worries and anxiety, can't sleep?

Question

i didn't sleep all night...there's a lot of things in my mind...i saw an attorney today and getting child support from my ex...i'm a new mother to a 2 month old baby whom i truly love but lately she's been crying when i take care of her...i think it's because she senses my anxiety...how do i relax my mind and not think about anything...no sleep help!

Answer 1

Stress and anxiety are great enemies of good health and happiness. Loosing sleep is one of the many results of stress. You are indeed stressed. Its not good, as you DO NEED to sleep. Sleeping tablets are not the solution. In fact they can be dangerous, if too much depended. For the sake of your little one and your own good self, please seek professional help as soon as possible. You can also serfe the net on How to avoid stress. You can get some guideline help there. But please, please do not neglect it. All the best.

Answer 2

Well, if you are breast feeding, i wouldn't suggest medications...but, if you are not,...I would ask the doctor for something for your nerves. You want to be careful though, because you have a new baby, and that is one of the reasons you aren't sleeping, because you are on the alert to her needs at all times. You might hire someone you can trust, or have a friend stay over that could get up with the baby, better to have a trusted babysitter, and ask the doctor if you can take something to make you sleep for a few nights, till you get your sleep back. It sounds like really, you are just plain tired...with the new baby, and the hours you have to keep, and no help, it can be tiresome..and with the child support also an issue, it is a wonder you're not sleeping. I would honestly stay at a friends house, or mom, or some trusted person, so you can catch up on your sleep once in a while, even once or twice a week while you are going through all this...baby might even be not doing good with the milk she is getting, because if you are nursing, your nerves will affect the milk you are giving you baby, I would suggest an old fashioned way of feeding baby for now, and I will get a lot of flack for it, but believe me, it is cheaper and tastes better...we used to sterilize cans of evaporated milk, and distilled water,...and sterilize the tops of the water and can and can opener before opening any of them...and then, mix half and half and sweeten with about a teaspoon of white Karo syrup...which makes baby not have gas or be constipated...we also would add a couple of drops of baby vitamins. My son was never constipated, never had gas, and was extremely content...I personally am not a fan of the new poweder or chemical milk they are making babies drink today..and they DO upset baby's tummy, I would be happy to give you more detail if you email me, if you are interested...I bet there are a few oldies but goodies out there that remember that formula...Anyway, get some help with your rest, and you will wake up refreshed...you just need to take a deep breath and know that the Lord is watching over you and baby, and things really are going to be just fine. God Bless, through Jesus, xxxx

Answer 3

Although there are plenty of medications you can take for not getting enough sleep, it's better to work on the reasons why you're not sleeping. You mention that you are going through a lot of stress and you're fairly sure that this stress is causing anxiety in you and your child. So, start there to begin with.
First of all having a 2 month old child is stressful. It's normal to not get the sleep you need when you are a mother with a child of that age. Second, you mention that you're involved in a legal issue with your ex husband. This is of course another stressful issue. On top of all of this you are stressing out because you're stressing out.
Let me assure you that what you are going through is quite normal considering your circumstances.
I'd suggest you get emotional support from people who love you. Family and friends. Talk about your concerns, worries, and fears with them. Allow them to reassure you that you are okay, because you are.
Another thing that is helpful is getting out with your baby. When we are feeling anxious it creates a flight or fight reaction in our bodies. To work off the adrenalin build up it's really good to exercise. Take a long walk. The fresh air and a change of your surroundings would be healthful for both you and your baby. While you're walking think about your fears and let your walking pace be equal to the amount of fear you are feeling. Work out your fears, anger and anxiety physically.
When we exercise our brain releases feel good chemicals into our bodies. So you will notice that when you arrive back home you are feeling better than when you left. Walk as often as you need to. When you start to feel overwhelmed take a walk. If weather isn't suitable for walking, then scrub something; a floor, the walls, the cupboards, the refrigerator, your bathroom. Whatever will allow you to just get in there and work it out.
Don't forget to cry.
If you do need to have some sort of medication to help you sleep I'd suggest that you stay away from anything that would not allow you to be alert enough to care for your baby.
Talk to your doctor about Trazadone. This is a mild anti-depressant that makes you drowsy but won't knock you out.
Take calcium/magnesium tables before bed. Drink Sleepy Time tea. Stay away from uppers, coffee, tea with caffeine, chocolate, sugar or anything with large amount of sugar in it. Eat whole grain foods, fruits and vegetables and breath.
Good luck!

Answer 4

Go see your doctor and tell him what is going on in your life. He may give you some medication for the anxiety and insomia. Depression is also related to anxiety and insomia. Your doctor can help. I would suggest taking one medication and try it for at least 1 month to see if it helps. You don't want to stop any medication cold turkey. That can make you life a living hell if you stop taking them aburptley.

Answer 5

Taking a bath is very soothing and calming. Good luck and God bless