Its been 6 months since we broke up and i lost our baby 3 months ago. I am still very much in love with him. I would like to go back to a normal lifestyle and meet someone new, but everytime i do so i feel like im cheating on him. Sometimes secretly i wear my ring again. We also happen to work together and i dont want to give up on my job. I think he might be seeing someone else, and the idea kills me. I know its over between us and we didnt break up in good terms. We do talk to each other but its only when he need a file or when i need it back.
As much as i love him, i want to forget him as it pains too much inside.Please help me.
2006-12-28 00:55:31 · 29 answers · asked by k 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it all takes time, it took me over a year just to start going out again with friends, it was horrible, but now i am back and i am a lot stronger than i was, now he wants to see me again and i have the strength to say no,now he`s hurting and i am having a great time
2006-12-28 01:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by MAD FEMALE 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's got to be tough. It is hard enough to get over a relationship when you don't see them. I couldn't imagine working with an ex so soon after a break-up. I guess that's why many people frown on work place relationships.
Anyway, is there any way you two can be friends? I'm friends with a lot of my ex's. You spent a lot of time with this person and went through a lot. But, the fact that you lost your child 3 months ago and that you guys broke up 6 months ago throws up some red flags on this guy. Did he leave you when he found out your were pregnant? If so he is not a good guy and you'd be better off without him in your life. It might even be worth changing jobs.
Your life will go on and you'll be on to bigger and better things. With many of my past relationships I couldn't imagine being with anyone else after them. But then I found someone I love more than anyone I've ever been with and couldn't imagine being without him. It won't happen overnight for you, but it will happen!
2006-12-28 01:02:23 · answer #2 · answered by that dead girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a new job, its only 6 months since the split but you only lost your baby 3 months ago... When my ex left after 4 years and worked together for the last 2 of these, she didnt come back to work and even though it was hard having to face the whole inquisition, it was easier in the long run... Its 2 years later and i still havent met anyone but then again im not looking, but then again, im not hurting anymore.... I found out a lot of things about the whole break-up afterwards that made me see that i was played, now ive learned to live for me and when the right lady comes along ill know.... Live your life for YOU and good luck.... x
2006-12-28 02:34:25 · answer #3 · answered by Gritty Shaker 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing that myself or anyone else can tell you to make the pain go away, I'm sorry!!
You two went through a lot, breaking up and loosing your baby and the only thing that will help you heal is time. I know at this stage you feel like you will never heal but trust me you will.
If it truly is over between you both you have to stop wearing the ring, and you are not cheating on him you are moving on with your life which by the sounds of it he has already done.
You really do have to pick yourself up and shake yourself off because no one else can do this for you, you have to find the courage to move on.
You will never forget him,or the baby you lost but you can move on and start living your life.
Good luck xxx
2006-12-28 01:13:29 · answer #4 · answered by anastacia500 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you've had a very tough time of it recently. No matter how hard we try and how badly things might have ended though, it is incredibly hard to forget our exes - its tough letting go of some one who you once shared your whole life with. However, as cliche as it sounds, time really is the best healer. You feelings for him in time will lessen. In the mean time though, you need to start living for your self again. Stop living in the past and thinking about your ex. You need to find ways to move on and get on with your life and start thinking about you again! There's a new year coming up which is a fantastic time to make a fresh start! Why don't you go out, buy yourself some gorgeous new clothes you wouldn't normally buy or get a new hair cut? Pamper yourself and make yourself feel special! Maybe you've been thinking about a change of jobs? Now the time to do it! How about starting a new hobby or a course? Join a gym or a club in your local area - meet new people! Spend lots of time with your family and friends and do things you enjoy! All these things will take your mind of your ex and help you move on with your life! I wish you lots of luck and a very happy new year!
2006-12-28 01:52:45 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you have to realize that you can't just jump back into the dating pool like he meant nothing to you. You need to start doing the things that define you again. Go out and have a drink with a friend. Go shopping with your mom or sister. Laugh till it hurts and cry when you need to. You need to start doing the things that make you whole again and not just a half missing the other pieces. I really feel for you and am sorry for your loss- but you ARE somebody. And when you're over him and least expect it, you'll meet a guy worthy enough of your time and love. Good luck!!
2006-12-28 00:59:30 · answer #6 · answered by kellilicious5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seeing him at work is not a good thing.It reminds you the old good days and the pain doesn't go away.If you really want to move on with your life and forget about him you should change your job and if it's possible move to another city away from him.Meeting new people and places is really good.You'll forget about him because of your new activities.You have got to convince yourself that he's past and the present will be as you want it.So,this is an idea of mine.I hope I helped!!
2006-12-28 01:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is over and now is the time for you. By all means, go out and enjoy yourself. It has to be really hard for you to see him everyday but you can be strong. If he is seeing someone else, then that should tell you something.(he is over you) There are so many other men out there, don't spend any more time dwelling on a past relationship. The love will always be there, in your heart. but it is time to move on. Show him how strong you are by living your life without him. I wish you luck and new found love.
2006-12-28 01:03:09 · answer #8 · answered by looloo1122 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guess at sometime or other most of us have been in similar situations,I feel for you `cos you lost a child you were hoping to love for ever,it`s an old adage but try or seek counselling & join a local group near your home who support & specialise in matters like yours when things don`t always go to plan.Good luck n may next year shine on you a little better.
2006-12-28 02:18:13 · answer #9 · answered by edison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should get over him because I suppose he's gotten over you. Don't waste your time over a jerk like him. Just move on, and maybe you will find someone who will mean more to you than this guy ever did. How will you know if there isn't someone out there for you if you don't look? Just remember that you're a great person inside and out and there might be others out there looking for someone like you. Just let this guy go and he'll know what he's missing.
Good luck!
2006-12-28 01:20:05 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i know how it feel but i think u r much worst that me i guess
i kinda forget about my ex now, i mean we have break up for already 3 or 4 months ago but my new boyfriend make me forget him. well, it is easiler to forget someone when u have open ur heart to someone new.
I have went to the same school as my ex but i have quit it. becuase i think the idea of seeing him meeting new girls is killing me too. but now i dont care about him anyway even though i lose my virgin to him.
good luck
only time will heal
open ur heart to someone new and better
2006-12-28 01:00:58 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋