my 3 yr old child keep on saying that she is being hit by her preschool teacher,but her teacher keep on denying about it.My child is the youngest in her class and very playful.But i cant let her be punished even she did something wrong..she is only 3 yr old!
2006-12-28 01:11:47 · 10 answers · asked by amygdala 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I teach preschool and I do know that there are BAD teachers in the world; however, there are many good ones as well.
I think that you need to evaluate the situation - you still feel safe enough to send your daughter to school even though she told she was being hit. You felt satisfied with your teachers answer that she wasn't hitting her.
Does your child like going to school? Does your child come home with marks on her body? Does yout child hug and get excited to see her teacher?
Talk wth the director and see if other complaints have been made on this teacher. See what her reaction is. Stop by unexpectedly to visit the classroom. Ask to have her switch classrooms if you are uncomfortable.
If your child loves going to school then chances are she is fine at preschool. She probably has a behavioral problem at school and is just being disciplined like the other child would be if they did the same things. At 3 she is expected to behave and follow directions. She is no longer a toddler.
And, at home does she have any rules to follow? Is she ever disciplined? What happends when she is? Does she say things like "oww! you hurt me!" or "Don't hit me!" even when you are just trying to pick her up and remove her from the situation?
Good luck with everything. SD
2006-12-28 01:29:18 · answer #1 · answered by SD 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok, I agree that a teacher hitting a child is not right. But not punishing her is crazy. She's old enough to understand the word no! Anyways, ask other teachers/helpers in the room. Check for marks on her body. Possibly talk to other parents and see if they've been told anything by their kids. Until you find any evidence, its all hearsay. I know its a hard place to be as a parent, but overreacting could cause problems, especially if want to keep her in that preschool. After talking to other parents, another thing to do would be asking the teacher's boss if anything else like this has ever been said about her. If she's been a teacher for several years, her past actions would be a good indicator of future issues.
2006-12-28 09:19:03 · answer #2 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, I know of at least one situation where a child said something that was incorrect, and the child was taken away from the parent. The child was also very young and probably could not seperate fact from fiction. In this particular child's house, it was a treat for the adults to watch "The Three Stooges". The child reported to somebody that the mother or step father (don't remember which now) had hit the child with a hammer. This, of course, is a frequent scene occurrance in "The Three Stooges", and neither had ever done anything to the child. In fact, the mother had been in a previously abusive relationship of her own which is how the child was fathered.
Anyway, eventually, everything did get sorted out, but I worry about the psychological effects on the child of DSS (Division of Social Services) getting involved in this situation in the way they did because they took the child away from the only home this child knew, and who knows what they may have said to this child about this child's parents. Brainwashing can be extremely effective on a child of that age, and surely, there may be some very long-term effects of this situation. :-(
Having said all of that, I would still definitely investigate the claim of your child, but do be aware that sometimes what a child says they see and what they really see are different things completely.
I hope this has been of some assistance, and I wish you the best of luck.
2006-12-28 09:57:23 · answer #3 · answered by G A 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe in your child when it comes to these serious matters. But if the teacher denies it then simply put her in another preschool.
I had a nanny that would pinch me "down there" when i was being a hard head and when i told my mother this (jokingly) she yelled at her and fired her. Now that I think about it I'm glad that she stood up for me like that, no one but you and your husband should be messing with your kid, not even if its just a small pinch or whatever.
2006-12-28 09:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by 123 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to other parents about what your daughter is telling you. Are other children telling their parents the same things or are any of them seeing this happening to your child. Do some investigating on your part it is your right as a parent to find out what is really going on at this daycare. How is she at home distraught, sad, different in anyway from before she started going to this daycare? Does she instantly freak out when she sees this caregiver and beg for you to take her with you? These could all be signs of an abuse going on. If you do find out that she is being abused by this woman have her arrested and her license pulled right away your daughter deserves the same care you give her at home. She is so above that kind of lowness.
2006-12-28 10:38:19 · answer #5 · answered by amanda b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
School for a 3 years old is supposed to be fun. She should be coming home telling you how much fun she had with the other kids etc, not that shes been hit! Kids don't lie when it comes to stuff like that. Just tell your daughter that if this is true than she will need to go to a different school, see how your daughter reacts to that, then switch schools. It will only get worse over time, and its better to be safe than sorry!
2006-12-28 09:24:06 · answer #6 · answered by BOOTS! 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is capitol punishment allowed where you live? If not, talk to the principal. I don't see a three year old lying about something like that. Trust your child. Adults lie.
2006-12-28 09:17:42 · answer #7 · answered by Wiccan~Momma 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would ask to be switched to a different class, even a slight chance thqat it might be happening would make me wonder. I figure better safe than sorry, and any normal preschool teacher would understand if you wanted to switch classes if you were hearing those kinds of things.
2006-12-28 09:14:33 · answer #8 · answered by Melissa 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to go and sit in during her class. I can't understand why you would continue to send her back to the same place she is complaining about without checking out her allegations. I hope they have parenting classes where you are. You may want to invest in one of those. Thank you.
2006-12-28 09:16:10 · answer #9 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Take your daughters word for it and remove her from that class. Don't take any chances!
2006-12-28 10:53:36 · answer #10 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋