About 3 months ago i moved out of a house i shared with my nephew and his mother. i moved into my own apartment. My brother joseph passed away on 6/15/2005 and he was also living with us. i stayed thinking i was helping to raise my 6yr old nephew who was 5 at the time his father died. Well his mother became verbally abusive and just plain out mean. my self esteem was so low that i stayed and about a month before i moved out she told me the only reason i was there was because of a promise she made to my brother. that hurt because i was paying half of 850.00 rent and paying for half the utilities i could not use the phone. if my family called she had something negative to say. but now that i am gone she is welcomed by my mother and family. i can not see my nephew because she does not like me. and even my 6 yr old nephew tells me my mommy say i can not see you anymore. it hurts alot because i did so much for her and now my family has turned against me for leaving. what do i do?
2006-12-28 00:50:57 · 6 answers · asked by muggy1970 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I dont know why parents use their kids as weapons to their anger. She should be a big enough person to allow her son to see you. BUT SHE ISNT I know it will be hard but try to make ammends with her so you can see him or volunteer at his school as a room parent in his class. I hope this helps.
2006-12-28 01:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow your in a tough situation.... here's what I think I'd do. I'd definantlly talk to my family first... to try and make them understand how I'm feeling and why I left. Then I'd go to the sister in law and well I'd tell her off.... Don't be to nice to her after all you've done. You should be firm, honest and truthful. Tell her she's acting ridiculous and that you really would like to soend time with your nephew. Maybe if you don't get along you could take him to the movies or the park to spend timewith him. That way you and her won't have to interact much.
If that dosent work you could always seek legal help.. like they do when couples get divorced and want to see thier kids.
Oh and one other thing... if this women is acting so crazy... your nephew's going to need you in his life as some support or someone to keep him on the right path..... don't let his mom's hate for you keep you out of his life. He'll need you to tell him about his dad... and tell him how much you miss him to. WHen he's ready to talk about it of course.
GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-12-28 09:06:09 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if the nephew is that important to you, swallow your pride. Ask for forgiveness of whatever mom thinks you did wrong and see if you can visit on a regular basis. Maybe even "babysit" so mom can have some much needed time out. It sounds like there is a lot of grief still present. I hope all goes well. The child is the one who is hurt most by all of this.
2006-12-28 08:56:08 · answer #3 · answered by gigglings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sucks, but you are probably going to have to act like you were the one who was wrong. You may have to apologize and then telll her that you want to be on good terms with her. Tell her how much you missed your nephew. If that doesn't work, then she is one stubborn girl!
2006-12-28 09:01:37 · answer #4 · answered by ReeberKaseyMarcus 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure why she won't let you see him, but don't think you have much of a choice unless your parents let you see him while he is at your moms. May be apologize for whatever went down and express to her that you genuinely love him and want to be there for him for the rest of his life...and that you are family, --Good luck!
2006-12-28 08:59:55 · answer #5 · answered by momof3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make up with his mom. Regardless of your feelings, the mother can determine who he is allowed to see.
2006-12-28 08:52:46 · answer #6 · answered by Blunt Honesty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋