he claims it was a one nite stand and there is nothing between them....however he is not going to neglect his child???????
2006-12-28 01:09:00 · 22 answers · asked by brownsugar_nil 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well he has put you in a bad spot. First and for most he cheated. You can deal with that before anything else. If you choose to leave him over it then that is the end, (I know easier said then done) but if you choose to stay with him you have to get past the fact that he cheated and let him take a part in this child's life. He is the one that screwed up not that child, he needs to be a man and take responsibility for it. If you can't stand the fact that this child will be a part of him, then you do need to leave.
2006-12-28 01:15:57 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow! First of all do not believe the "one night stand" excuse. I know someone this happened too. The guy tried to say it was a one night stand and even told the judge in family court the same story, as if that would mean he was less responsible. He was lying... but let's just say he wasn't lying... what does the sperm and egg know about length of dating??? What does the innocent baby have to do with it? The man must step up to the plate just as the woman does. It's easy for a man to walk away but think of the woman who has her body going through changes, who feels a bond toward the baby and who has a man going around saying "IT was just a one night stand." Sorry but the old boys will be boys attitude is despicable. I would make sure your boyfriend takes care of that baby and I would dump him for cheating one night stand or 2 night stand, whatever.
2006-12-28 09:14:13 · answer #2 · answered by Penelope Yelsopee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Theres is 2 solutions. 1) Take in his children and bring the child up, you can never know how the child might turn out to be. Forgive him and make him promise you he will never do it again, talk to the women, she probably does not want the child too, if things turn sour, leave the men, but you have known , you tried your best already.
2) Leave him, short and sweet, but im sure he will want you back, let him make a decision, don't force him, be happy with the outcome, please do realise that , you deserve the best, nothing less. If the outcome leaves you broken and shattered, pack up and go. God bless you , hope everything turns out well.
2006-12-28 09:22:29 · answer #3 · answered by jade s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in this same situation and I gotta tell you that there's nothing worse than baby mama drama. I tried so hard to work things out, but it took me a while to realize that the situation was unfair to me. He cheated on me and didn't care enough to protect himself! He put his life and my life in danger and he made a baby! He has to deal with the stress of the whole situation. I don't know how long you all have been together and I don't know how much you love him, but you need to know that love is not enough. He did not love you enough to be faithful and you need to take that into consideration when making your decision. I left and it turned out to be the best thing because he also had another child that I did not know about. Hope everything turns out better for you! Good luck and God bless.
2006-12-28 09:16:24 · answer #4 · answered by TRUST_ME 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As far as I am concerned, there are no degrees or measuring sticks in cheating.. Cheating is cheating.
I would not want a person in my life that I could not trust. What else are you going to find out? What diseases could he be passing onto you? Obviously he had unprotected sex.......
If this is a man who can't control his urges, what does that say about the future.
I think you deserve to have trust and respect in a relationship... He has stepped out on you... if you take this you will surely get more of it.... You teach him how he can treat you and what he can get away with.....Time for a change , find yourself a man not a dawg.....
2006-12-28 09:16:33 · answer #5 · answered by doclakewrite 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would feel very hurt. The question now is -What
Should I Do??? I would sit him down and hear how everything happened. If he is someone i have been suspecting that has been cheating on me, i would end the relationship. If he is someone i have always trusted, and was pushed into THE ACT, i would continue with the realationship on the conditon that he would have nothing to do with the woman he impregnated.
2006-12-28 09:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by Ella 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him go. He doesn't want to neglect the child, but that means neglecting you. You probably won't be happy with him always having to be around the other woman and his child. You would be much happier with someone who is faithful.
2006-12-28 09:32:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, when I found out my man cheated on me. I would have been gone. Been there and done that, no matter how much you love him. That is his responsibility to take care of his child. You should be somewhere else, letting someone else keep you warm. Find a new man and move on.
2006-12-28 09:10:56 · answer #8 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't think I could be with him anymore, but it's really up to you. I mean I'm glad he is taking responsibility to take care of his child. You have to know if it is really worth continuing on with your relationship. Slow things down, feed him with a long handle spoon. Sometimes when things like this happen it tests a relationship. If you do decide to stay with him let him know up front you will not tolerate or put up with him being unfaithful to you!
2006-12-28 09:15:33 · answer #9 · answered by Ronnie Jo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him, cheating is a deal breaker that sometimes can be repaired. However, a child. No deal, it is over. However, you must follow your heart. Can you deal with him having a child and a child's mother in your life. Good luck and God bless****
2006-12-28 09:11:56 · answer #10 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋