I need someone to hold me....?

Question

I have left a couple of messages on my boyfriends phone, when he goes away he doesn't usually take his mobile phone with him, so i don't expect a reply straight away but.....i've tried calling him as well and it said his phone is not connected so i just thought okay then his mobile is just turned off. Okay i tried calling him just now and it actually rang but no answer on the other end. does this mean that he's turned his mobile on, he saw that i'd sent a couple of messages but just didnt wanna reply or he didnt pick up because he's over me....or.....i dunno, i dont know whats going on, im kinda confused, maybe its just paranoya i dont know but i really miss him, i havent seen him for a couple of weeks due to complications in getting together on my end and his. what does this sound like to you? i really need someone to hold me, i feel like crap.....

Answer 1

for weeks?..must be really tough for you, eh?...
ur situation has a lotta possibilities, i guess.. here's wat i can think of:
1. He's really been busy n jus don't have the time to reply or pick up a call.. if u wanna check this, try callin his number using another phone, either public phone or his friend's..so that it doesn't show ur name.. if he ain't pickin up either, then it means he's busy like hell.. but if he picks up, maybe...
2. He wants to get away from u for a while.. tho 'weeks' might be too long.. usually guys need to pull away from a relationship in order to develop longing for that relationship..like a rubber band, he needs to pull himself away so that he'll be attracted to u again.. OR
3. He wants to run away from u..and the relationship altogether.. maybe he's bored or tired.. i dunno cuz i never had a girlfriend..

whatever it is, i bet it ain't easy to be alone n long for someone..i always wished i can hold someone, but i never had one..and that feels like crap..but i guess yours is tougher to face.. i wish i can hold n comfort u, girl..but i can't.. im sorry..
all i could do is write these words..n hope that u will feel better..even if only a little..

Answer 2

(((hugs...Laura)))

If you left a couple of messages within the last couple of days and no response. Then it sounds like he may be avoiding you.

Since you stated that there were complications getting together and that some of that came from your end and eventually then his end. He may have had his feelings hurt and in a childish manner this may be his way of coping. We can not categorize everyone the same, so not all men play these games.

Try calling a friend or family member, try as hard as you can not to think about calling or texting him. Go see a movie, go out to a park, do something to distract you for a day or two. If he is accustom to you trying to reach him on a daily basis, then he will be calling you to see why you've stopped. If he does not call you after you've tried this, then he may have ended the relationship in the manner that we've all have heard about. Avoiding the calls in order not to actually tell the person that the relationship was not working out.

Answer 3

Just because he does not reply and/or respond to your messages and calls promptly does not mean he is disinterested or has lost interest! You are well aware that he does not respond instantly anyways...

Maybe, he needs time to think over the situation. He needs to think how it is going to work out through the problems both of you are currently having.

Try to be patient. Do stop calling or leaving him messages. Sometimes, distance and quiet would bring him naturally to you. Take care.

Answer 4

Why have a phone if you don't answer it or bring it with you. Isn't that the whole point in having a phone? For whatever reasons, he is avoiding you. As soon as you find someone else, he'll show interest in you. When you love something you want to spend time with it. You also can't love someone you don't respect first. He is showing that he doesn't want to spend time with you (even on the phone), nor does he respect you enough to call. My question for you is....what's it gonna take for you to move on? answer: a rebound relationship.

Answer 5

Baby, it sounds to me that he is avoiding you. I know it sucks. I say you just don't call him anymore, he obviously is being a total ***. Don't think anymore about the situation. Go out with your girlfriends and just try to have a great time. Men are nice to have around, but lets face it, they hold you down. As women we need to impower ourselves to be strong and aggressive. There are always more floating around. Think of it as he is so not worth your time. You can always find someone who will be more attentive and treat you the way you should be treated..

Answer 6

*hugs* I know how you feel a few weeks ago I went through the same thing. you can either wait and hear why he didnt answer you or go ahead face the facts and move on and find someone better than him.

Answer 7

I'll be willing to hold you. And as far as b-friend, I think he has something going on there, else why would he not respond or call or something? Better look into it kid before you get burned.

Answer 8

If your boyfriend is getting your messages and not returning your messages that is a sign that he is not interested. Time to move on.

Answer 9

Well maybe he a coward and dont know how to tell you he wants space, read between the lines, nore is going on there, with him,,

Answer 10

well im sorry about what hes doing to u he seems like a jurk...hes ignoring you...i think its time to move on find a new friend who will reply right away and care for u....