that are important to you.
2006-12-28 09:36:38 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is affecting your grades, family's trust, and your friends...then I would say it isn't worth it. Especially since your family and friends care about you most. That is one thing I have learned the hard way, that if they are concerned...it's usually for a pretty darn good reason that usually isn't obvious to you. Work on school, it is very important right now. Maybe just be friends with this guy, but don't hang out with him all of the time over your friends and family. Good luck to you!
2006-12-28 09:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by ANGEL 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, Jen, you sound like a person that I can really help out. I'm a sophomore guy and my g/f is a freshman too. I'm losing some of my "friends" too, but the fact of the matter is, don't get too worried about it. People in general come and go, so if they are really your friends, then they'll accept it. But you need to remember not to spend too much time with him and balance your time with everyone and not with one specific person. If he loves you, then he'll understand. In fact, I wish I had a little more time with my g/f, but she's havin' some problems of her own. E-mail me and we'll be able to talk this out more. I think I can help, ok?
2006-12-28 09:38:54 · answer #5 · answered by phantomerikj09 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way...Guys do come and go your family and friends will ALWAYS be there for you. You are a freshman this is probably all new to you and seems great. I mean you can balance a lil' of everything,but to let yourself get so consumed in him that everything else is falling apart..especially grades is NOT good at all!!! Talk to him and he should understand that you have to have time for school and family definitley then him and your friends also.
2006-12-28 09:34:55 · answer #6 · answered by ccrazeegyrl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its certainly not worth losing friends over, after all friends last forever and relationships hardly ever do. In the beginning your friends will say you are seeing him too much and that has happened to me, if you really think there is a future then hang with it, otherwise divide your time out and spend more time with friends.
2006-12-28 09:33:53 · answer #7 · answered by frigatewren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When your grades start going down, that's when you have a problem. You friends being angry with you, not a problem. If they are really your friends, they'll come around. Do any of these friends have a boyfriend? You are still in high school, your goal is to keep your grades up and not be stupid behind a boy.
2006-12-28 09:33:04 · answer #8 · answered by Smittie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your family should never be lost due to a guy. If your grades are also not so good you might be spending to much time with him. Remember your friends while always be there( or they should at least) while he might not be. Sorry to say but you are young you might think you can't live without him and love him but there might be someone better for you. I know there was for me. Just to fill you in my boyfriend who i lost my friends to ended up beating me. So just be careful! =)
2006-12-28 09:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by teacuptiff86042002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boys come and go, but friends last forever. School work is important, as is your family's trust. You need to decide what is more important, becides, your grades will follow you to college, and your family will always be there for you, but this boy might not.
2006-12-28 09:32:39 · answer #10 · answered by Lady K 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have always been told by my family that boyfriends come and go but good friends are hard to find. You need to find a happy balance and share your time with your boyfriend, friends and family but also keep some time for you
2006-12-28 09:31:48 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋