My boyfriend used to like going out a lot more. Now he is only interested in watching DVD's or cooking dinner at his place. It is nice to do those sort of things but we are in our early 20's and I feel like we should be enjoying the best years of our life. I have a passion for dancing and he refuses to take me dancing or dance with me at functions. Am I the problem? Could it be that he is no longer proud to be with me? He used to say he loved going out with me and "showing me off" - is it that he no longer feels that way? Please can I get a male perspective on this?!!!!
2006-12-28 01:06:04 · 18 answers · asked by littleladyj24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is both of you. After a year, you are not only dating, but have grown as a couple. Ask him to take you dancing a couple times a month, and you will do things with him. You can both try doing new things together. If your not looking for a long term relationship or marriage, then you need to break up and move on if all you want is "good times" and another party.
2006-12-28 01:12:37 · answer #1 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well for a person to give you sound advise on something like this ,,,, allot more information on this situation would be needed that would be too lengthly to cover in a post ,,,, One thing you might consider is that maybe he should think about seeing a doctor ,,,,, Early twenty's is too early in life really to become a couch potato so to speak ,,,, Maybe there's something chemically going on inside that's causing this adverse effect ,,,, Maybe his being inactive or lethargic is a for runner or a symptom of something more serious that may be developing that neither one of you know about ,,,, It's a pretty good assumption that if he no longer wants or has a desire to do the things he use to enjoy then there is something wrong or out of kilter ,,,, You might consider this avenue to explore ,,,,, Good luck ,,,,
2006-12-28 02:14:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither. He is probably so secure and comfortable in the relationship now that he just enjoys chillin at home with his girl. If this is really bothering you then maybe you should try talking to him calmly. Try to compromise. Maybe every other week have a night where you both go out to the club. It could even be once a month. Try to suggest having other couples go along. That way you and your friends can shake your booties and he can just chill back with the guys and enjoy the view! Good luck!
2006-12-28 01:12:27 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
A) Made love as in sex? Dude! you need to a minimum of wait like a three hundred and sixty 5 days. o.O that's probably element of why you experience that way. B) i have had this take position beforehand (I resorted to dishonest^^'). he will probably lose interest of you ultimately although and toss you. My ex did that. i'm nonetheless mad at him. a lot for romance, huh? C)you try to communicate. Ask him issues about himself i wager. try telling him the way you experience with out hurting his thoughts. it ought to or received't help... D)in case you experience the favor to toss him, do it in like January sometime after Christmas. That way he receives a probability to coach you if he's extremely extra exciting than he seems and also you may locate your thoughts renewed. yet usually it should not be as undesirable to split with the help of then. desire I helped^^'
2016-12-01 06:23:52 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are just moving into a new era of your relationship. Its easy for guys to get complacent when they get comfortable and happy in a relationship. He is happy because he has you, so he thinks there is no need to go out anymore. Simply explain to him that you enjoy going out with him. Tell him for as many nights that you stay at home on the couch, you would also like as many nights to go out to the bar or club. Tell him how you feel that you are both young and have your whole lives ahead of you. You have to live it up now. And trust me I'm sure he still loves you and is very proud of you. He has just got himself into a happy routine and doesn't want to break it!
2006-12-28 01:11:40 · answer #5 · answered by Suki 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
My girlfriend likes ballroom dancing. I just don' enjoy any sort of dancing. Still, I offered to take classes with her but she said no; she just didn't want me to be bored or feel uncomfortable. I think she still misses dancing but we were able to live with it.
He probably just doesn't like to dance. There are young people who just don't like discos and clubs and loud music. I am afraid you will have to decide if you can accept him as he is or look for someone else with similar interests. It all depends on how much you love him.
2006-12-28 01:30:12 · answer #6 · answered by solanacea 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You haven't gained weight or stopped getting all dressed up when you go out have you??? Us dudes are visually stimulated by looks. If your looks have changed a lot since you first met, maybe that is turing him off. Another thing could have to do with money. Maybe he is short on the bank account, but yet is afraid to ask you to help pay for anything. I hate letting girls pay for anything, but sometimes I can't always afford a night out, and a little help every now and then may make me appreciate the girl a little more.
2006-12-28 01:18:54 · answer #7 · answered by Matt L 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i doubt that he is tired of showing you off. Maybe he feels like there is more to yalls relationship than going out. Or maybe he likes the personal time with you better. Why dont you talk to him early in the week and say " hey, you wanna go out and do somthing this weekend, like get out of the house"! Maybe he has just become a party pooper and diserves to just sit at the house. Talk to him and find out what his deal is!
2006-12-28 01:11:26 · answer #8 · answered by smitty4626 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I could be wrong, but I think that your guy is just madly in love with you. I am also in my early 20's and married and I just love sitting at home and spending time with my hubby. I guess it's just that time spent between us is so special to me that I don't want to share it with anyone. I don't want to be interrupted by a waitress or waste our time in a movie theater with a bunch of young kids throwing popcorn everywhere. I don't think that's being selfish, but I also learned to compromise with my husband. He also felt like you feel so we sat and talked it out and now we're doing fine. You should enjoy the time that you have because not many boyfriends want to give their undivided attention to their girls! Good luck and God bless.
2006-12-28 01:11:19 · answer #9 · answered by TRUST_ME 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Maybe he's just got into a lazy rut and simply 'can't be bothered' with going out. If you feel you do need to get out more, you're going to have to talk it over or you'll just become resentful and the relationship will fail anyway.
2006-12-28 01:09:27 · answer #10 · answered by Ahwell 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋