We are friends, talking about everything, mostly we are physically attracted to each other as well. We wish we could 'explore' one day.
We have been kissed, hugged and touched each other..that is all. It feels like we are right for each other physically than our own bf/gf.
Because we both live with our own life partner, it made us feel need to hiden all those feelings when we really want to talk, send sms or meet each other.
We never had sex...and recently I discovered I have feelings for him--more than a friend. But, we couldn't do anything about it because we are afraid thinging will not work out for us. Then we will both lose what we have today with our partners.
'There is no room for us. You have your private life and I have my private life. It makes more to think about it.....' 'So we just take it easy, and see how it goes'...What it meant to be, it meat to be'....that is from our conversation recently.
can someone help me to make my mind a little clear??
2006-12-27 23:40:00 · 10 answers · asked by Love cake:-) 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
p.s i am not married with my life partner and so does not him.
Moving and livin together, but not at the turned to get married.
2006-12-27 23:52:40 · update #1
No, that friend is a guy. And I am a girl!!
P.S do you believe there might be another person more right for you sexually then your own life partner?Plus can talk more deeply... like soul mates
2006-12-27 23:57:01 · update #2
For my bf now,I have tried to live with him, and I know how it will be to hold a family with him in the long future.
For the friend, I know him a lot, but i do not think we can live together, or I should say I am afraid we can like or love each other very much....but cant live together -- like the movie ' the break-up'
2006-12-27 23:59:33 · update #3
sweety, you should be the one to know what you really feel.... do you love the guy you're with? if yes, then you shouldn't be confused with what you feeling.. if not, then why agree to be his girlfriend??? honey, what you're feeling right now is puppy love.... or as we say it INFATUATION......... coz you just like the other guy physically... try to compare your feelings for the both of them - inside and out.... then you'll see who you really LOVE!!!!!!!
2006-12-27 23:53:27 · answer #1 · answered by Besy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you happy with your partner? Or just content? that is the hard question. If happy, then you should cool off, wonder about the what may have beens, and enjoy your partner, spare their feelings if they were to ever find out.
If content, then you have to decide how much your own happiness means. Could you be happy knowing you hurt someone deeply (your partner, and your "Friends" partner) at the expense of your own happiness?
You cannot live your ending days with being just content. Life is to special, to emotional, and to short to miss out on what is good for you.
2006-12-27 23:51:46 · answer #2 · answered by Physics4Rich 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, if the two of you want to be together, then do it, but if you two are so scared that it will not work out the best thing to do is be friends, but you both have already cheated on your "life partners", which isn't fair to them. How would you feel if you found out your partner was messing around with someone. You need to be honest with yourself. The two of you need to decide whether it is worth chancing. That's all life is, is a chance. You are not guaranteed to have a life-long relationship with anyone.
2006-12-27 23:44:50 · answer #3 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you haven't had sex doesn't mean you're not cheating. You have a real problem, you have both betrayed your partners and should they find out, might dump one or both of you. And then you can try and start a relationship with this person and both of you know something about each other, you can't be trusted. You're both headed for misery whether you like it or not. Good luck, you'll need it!
2006-12-27 23:50:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are already married for some time now. Your present partner if he is kind, loving, sensitive etc. then you should not leave him. If he is unkind, nasty, brute than you may think of a change. There must be a reason to justify the change. It is foolishness to desert a boat that is floating nicely and jump into another boat, just to find that you are sinking to a watery grave.
2006-12-27 23:48:41 · answer #5 · answered by wizard of the East 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not doing either yourselves or your "life partners" any favours by carrying on this way. You are cheating on your "life partners" and you are possibly denying more happiness for each other. If you are only staying with your partners because you are scared of failing with each other then you are cowards and cheats. Either get together or stop cheating.
2006-12-27 23:44:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a little confused...
Are you two both lesbians and want to cheat of your "life partners"?
Or are you a lesbian and you other interest is a gay male, and the both of you want to "explore" hetero sex?
Either way it's cheating.
Make a decision, and be up front with your partners.
2006-12-27 23:49:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the answer to this lies in ur heart...do u luv him more than ur partner? u need to understand that by going ahead will spoil ur partner's life...imagine if ur partner wld hv done this 2u then....so step back and jst be frns....i knw its tough to control ur feelings and sexual urges but if it means stopping the talks now do it...ur married life is more imp 2u than a frn....
2006-12-27 23:44:44 · answer #8 · answered by rajdebrain 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds pretty clear to me....good luck
2006-12-27 23:44:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i suggest you to see an ADVISER
2006-12-27 23:45:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋