do you think beating up a child will change the childs behaviour?

Question

some parents beat up their children and keep on saying spare the rod and spoil the child and some kids dont change some hate their parents, and it is still happening

Answer 1

"Beating up" your children is wrong.

Occassionally a child needs a firm spank on the behind to get your point across but this should never happen to an older child.

If your only control is to hit (or yell at) your child, you are failing as a parent.

I was raised with spankings and as I got older I would rationalize my behavior with "is it worth being spanked? or not?" Most of the trouble I got into was worth the quick pain of the spanking. So spanking did not work at all for me.

And some kids that are NEVER hit hate their parents. Hitting your children is not the only bad parenting that people use to control children.

Answer 2

There is a thin line to be crossed with dicipline and abuse. Speaking from experince I was horribly abused as a child I was put in a freezer, I was almost drowned in a bathtub, I has broken bones all throughout my childhood from 5 years of age onto 16 it never stopped and it got worse and worse. As a child I never laughed or cried or got angry I just became emotionally detatched and I can only remember the bad and never the good I blocked out 5 years of my childhood completly and still to this day can't remember thoes forgotten years. As an adult ppl have told me I am cold and uncaring and that I make them feel unloved even if they mean the world to me. I don't know how to be a loving person. When I get angry I rage and break things but would never hurt anyone and when I see abusive parents on the street I freak out on them. I am a mother today and it is as though I don't know how to play with my kids or be a kid too I feel lost as a parent and like I failing my children. I am super affectionate with them and am always mulling them with hugs and kisses because I want them to feel as though they are safe and more than loved. So yes beating up your kids can completely change who they may become as adults.

Answer 3

Yes beating a child will change their behavior. It will make them more aggressive. A child who is abused has a greater chance of being an abusive parent. It is never ok to hit a child. It can also effect their social skills with other children.

Answer 4

There is a difference between "punishment" and "discipline". I personal beleave that spanking a child teaches them that is is ok to hit. So spankings should only be used in extream cases (Most child expercts say no more than 3 pops)


"Discipline is the process of teaching a child the difference between acceptable and unacceptable behavior. Good discipline should be a positive force focusing on what a child is allowed to do. The goal of discipline is to help a child change impulsive, random behavior into controlled, purposeful behavior, and discipline should be reinforced with teaching, firmness, and reminders.

Punishment is one technique of discipline. It may be physical–a spank or slap; or psychological–disapproval, isolation from others, or withdrawal of privileges. The goal of punishment is to inhibit unacceptable behavior. "

"Severe punishment used as the exclusive method of discipline on a regular basis can result in undesirable and even damaging consequences: A child may view punishment as an endorsement of aggression and force, and learn only that a large person has power over a smaller one"

You can also try looking up "Alternative punishment for kids" on the web see if it will help you out any.

Answer 5

Spanking or beating a child is simply child abuse no matter how you look at it, people are causing physical pain to a child and they think this is going to make their child behave better,they are wrong it makes a child agressive,resentful and makes them hit other children and even their own parents. Parents need to take time with their children and talk to them. Teaching them right from wrong should never cause physical pain.

Answer 6

the majority of killers were abused children. what you learn or are subjected to in younger life will have a profound effect on you for the rest of your life.

There is no doubt, bad parenthood exists and will always do. Likewise child abuse and worse. But its trying to stop it which is an impossibility. How do u know someone is capable of it until it happens and then is it too late and how do we know for sure that they are.

A gentle smack to distinguish between right and wrong is ok. I mean if you tell a child do not put your hand on the stove, they will. if u smack them if they go near it again, then they wont.

Its those that abuse there children who are the problem, but unfortunately its prob the result of them being abused as a child. Its a vicious circle and unfortunately we cant do much about it. We cant stop people having kids and were limited in power until they do ause.

Answer 7

It absolutley changes behavior- for the worse! It's abeen recorded that after spanking children actually get in trouble at school and day care centers more. I have two boys and don't spank but I also don't imtimidate or otherwise bully them. Talking seems to do the trick and gets them to think about things so they can make their owen better decisions than I could have ever offered.

Answer 8

All I can tell you is that it didn't work on me. My dad used to wear my a s s out with a belt for everything I did wrong. Sometimes the bruising lasted for days and I couldn't play soccer because of the pain.
It didn't work. Not even once. All I saw was violence, no teaching.

Answer 9

i come from singapore.in asia most parents beat their children if they do something wrong,and most claim that if they don't do so their children will be wild and disobedient.personally having grown up with a cane under my mum's bed ready to whack me any moment you could say that most children over here are so afraid of the cane that most decide to be good and listen.

Answer 10

I think anytime someone has to make a point by using physical force (including spanking) against someone who is smaller, weaker, and less knowledgeable, it's that person's behavior that needs to be addressed-by a mental health professional.

How can beating someone have a positive impact?

You simply can't use your hands on someone to correct behavior and hurt them, and then use your hands to show love. Doesn't work.