that they have never had a fight and have tons of things in common. I found this kind of shockling but thought it was good, but my brother said tonight when I mentioned it that that is not good..that it is important to have fights (he just separated 2 weeks ago from a 17 year marriage and they fought all the time)..what do you think of over 3 years and never a fight and what my son said. He said they will marry eventually. (I don't care for her but figure my son must be happy, so what can I do but accept it)...but curious what you think about what my brother said to me tonight.
2006-12-28 00:37:57 · 9 answers · asked by janie 7 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I dont think that it is healthy to not fight for 3 years... Because its not real to go three years and not have a different point of view on SOMETHING!! But I dont think that not fighting should keep you from thinking that it is going to work out. They really could be that good together. They may have little arguments and disagreements and he might not tell you about them because they are little. But that is all my and my fiance have..... we never have BIG fights either!!! So maybe thats what he means but never fighting...
2006-12-28 00:47:42 · answer #1 · answered by smitty4626 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tend to agree with you brother. I knew man who was married for 10 years and said him and is wife never fought. They were divorced, he said that while they got along great there was no great passion. Love and hate is a fine line and with a great love that line sometimes that line gets very marred. Without the passion one may feel that there is something missing.
However perhaps your son defines fighting different then we do. Perhaps they do fight but that is not what he calls it. He might believe a fight is throwing furniture around while others define it as any out burst of anger and hurt feelings.
Time will tell.
2006-12-28 08:49:40 · answer #2 · answered by krissy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An occasional argument is okay. It is still a form of communication. I would imagine they have small arguments that he may not see as fighting. Or he just doesn't want you to know that they argue at all. And fighting a lot doesn't end a relationship either. I was in one where I did most of the arguing (he hardly ever said anything back) and then was in one where that is all we did. Hopefully I can find the balance between the two extremes.
2006-12-28 08:47:32 · answer #3 · answered by intewonfan 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fights aren't an important part of a relationship. That's not to say that you have to agree on everything. But you don't have to fight in order to work out your differences.
Sure sometime you're going to get on each other's nerves, and sometimes your going to disagree. Ina healthy relationship you can work these things out by talking rather than fighting.
2006-12-28 08:46:07 · answer #4 · answered by Paul 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no fights is good but never having a disagreement at all is just plain weird.. one of them is either catatonic or a real doormat. Even the best relationships have SOME disagreements simply because no two humans are alike.
2006-12-28 08:44:06 · answer #5 · answered by punkvixen 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe they have found ways to resolve disagreements without the negativity of a fight. Communication. Agreeing to disagree.... it happens.
2006-12-28 08:40:38 · answer #6 · answered by sweetest sweetness around 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it's good if there not fighting.
2006-12-28 08:40:39 · answer #7 · answered by shelley a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's old enough not to live with you he's old enough to make his own decisons. Quit playing mother hen and let him live his life, good or bad.
2006-12-28 08:44:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
its a trend nowadays so dont be surprise
2006-12-28 08:44:10 · answer #9 · answered by Lionel M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋