my old mom passed away xmas day. now my sisters have taken control of her house and have made it obvious I am not wanted around. I drove many miles to help pack up moms things but they have wasted my time stating they want to absorb the atmosphere of her stuff etc in their own time. While being quite cuthroat and occasionally devious they now tell me they will have a carpet cleaner in tomorow probably unsupervised. My sister tells me she is my mothers executor but refuses to show me any proof. The will is with the public trustee but my concern is if my mothers wishes are not carried out and things go missing, is it my fault for not being firm, or can anyone be held responsible for missing items? Am I just paranoid?
2006-12-28 00:44:10 · 9 answers · asked by b-overit 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
The proof that your sister is the executor lies with the public trustee, it is stated in her will. Ask the trustee.
As to the other stuff, aren't you being just a bit overzealous in packing things up? Let your sister's grieve a bit okay?
2006-12-28 00:48:44 · answer #1 · answered by arewethereyet 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact an attorney quickly. Just because someone says they are the executor doesn't mean anything until they can prove it. I have been through this before with others. When someone dies, even family people get greedy. Go to the home and make a list of things that are are there because it is amazing the things that vanish come will reading time. Cover you *ss because they won't
2006-12-28 12:08:55 · answer #2 · answered by Julie Hartford 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't talk to your sister or the family, get some legal advice if you feel you really are concerned.
Remember though, different people deal with grief in different ways. Maybe you should first try talking to them, and explain to them how you feel, and that you feel left out. Tell them she was your Mom too, and you miss her just as much as they do, and would like to be involved in the decisions regarding her house etc. If this does not work, go the legal route.
2006-12-28 08:47:42 · answer #3 · answered by dragonfly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The executor of the will should be public knowledge, i think your sisters are being a bit OTT, i feel (i may be wrong) that they are trying to remove what they want before you get in.
Sorry but i have seen this before with my mothers sister when my Grandfather died, they never spoke to each other again.
2006-12-28 09:08:36 · answer #4 · answered by Bladerunner (Dave) 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one HAS to show you proof of executorship of your mother's estate. From the way you first began I see there was little or no respect from you for your mother. If her will designates certain items to any of her children then that will have to be adhered to, if one of the siblings has something that SHOULD by the will belong to someone else they must comply with the will or their sibling can sue them in a court of law. If there is no division of your mother's property stated in the will it is basically "every man for himself" and your siblings can take whatever they want. If you're not there when it happens too bad.
2006-12-28 08:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to the public trustee and ask for a copy of the will. See if you can find out what atty. wrote the will and go see him, if need be. If you cannot find out who wrote it, hire an atty. to help you. It may be worth your money as it sounds as though others are hiding something from you. Plz get some legal help and soon.
Sorry for your loss. I lost my mother in April.
2006-12-28 08:48:14 · answer #6 · answered by capnemo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh my gosh..... That's kindof sad what your sisters are doing, but anyway. She's your mom to,so you should have a say in waht they are doing. Go to town and ask to see the will, or at least the part about who her executor. YOur sisters are bieng cruel and disrespectful to your moms memory by excluding you. It's not like your mom hated you is it?? just kidding, bout that.
2006-12-28 08:50:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no whoever represent as you mothers executor will be held accountable to any lost or stolen property at you mothers house,and being part of the family you have the right to assert yourself even if your sisters dont want your presence there,
2006-12-28 08:48:54 · answer #8 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have these suspcious feelings, why don't you make your search and find out what your sister told you is true.
2006-12-28 08:56:50 · answer #9 · answered by maran 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋