I'm in my late-twenties. I've dated an average amount of guys before, but it's always been casual. I really don't let guys get very close to me. the new guy I've been seeing (we've been together about five months) was my first sexual experience.
I had experienced everything but the actual act itself. I am now thinking about telling him that he was my first, but I'm scared it will freak him out.
guys, how would you react?
2006-12-28 00:49:58 · 21 answers · asked by sassy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i would like it.
but that's just me....
2006-12-28 00:59:39 · answer #1 · answered by Dirty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he really need to know now?! Guys already have a man on the moon mentality. Guys think that when they are with a girl, that they are the 1st to do anything and that her past life was bland until they came along. Most guys, not all, but most think that a girl never had it so good until he came along. It's this confidence that gives them a swagger. If they had any idea that most girls have more experience than they have, then that confidence would be shattered. If most guys would bother to look over the hill, they would realize not only are they not the 1st man on the moon, but there are much bigger flags planted as well.
By the same token, the pressure of actually being the 1st man on the moon might rattle some guys. You are telling him that you're pregnant, but the idea that you'll fall in love with him, begin to stalk him.. might creep into his psyche. If you two get serious then you might want to inform him.
He should be honored that you waited and allowed him to be the guy. At this point, he's just happy to be there. How do you think he may react. he's waited 5 months, so he's seems like his into you. If you gave into him in less than a month, then I'd hold off on the virgin thing. How old is he? If he's late twenties or thirties, then it isn't as big of an issue and as a previous person noted, he probably knows or has a good idea. unless it was his 1st time too!?
2006-12-28 10:04:59 · answer #2 · answered by Neptune 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tuff question to answer. Becouse you really never know the other person or there true intentions. Its one thing I know about women and its that they are very patient. So if you really want and thin you should tell him, then give it more time. A long long time make sure you know him and will be with him for a while before you tell him. Good Luck.
2006-12-28 08:53:44 · answer #3 · answered by ojsaccomplice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no reason to tell him. He may interpret it the wrong way. More than likely, he knew when it was happening, but don't let that get in the way of your relationship. Work on the REST of the relationship and the intimate experiences will naturally follow.
When you've been married a couple years, THEN tell him! :)
2006-12-28 08:55:07 · answer #4 · answered by jeepguy_2x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1) I'd call you a liar
2) I'd think you were looking for a ring
Now if in the course of those five months I actually somehow came to have enuff faith in you to believe you I'd rob a bank today to put that ring on your finger.
You should consider the fact that 99% of women have been virgins 10 or 20 times in their lives by their own proclaimation
2006-12-28 08:52:35 · answer #5 · answered by Red Winged Bandit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i guess if i would have been there in place of that guy then ma reaction wud've been an entirely different scenario.
See if i get a gal who wants to sleep with me fine, but if she's not slept with anyone else before, then i guess, thats much much better.
So thats the way i think.
Fine
2006-12-28 09:11:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to know anything about my dates previous experience with guys. What she has done in the past before meeting me, is none of my business. I would not tell him If I was you.. But the again if you feel better telling him, it wouldnt be a problem.
2006-12-28 08:53:23 · answer #7 · answered by sevenexxx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would react to you by by going on top of you and kiss you until the night was over : its the way a guy says thank you : take it from a really really really cute sexy guy
2006-12-28 09:03:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares if it was ur first time as long as u both enjoyed it. i can't imagine why this woujld freak him out. it only gets better the more u do it. remember what they say, practice makes perfect!
2006-12-28 09:01:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
who cares if it was your first or your 1000 th, as long as you realize you should enjoy it and have a orgasm or several, take your time and explore your sexuality,,
he doesnt care if it was your first, he just doesnt want to know about it being your 100th,, ( not that it is ),,,
2006-12-28 08:52:47 · answer #10 · answered by rich2481 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with RickyT. And do not sweat it. His reaction is not going to break the way he feels about you.
2006-12-28 09:07:15 · answer #11 · answered by Biker 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋