I have a son that just turned 9. His father is threatning me to hand him over. He lives in another state where I'm from. I moved to the state I"m in now back in 2001. When I lived in PA he had no problev w/ me leaving. I send our child to PA every summer and he sees him most major holidays. My question...I was advised by the lawyer to file for sole custody but I did the other... Are my chances ruined for keeping physical custody of my child. When I lived back home he always lived w/me b/c I was the one that provided a roof over his head and he would visit his dad on the weekends. His dad only sends me 250...now 300 a month in child support which is not court ordered. I asked him for more child support and he doesn't see why....2-3 days later he said he wants our son to live w/ him. He sais he's missing out on being a father...now he sees the light. He's not the world's greatest. My boyfriend has been more of a father to him, Also he has a baby on the way. I think he's being greedy.
2006-12-27 22:28:31 · 4 answers · asked by jay-baby76 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I must state again that my son sees his father every summer and most major holidays. I don't feel I am the selfish parent b/c I've been taking care of him since day one. His father is selfish w/ his time and money. He barelly calls and interact w/him the way a father should. I guess I should add the father's family played a major role in helping w/ what interaction my son and his father has. I am not trying to take away my son's father or his memories, that's why I chose joint custody instead of sole custody. PLEASE read the post before answering. I must add as a single mother working hard to raise a child w/ minimal support from the father why should I just hand over my child who I'm raising b/c his father doesn't want to pay more child support!!!
2006-12-30 01:23:22 · update #1
Don't listen to the person who answered your question first. You are not being selfish. If he wants to see his son more, then he needs to move closer.
Your chances are not ruined. Just don't keep changing your mind!
2007-01-03 11:28:20 · answer #1 · answered by Bachman-ette 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think he's being greedy or selfish at all in wanting to see and have a relationship with his son. On the other hand, I think you are the selfish parent in this situation.
If your ex goes to court and starts a custody battle, you may find yourself in need of spending several thousand dollars over several court battles to fight off a visitation enforcement order from the court.
Stillfurther, If your son is 9, the child can choose what he wants to do in this situation.
Your boyfriend doesn't enter in to this equation. Rather most Judges will look down on you if you are living with the boyfriend in an unmarried state.
You may be better off going along with joint visitation, let your ex have his son for visits and such and not waste all the money on attorneys fighting your ex. You more than likely will lose.
2006-12-27 23:00:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I do not think yo uare being greedy at all! And your son does see his father, so building a relationship with his father is not an issue. Im not up on legal terms, but the was I see it, they will only give your ex custody if he can prove you are unfit. I just want to say this again, I do not think you are being selfish.
2007-01-02 06:48:06 · answer #3 · answered by morena0160@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 02:09:22 · answer #4 · answered by goodgion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋