My finace and I are of the same faith. Because of his convictions, he doesnt believe we should have a dance at the reception. I at this time see no problem with it. I love him and want to marry him. Marriage is about compromising which I have no problem. This just simply caught me off guard. This is my first wedding and perhaps its just my wedding jitters. Would would you do? Get over it and marry him or take it under serious consideration?
2006-12-27 23:22:33 · 18 answers · asked by "Angel" 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Couples have differences and always do. If you're sure you've met the RIGHT man and he's REALLY a good man, then it's really not worth it to cancel the wedding just bec of the dance issue! Which one is more important to you? That dance thing or losing a GOOD man who is HARD to find these days??? Try to talk to him abt him, maybe he would change his mind. But if he doesn't, then accpet that as one of your differences with him.
2006-12-28 07:52:31 · answer #1 · answered by bogey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not having a dance at the wedding reception, shouldn't be a realtionship maker, or breaker. Are you really concerned about not having a first dance together, or are you looking for any reason, however, small to call off your wedding? You need to search your heart and decide how you really feel about your fiance. If you have any doubts about your actually feelings for him, then you should not marry him, but if it's only because of a dance, and you truly do love him, then marry him. What's not having one dance, to having a lifetime full of wonderful memories together?
2006-12-28 15:08:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is one day of your life and if you really want to BE married to him, (not just marry) you will have to compromise of some of the things about 1 day to have the life with him you want. This is details, don't make a mountain out of a mole hill as my mom says! I don't see the problem with the dancing, but is it gonna make that much difference when youve been married 10, 15, 50 years?
2006-12-28 13:01:40 · answer #3 · answered by ASH 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this goes beyond just a dance. Do you share his convictions? Are you on the same page when it comes to other religious or life issues? Life can be very difficult if you cannot agree on your core values.
I agree with most of what has already been said. Communication is key and I think pre-marital counseling would be a good idea if you have not already done so.
2006-12-28 08:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by christi4681 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If your husband has a conviction about dancing. I don't think you should put on a dance at the wedding. You love him, want to marry him. A dance surely wouldn't be or shouldn't be that important.
If he has a problem with dances - his friends and family might also.
2006-12-28 07:37:31 · answer #5 · answered by banjo_mccain 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
"this is my first wedding" are the operative words here. Your answer should be... This is my only wedding. If you want a dance at your reception, then tell him how you feel. Compromise is key and so is communication. You wont work it out unless you have these two things.
2006-12-28 09:48:46 · answer #6 · answered by Brown Eyed Girl 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the issue of dancing is enough for you to consider calling off the whole wedding, then maybe you two should really re-think getting marrried. Try going to counseling. Talk to each other. Communcation is the key.
2006-12-28 08:36:03 · answer #7 · answered by sweetest sweetness around 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to take everything under consideration. I have never heard of someone not wanting a dance. What is the reason for this? Dances are a time for both sides of the family to interact with each other and have fun. Talk to him, he is your fiance.
2006-12-28 07:27:28 · answer #8 · answered by Rick R 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, you said the key sentence: "I love him and want to marry him". However, I believe there should be a comprimise between the both of you. Humans basically have two tendencies when faced with a crisis situation, and they are to fight or flight. So don't fight, and don't run away, but join-up, and become partners and find a solution.
2006-12-28 07:33:07 · answer #9 · answered by fenx 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I truly believe in compromise, and he should be able to do the same if he knows how important the dancing is to you at the reception. Talk to him and see what happens, he if is not willing to budge on this, then I would re-evaluate on wether or not I want to be stuck with someone who is so controlling. ~Good luck sweetie~
2006-12-28 07:33:29 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋