Is waiting for the right person to loose their virginity to worth it in the end? I’m in my early 20’s and I know I am still young but I really feel I will never find her.
2006-12-27 22:36:27 · 32 answers · asked by Trevor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Trevor,
The diarist, Samuel Pepys once famously said of sex:
"The cost is exhorbitant; the pleasure temporary, and the position ludicrous."
2006-12-27 22:40:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 2⤋
Man has always really separated sex from love. Although many religions and some moralists still claim that you should be faithful to one (married) partner in my view (seen form the perspective of rather a long time as an adult) that you can and probably should separate love and sex. I am not recommending "playing around" if you are married. Hopefully your marriage will also incorporate a satisfying sex life. But before you settle down with one partner I would certainly recommend that you play the field a bit!
Safe and uncomplicated sex, whether paid for or not, can be very good fun. But be honest. If you find someone to have some sexy fun with, but who you don't see as a life partner, make sure that that is how she sees you as well. No broken hearts!
There is not that much mystery about sex really. It is a physical need like food and drink and warmth. Personally I prefer a good meal, but then I am getting on a bit!
2006-12-27 22:47:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No it is not overrated - its great!
I also waited until I was in my 20s, but I was gagging for it by the time I finally got seen to. Maybe you are the same?! I was quite religious and wanted to wait for the right person to come along - only I found that I was denying my true nature - that of an incredibly sexual being.
It is a basic need like eating and drinking.
If you need to talk about your sexual feelings then you can send me a line - either via IM or email.
I look forward to it..................
2006-12-28 02:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by Ella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on how you actually feel about it.
Having sex is not like getting married to "wait for the right person". However, this doesn't mean that it is a good idea to just have sex with anyone, only to have it!
Do what feels best for you. If you meet a girl that seems good enough and you want to have sex with her, approach her (in any way that you think is best). If you don't want sex yet and you think it is best to wait for the right person, wait.
You need to ask yourself though "who is the right person to have sex with?" and "how can I tell if a particular girl really is that person?"
Try to be realistic in your answer.
2006-12-27 22:47:25 · answer #4 · answered by Macgyver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeh its worth waiting for the right person,sex for the sake of relief is but a few seconds of pleasure,with the right partener it can be hours of pleasure,just talking ,touching,and being in the company of someone you are very fond of ,culminating in the act of sex ,which completes the moment ,much better than a one nighter with some slapper you dont even know..
and you will meet the right one eventually,but dont try too hard,stay relaxed,and eventually the moment will arrive.
2006-12-28 01:12:03 · answer #5 · answered by wozza.lad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you want right now. Sex or a long-term relationship? If you are feeling it and want a night of dirty fun, go to any bar or drinking establishment right now. If you are saving yourself for marriage, then have heart. It will all come in time. You just got to get out there and date many women as you can until you find one for you.
2006-12-27 22:41:18 · answer #6 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have thought during sex that it's so good that it doesn't matter who you do it with, as long as they are reasonably good looking, but afterwards I don't really agree with myself. Don't wait for love, it's too hard to find, but go with someone who you like and who likes you and you won't regret when you're older. I wouldn't waste your virginity, but don't waste your life waiting for something you might not find for years.
2006-12-28 02:48:46 · answer #7 · answered by THJE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, sex is not over rated. I luv it and i'm 55. Just can't seem to get enought of it. That being said, sex with the right person is even better.
2006-12-28 01:58:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is overrated. GOOD, but overrated. Don't worry about it. It happens when it happens. All the best for 2007
2006-12-27 22:45:16 · answer #9 · answered by Citizen Ted 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Casual sex is terribly overrated. It's not worth the time you spend shaving your legs. When love is involved, it's a whole different story. Nothing is more intimate and satisfying.
2006-12-27 22:39:35 · answer #10 · answered by smcdevitt2001 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
It does'nt have to be the right girl as long as shes cool. Don't be so hard on yourself. Ofcourse you want something meaningful, most of us do, but don't wait to long, it only gets tougher.
2006-12-27 22:45:52 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋