I'm an only child and have a little girl that i adore my husband would lke another baby but I am unsure as I'm worried that I would love and favour one child more then the other. As i have never had to share my parents affections i don't quite understand the threory of equaly loving more then one child. I would like other only children who have had more then one child to tell me if they favour one of their children more then the other or if it is equal
2006-12-27 23:31:33 · 6 answers · asked by finabella9 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
I am an only child and mom of two children. I have a boy & girl and the whole sibiling riviarly thing is so new to me. I was never lonesome growing up, I had neighbors & cousins close to my age. I didn't want to have just one child though and my husband refused three kids, he is the baby of 3. I can't tell that we treat either child as a favorite. They are both so very different in personality, habits & likes and dislikes. And being at different ages and stages also defines the parts of each child you like best also. Probably the saddest part of being an only child is that now that I am an adult, my husband, kids and I are the only ones to "go home" for Christmas and other holidays. No huge family gatherings for us due to me being the only child. And also when the time comes the responsibility of caring for my aging parents will all fall to me and me alone. Hope this helped you!!
2006-12-28 02:51:25 · answer #1 · answered by coltqueen 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am not an only child, but I am really close with a woman who grew up as an only child. She now has 6 children, 1 boy and 5 girls, and she loves them all equally. She is an amazing mother! You will do wonderful!!
2006-12-28 11:36:23 · answer #2 · answered by hntrmommy14 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm still only pregnant with number one, but I am an only child and I plan on making it a point to have more than one. It was lonely growing up and I saw how my mother was so close to her sister, and I want my own children to have a close bond with someone their own age at home, someone that they'll grow up with. Sure, some people say that's what friends are for, but the only 2 friends I still talk to from my "childhood" weren't even that good of friends until late in highschool and into college.
2006-12-28 07:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by desiderio 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am an only child, I have three children. I hated being an only child and couldn't wait to provide my oldest with siblings.
I wouldn't say I love them equally or that I don't have favorites. However, who I love more or who is my favorite changes from day to day, minute to minute even. They are so different and special. It's up to you, of course, don't have a second if you don't want one. But if your worry is that you won't love the new baby, don't give it a second thought. You will.
2006-12-28 07:37:15 · answer #4 · answered by BabyRN 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not an only Child, i'm a triplet, and all in all have 4 siblings. I have twin boys myself and i can tell you not to worry about this theory of equality between the love of your children. Trust me, you will take favourites, but it changes from moment to moment, minute to minute. Both My boys are equally special in there own way, and I love them both no matter what. There is always enough love from both you are your husband to go around.
2006-12-28 07:42:55 · answer #5 · answered by Reagan T 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe you favor one child more then another just because you were an only child. I was an only child and I had 4,
2006-12-28 08:32:10 · answer #6 · answered by Granny 1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋