i'm a 20 yr old hindu girl in love with a 21 yr old muslim boy.we both are from kerala.we are in a serious relationship and want to work this out and take it to marriage.but being in a very orthrodox society where they will not accept this inter religious love, how do i handle this pressure and make our relationship work?
2006-12-27 23:02:07 · 24 answers · asked by nainaa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Just do it. The people that judge you don't pay your bills or have to live with you. If this is your TRUE LOVE then go for it and be happy. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-27 23:06:21 · answer #1 · answered by kim j 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The Marriage will Work
Having said that one thing you need to understand here is that your relationship has to first reach that stage.
If the boy understands you well and you understand the boy well - major aspect relating to marriage is taken care of. The Parents and family are very important factors in the smooth married life and therefore should always be taken into confidence - wherever possible. But, more important here is the maturity level of boy, who first has to convince his family members and then after marriage has to absorb simmering discontent.
The process would require lot of maturity, understanding and love from your side also.
So the onus of responsibility lies on both of you and if you have become that much mature then - Your Marriage Will Work and that too in a Superb Manner.
2006-12-27 23:15:50 · answer #2 · answered by Akshat Mehta Panjab University 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, u need to be sure first that u can adjust with urseleves. love isn't enough, ur gonna have to make a lot of compromises. but if ur sure that u can get over ur differences first, then marriage per se should last.
but society has its demands. in orthodox kerala, inter-religious marriages are not accepted. u will have to put up with a lot of ostracism. it can get extremely troublesome. it would be less in a place like Mumbai, where religion really matters very little. but still, u have to make sure that u don't start blaming each other for ur troubles. if thisw marriage breaks down, then everything just becomes a fiasco
in short, if ur really commited to staying together through sun and storm, then i doesn't matter if society likes ur marriage or not: but remember, STAY TOGETHER
good luck
2006-12-27 23:10:02 · answer #3 · answered by sushobhan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First make sure that you are both are financially independent. Make sure that you both are open to each other's way of living, cultural environment, social customs, eating habits, religious faiths and beliefs and many other things that may not seem important now but can be a very important factor for your marital relationship. If you are still sure, you can handle any hurdle together, try to find a job in another state and live there. This will reduce lot of family and social pressure.
2006-12-29 02:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by Smriti 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
IT CAN AND SHOULD. However, its not going to be easy, in such a society, particularly if both of you are poor. I have heard of such marriages in India, but one of the partner is usually rich or comes from a rich family, hence they are indepandant people. But it is equally true that there are some couple who are both poor and managed miraculasly to survive the wrath of ethnic stupididty! True love was and still is their biggest wealth and assest. If both of you are poor, but posess THAT wealth of Love, go ahead and show others how religious differences can and should be no barrier to live together happily and in harmony! Support of either family would be very helpful. Alternatively, go somewhere else and get married.
All the best.
2006-12-27 23:16:54 · answer #5 · answered by Ebby 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it is really a big problem. legally you wont have any problem. if either one of you want to change religion then you will be governed by your respective laws. ie., in matters of divorce and succession i mean or if you want to be a hindu and your spouse muslim then also there is no problem. because we have spl legislation called indian succession act to govern couple of different religions. but first of all you need to understand the problems you may have to undergo if you get married. first you should try to make your economic condition stable. and if you have that i think you will be able to lead a peaceful life even if the whole world opposes you. first consult an advocate and know how to register your marriage. good luck
2006-12-29 07:35:21 · answer #6 · answered by Advocate Bob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nainna,
Girls like you have taken the risk of marrying to muslims in the past, but maximum of them weep. The biggest reason behind is though their community welcomes you, you will have to take undergo lot of pressure to follow their customs and religious do/not do's. Mostly girls could not bear out because of religious/customs involved in day to day life. Then some times they force to eat nonveg which makes a hindu girls more uncomfortable.
Life is not same dear, If your lover gets a chance to get tangled with other girl in the latter part of life, which his coustoms permitt than you will be left wet/dry?
Even the Christians who offen change their life partner try to avoid this community.
Iam not against the community, but against fundamentalisam which had spread in the world and endangered our day to day life.
However, its your luck that you belong to kerala, as per my experiance muslims in kerla are one of the best compared to others in the northern belt. Still you would be best judge to judge the family, person to whom u love and their reputation in the surroundings.
2006-12-27 23:39:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
see... love sees no religion... if u 2 love each other... n want to be together... so u should eradicate this feeling of being hindu n muslim... just remember that u two love each other n thats it...
n these religions things will only cause harm to not only ur love but to mankind... as u've seen the past... just have a glance at Indian history... due to this castes n religions n all those craps... there has been very much devastation in mankind... so if we want to live happily n peacefully... eradicate these religions...
and as u say in hindi...
"HUM SAB EK HAIN" just remember this...
@ Arabian Beauty:- y does she need to convert... can't they marry each other on the basis that they both are humans? If not then I very sad to say that... the mankind is DEAD!!! there are no humans alive today in the whole world... all are just religion freaks n only knows what there own religion says... but not what the humanism says...
R.I.P. Humanism... :'( :'( :'( :'( :'(
2006-12-27 23:07:32 · answer #8 · answered by Demolisher 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
emotional attachment always carry oneself. but practical thing is totally different. out caste marriages are not successful unless and until u both share complete and mutual understanding.
as love rules no other heart but all future depends on one decision.
i know what m sayin must be bit difficult to digest..
but yeah even its true that many relationships are going well
like shahrukh-gauri..
but those cases are successful as their living standards are totally different and they are icons. so they dont need to be worried for anything. where as aamir-reena case is also a fact..
i will suggest its not easy for anyone to tell you what is rite and what is wrong..
u gotta decide are you ready to love him all your life. n do he feels the same.. gal life is not a joke... live it with open eyes...
harsh but true...
all the best
2006-12-28 00:33:34 · answer #9 · answered by life 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The small % success of Hindu - Muslim marriage is only by Karalites.
Proceed with good hope.
Best wishes!!!
2006-12-27 23:23:23 · answer #10 · answered by Kuppu S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes! why not ? First of all , we are Human, then comes religion... if you both love each other ,where society , orthodox ,pressure these wards are having no meanings in True Love
2006-12-27 23:19:05 · answer #11 · answered by deepaklbhatia 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋