I like my best friend of 5 years, but I know he isn't interested. How should I get over him? I know I shouldn't stay in something that won't lead anywhere, so how do I stop my feelings and remain liking him as a friend?
2006-12-27 23:34:10 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I was in the same situation as you are in. But we both liked each other and we were a couple for about four months and then nothing. He backed off for some reason. That was five months ago. I still don't know why he did it, but I can say this much I miss my friend. I think of him all the time. What ever you do consider this, you have a friend that is there for you now and most likely for a lifetime, is he worth losing? Does he know how you are interested in him in that way? If not, then find another man to be with, and keep your friend. Your feelings will be there for him but hopefully not as strong. Good luck in whatever you may decide to do.
2006-12-27 23:47:19 · answer #1 · answered by jd77aets 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look, I know its not easy to decide about risking a friendship by telling that person. If you definitely "know" that he is not interested then there probably is no point in confronting him. But if you are not sure it might help to find out in a different way, like if his friend is a good friend of yours and that friend can ask him if he has more feelings for you. Like if I would try to find out if he can imagine being with you. But that again is only if you want to be with him. In the end you cant stop love, only time can. You will get over him after some time. Only you can decide what direction to take.
2006-12-28 03:30:23 · answer #2 · answered by Remnants Of Yesterday 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi dear.
well i am glad that its not only i who has this symptom.
look what i am going to tell u here is what has worked out just wonderfully well for me.
u know this person for 5 years now!! that's what makes him ur best friend right? well, u know why friends remain friends?
coz there's a bond between them, a bond of trust and love!! it is this very thing that u are feeling for ur pal and that is by no means wrong. these are not the 'feelings' of love my dear, that is something different than this. i think its a lovely feeling to care so much about a friend!! i do that too no without any guilt!
take some time and reflect, you will realise what's right.
welcome to the world of adults!
2006-12-27 23:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by sunny98012 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should go for it. You never know if he's not interested but if you do and you guys are like a couple you know its never gonna last so you guys lets say you break up you dont expect to still be friends it never works that way and you will end up ruining your friendship. So try not to think about him and go for another guy if someone asks to go out just say ok you're better off with some other guy than your own best friend you know. So hope my idea helped and good luck with whatever you choose
2006-12-28 00:15:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start by being honest with yourself and know that your feelings are not going to change. It always takes time to get over someone so the best thing you can do is try to stay away and find someone new.
2006-12-27 23:44:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can completely transform any relationship,
no matter what it's like right now.
Every single relationship you have is a reflection of how you feel inside about you. You are a magnet attracting to you all things, via the signal you are emitting through your thoughts and feelings. Every relationship you have and every interaction with every person, is a reflection of your own thoughts and feelings in that very moment.
To transform every single relationship you have in your life:
Fall in love with YOU!
(you must love yourself deeply).
Make lists of hundreds and hundreds of wonderful things about you. Keep adding to it every day.
Know that you are perfect.
(do not think any negative thoughts about you).
Know that you are worthy and deserving of anything and everything you could possibly want in your life.
Focus on the wonderful things in every person. Look for only those things.
Do not blame or criticize anybody, ever.
Set an intention that you are going to see the best in everything and everyone.
Make your happiness the number one thing in your life.
(Happiness is an inside job.)
Free yourself of the responsibility of trying to make other people happy
(respect and love them enough to allow them to take care of their own happiness).
Get your attention off those things in others that don't make you feel good.
Appreciate and love yourself in every moment you can.
Do not expect others to behave in a way you want, so you will be happy. Release yourself forevermore and know that you alone control your happiness and it is a choice, no matter what anyone else is doing.
Love and respect yourself completely.
Know that you are PERFECT right now.
2006-12-27 23:36:54 · answer #6 · answered by TurnMeOut 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Be glad you are friends. Be glad you can face reality. Continue with your life ya never know maybe he'll come around. Friendship is the key ingredient in a good intimate relationship.
2006-12-27 23:40:03 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should distance yourself from him for a little while. Get involved with some other hobbies or interests to keep your mind occupied.
And what indication has he given you to show that he wasn't interested in you?
2006-12-27 23:37:32 · answer #8 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as you have these feelings, it may be tough for you to be his friend. Plus, the more you are around him, you will keep liking him, which could hinder you from finding somebody else.
you should probably spend less time with him and see hw that feels.
good luck.
2006-12-28 01:15:44 · answer #9 · answered by Bob B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok so ive gone through this twice and definitely do NOT date him. it always ends in disaster and it ruins the friendship. to get over him, i would start hanging out with other people more often and maybe start talking to other guys you are would potentially be interested in.
2006-12-27 23:37:44 · answer #10 · answered by urban people 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋