you knew that she ended her 6 year relationship with her fiance 8 months ago, and she had bought her own place with him?
would you keep your distance?
what would you think?
you dont know the reason why she ended it.
im a girl asking!!!lol x
2006-12-28 01:10:31 · 31 answers · asked by hunni!!! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course not! Blimey people have to have a life you know!
2006-12-28 01:12:21 · answer #1 · answered by AlexChappel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of that would depend on what i wanted from the relationship. If i didnt want anything too serious, just some company for nights out at the weekend and maybe an odd holiday here in there but not full time committment then the issue of the property wouldn't come into it.
Long term? I would need to know the reasoning behind the split. I'm not saying this girl is a gold digger, but they do exist and in roughly the same quantity that guys who are only after the shag do.
2006-12-28 01:54:52 · answer #2 · answered by statusquo44 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dunno, 8 months it long enough distance before you get with somone but 6 years together, thats a long time, you might wonder if u matched up to their fiance if they were together that long. Plus you may think that if they lasted 6 yrs and then broke up then the same could happen to you, you probly wouldnt get with someone if you have doubts of how long it could last.
But at the end of the day life is too short to let things like that worry you. If i liked the girl i think i would go for it, just maybe be a bit cautious
2006-12-28 01:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ended a relationship with a guy 8 months ago and you are still living with him? You are both sending mixed messeges. One of you needs to leave. I get that you both own the place, but unless you have separate living quarters complete with separate bathrooms and separate entrances, then you are still in each others lives. Some guys will not care, but most guys will be put off by such an arrangement. I would wager that the type of guy with whom you would be looking to become involved would be second guessing any attempt to take a relationship with you seriously. Its not impossible, but unless he was really fixated on you, he would question your situation. A guy wants to meet you, not your ex and that's the position you're placing yourself in. He wants to call your house and get you, not the guy you used to love and who still lives with you. A lot of guys don't like the scrutiny of being observed by a girls past. The chance meeting of an ex while on a date is uncomfortable enough, but to see the ex on a constant basis is very stressful. Why it ended could be another issue and I would be surprised if he didn't want to know. In most cases, each person's past is no one's business, but in this case, an explanation would be highly recommended.
2006-12-28 01:20:25 · answer #4 · answered by Neptune 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, me and my previous partner came out of a long relationship about 9months ago. We still own a place together which we rent out but we have both moved on. Neither of our new partners see it as a problem and there really shouldn't be any issue. Unless you've been living in a cave everyone will have a history, and it gets more complicated as you get older, but that doesn't mean it should be a problem.
2006-12-28 01:30:19 · answer #5 · answered by Genetically Modified 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly
2006-12-28 01:57:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
6 year relationship? I would definitely have to know the reason why she ended it.
The following reasons would keep me around and interested, just cuz I would be sure that it would be hard for her to get back with him:
- "He slept with my sister"
- "He beat me"
- "He's in prison for life"
- "He is gay now"
Reason on which I would keep my distance, just cuz there is a chance that one or the other would run back for forgiveness
- "It just didn't work out"
- "We decided to remain as friends"
- "We had different interests"
- "He didn't want kids"
2006-12-28 01:23:09 · answer #7 · answered by gnomus12 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No problem, every couple make there own chemistry and no reason to think that a new relationship will end the same way.
2006-12-28 01:19:23 · answer #8 · answered by Daddybear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definitely keep my distance- unless of course I wanted to be a rebound. 6 years is a long time... is this girl ready to jump into something else?
2006-12-28 01:13:56 · answer #9 · answered by Jay G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It just means you had the nerve to do what you think was right. That sort of thing takes courage, a lot of people would have gone with the flow for fear of upsetting their fiance/family, etc.
If it was you, well done!
2006-12-28 01:14:09 · answer #10 · answered by Snowth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
great question- i'm in a similar situation and never bothered to think what other girls might think of my having been in an engagement. now that you mention it- i would keep a distance. but if i liked her a lot i would not run- i'd stay in the periphery until i felt it was time.
2006-12-28 01:16:44 · answer #11 · answered by erik 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋