I have only been dating my boyfriend for 2 months is it okay to withold my finacial status from him. I'm quite wealthy due to working hard from the beginning and then inheritence from my parents passing. I don' t want to him to know (just yet), as it may change the relationship, he could then just be in it for the money. He also is a guy that might feel threatened by a higher earning women.
Is it wrong to withold certain information in a relationship for reason? or is it not like that these days and it there is no such thing as finacial sectioning in relationships.
2006-12-28 01:22:50 · 19 answers · asked by Jaidyn_mommy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not wrong to do so. It may help you learn if they really care for you or your money. As long you don't hide it forever, I don't see the problem.
2006-12-28 01:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would think he can guess what kind of bracket you are in by your lifestyle, job you hold, clothes you wear, etc. He may not know exactly your net worth. I definitely would not let him be privy to the amt. in your bank acct. You are right to be wary. There are male gold diggers too. I think it is a good idea even if you eventually marry to maintain seperate accounts and maybe a joint one too. If you are very well off you may even want a pre-nup agreement. Lot of states when you marry everything becomes community property which means it is split 50/50 in divorce no matter if you are a millionaire and he has the clothes on his back. he should not feel threatened by higher earning woman if he is secure in his manhood, but you never know. If he keeps trying to find out, he may be looking for security. If he doesn't mention it except maybe in passing every ONCE IN A WHILE, I would be less concerned of him being a golddigger.
2006-12-28 01:30:35 · answer #2 · answered by Deb 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
by all means, don't tell him until he fully commits and then be sure to have him sign a prenup before the wedding (just in case).
think of a prenup as insurance. you don't buy fire insurance for your house because you think it will last forever you buy it in case there is an accident and the place burns down. A prenup is the same thing. you don't write it or sign it because you know the marrage will fail you write it just in case something happens and it does fail.
I had nothing when I married. but I always made more and put in more hours. Now we live in a community property state so all the money I inherited is a 50/50 split if we divorce. it isn't a ton but 75,000 is still a lot of money to share.
good luck and remember to keep your mouth shut.
if you need to explain a few hundred dollars you sudenly have just tell him that you saved it up for a rainy day (like today).
make sure you keep all bank statements put away and locked up.
2006-12-28 01:33:35 · answer #3 · answered by oldsoftee2001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it is ok to withold information. Just like you don't sit a brand new boyfriend down with your medical file listing all the ailments you had since you were born!
What you are doing is the right thing. Money changes peoples characters and you need to make sure what the guy without the pennies is like. To make sure you like him.
Note: you will need to see what the guy is like with the pennies too though cause when you two get hitched you will want to like the rich version of him too! *laughs*
2006-12-28 01:26:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be honest with your boyfriend about your financial status. I don't think that finding out you are wealthy will change his feelings for you. If he starts acting differently towards you then you know that he is only in it for the money and you can get out of the relationship. Good Luck!
2006-12-28 01:29:39 · answer #5 · answered by Michelle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me my bank account is your own personal info, which no one needs to know about. I find it very rude and common if someone wants to know how much money one has. If you really love each other it should not matter how much money you have or what you have. It is how you feel about the person in your life. No don't say a thing keep it light go out to normal places and keep your spending to a minimal. No one needs to know anything about your personal wealth.
Good Luck George
2006-12-28 01:38:24 · answer #6 · answered by george 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think 2 mos. is long enough to reveal that type of information. And if you know he's that kind of guy why get involved in the first place. Finances are important, but b/c your not broke it is important you keep that private till you feel comfortable sharing it. But 2 mos. is WAY to early to tell someone your rich.
2006-12-28 01:28:06 · answer #7 · answered by Capricorn82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have only been together 2 months so it is ok. However there is a fine line about keeping secrets. If he asks you then you should tell him cos lying would be bad but if the conversation doesn't come up then there is no need to tell him just yet.
2006-12-28 01:25:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with making sure he's not in the for the money., but you should tell him when you're more sure of the relationship. As far as him being threatened, maybe it will show what kind of person he really is.
2006-12-28 01:51:04 · answer #9 · answered by John O 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not telling him is perfectly fine, especially only after 2months. I think that once you figure out if it is going to be a serious relationship and get to know the guy a lot better then you slowly easy into that.
2006-12-28 01:27:30 · answer #10 · answered by Dizzy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋