Please settle a small dispute?

Question

I hung my sweater up on a hanger in the bathroom where normally the towels/dressing robe hang (girlfriends) When she sees it there she throws my stuff on the floor and puts her stuff back on the hanger. Now I am of the opinion that she should lift it up as she threw it down, and put it away to its rightful home or hand it to me and say you put it away.She says I should pick it up because it should have not been there in the first place. It has been lying on the ground for 2 days and thought it would be fun to settle this Yahoo answers style.

Please give your honest answers and dont say why dont you grow up and pick it up yourself because typing this is more trouble!! This is an experiment.

Thanks.

NOTE FROM GIRLFRIEND:

The sweater was dirty and boyfriend was tidying up, and rather than put it in dirty laundry basket hung it next to my dressing gown in a "look at me I have made the bathroom all tidy" way. Except he hasn't!!!

Answer 1

you should have put it in the correct spot to start with, she shouldn't have thrown it on the floor.... two wrongs do not make a right! pick it up and put your stuff in the correct spot from now on! lol... ps: my bf and I have this dilemma too .... or you could just hire a cleaning person... they'll pick it up and probably wash and iron it too

Answer 2

you said she put her stuff back on the hanger after throwing your sweater on the ground, so did you take her stuff off the hanger to put your sweater on it? if so you probably need to make amends by picking up the sweater and putting it in the dirty wash at least. if on the other hand she had nothing on the hanger and threw your sweater down to place her stuff on it then she should have taken the sweater to the dirty wash basket instead of throwing it on the floor. ever heard the expression don't sweat the small stuff ? well dont sweater it either ! cheers for reading my response and hope you get it all sorted out !

Answer 3

Run from this woman! This seems like a silly issue to fight over, but there's something much much bigger going on here. Think about this...upon seeing your sweater on the hook, her first impulse is to immediately remove it and throw it on the floor. What do you think was going through her head at that moment? You're girlfriend is a control freak, and she always has to come out on the winning end. Like I said, seems like silly, minor issue, but I can bet her reaction will be the same on a more serious issue. Trust me...run from this woman. Don't say I never told you so!

In additon...what ever happened to a man deserving some respect. Assuming they share the place, why can't he hang the sweater wherever he wants. It's his place too. Most of the responders here tell the guy to just pick it up and get over it, but I don't agree. It's not necessarily the issue of the sweater, this is principle. By the responses to this little issue, the attitude seems to be that the guy should quit being a baby and just pick it up. And when he does, he may as well stick his tail between his legs on every other disputed issue because there's only one resloution that the woman will accept....her way!

Answer 4

Both of you need to grow up. However, you should (boyfriend) take responsibility for doing things properly. If the sweater was dirty and you hung it up on her hook next to her clean robe. That is uncalled for, it will make her robe dirty and stinky like body odor. Do you want to be right or do you want to get along. I think the two of you need to sit down and have a long talk. Decide what is important and what is not, pick your battles. Don't argue over petty issues. Between the two of you, you will need to decide who cleans better and who can do another chore that they are better at, so this way everything is done and everyone is happy! Good luck and God bless****

Answer 5

Hmmm, tricky one, this. There's a power battle going on here about who is responsible for keeping your home tidy. Your girlfriend is claiming 'ownership' of the bathroom peg (wouldn't it be simpler to put up another one for you?) but chucking it on the floor is akin to a declaration of war! She's challenging you on this and frankly you both sound like two stubborn people!
I'd ask her why she felt that she had to throw it down, rather than handing it to you. Does she ever put things in the wrong place and, if so, would she want them chucked down? (probably not).
I'd work on the principle of "the person who makes the mess clears it up". This works on a dirty cooker, spill on the floor, etc., so the person who chucks something on the floor technically "made the mess" and should clear it up. The reason for chucking it on the floor isn't the issue, it's the fact that your girlfriend made the mess and should clear it up. If you apply that to all your housekeeping then you will have a tidy house.
hving said that, if I was your girlfriend I would bite my lip, keen shtum for a while then exact a TERRIBLE REVENGE! So I'd watch your back for a while and hide the knives ...

Answer 6

To start with learn not to put your sweater on that hanger. Your girlfriend shouldn't treat you clothes like this as she wouldn't want you to throw her stuff on the floor. She should pick your clothes up and kindly remind you not to leave them where you did. Solve this by buying another hanger just for you.

There are a lot more things in life to worry about than who is right and who is wrong. Try to be nice to each other!

Good luck.

Answer 7

Regardless of where you put the sweater she shouldn't have thrown it on the floor. That's just disrespectful. If you got up from the dining room table and your girlfriends drink was over where you plate was would it be acceptable for you to just swipe it to the floor? No! She'd think you'd gone mad.

There is one question, where were her things that normally hung there? You didn't remove them, did you? If so, then you are in the wrong, but she still shouldn't have thrown your stuff on the floor. I couldn't imagine anyone liking that.

Answer 8

Dude, I was in your corner until I read the note from GF stating that the sweater was DIRTY!!! Why, if it was dirty, did you even bother to hang it up? Just throw it in the bin!! If it were a clean sweater and you had hung it up then yes, she should have either moved it to the closet, given it to you to move to the closet, or hung her robe up elsewhere. However, since the sweater had no business being hung up in the first place, you lose and you shouldn't have hung it up in her robe space!

Answer 9

Originally I was going to say that your girlfriend sounds like a b!tch, LOL. However, since she said the sweater was dirty, I believe you're in the wrong. Why would you hang a dirty sweater where she puts her bathrobe? Really, it sounds like laziness on your part. :( You should have just put it in the laundry hamper. True, she shouldn't have thrown it on the ground, but it is YOUR sweater, and you should put your own dirty clothes in the basket. Sorry--I think your girlfriend wins!

Answer 10

A bathroom is not a clothes repository. Clothes may remain in the bathroom while their owner is showering. They are then removed to the owner's bedroom or dirty laundry store.
A dressing gown is the only garment that may be left in the bathroom.
Go to the bathroom and retrieve your sweater which by now will have to be washed.

Answer 11

I'm just so impressed that you hung your sweater up in the first place . the question i want to pose is did you throw her towel/dressing gown down to do so? If not then she should definitely pick up your sweater and also beg you for an apology . does she have ownership rights to those hooks ? of course not - tell her to stop being so anal.