He broke up with me because his father died, I was the one who was their for him..I still care about him and love him...I want to send him his birthday gifts...but I don't know if its the right thing to do? Do you think he will come back to me? I lost my best friend...my love of me life...it hurts...any advice..?
2006-12-27 22:28:30 · 9 answers · asked by elizabeth j 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should be patient at the moment,he has encountered a tragedy and he is grieving so stay put,its some peoples way of showing grief,they just cut of all contact with the outside world,so believe me its not you,he will come around once he gets over it.Do not send him his birthday gifts,at the moment they will do more harm than good,but dont indicate to him in anyway that you have decided to let go.
Best of luck.
2006-12-27 22:44:28 · answer #1 · answered by ytee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god this is so crazy I just went through this with my ex 2 months ago. Her mother died and i was there the whole time for her and the family. I did everything that i could for them. I dont know what to tell you though I had to finally let her go she broke up with me then would call me and take all of her anger out on me. I put up with it for a whole month every day her cussing me out and telling me that I was a bad person well I am not. Her best friends were telling me I deserved better than that. But if the 2 of you get along you should send him a bday gift and talk to him as a friend he still needs his friends and let him know that you care but dont push relationship stuff on him for now. He will need a little space there are alot of things going through is head and lots of questions he has to find the answers to himself. If he knows whats good for him he will come back to you and let you hold him close and ease his pain. Keep your chin up
2006-12-28 06:44:54 · answer #2 · answered by Mac H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My girlfriends father died and I was asked to be bearer at the funeral. Id never been to a funeral let alone carried a coffin with someone in it. Its an uncomfortable feeling.
Anyway, we carried the coffin the wrong way round in to the church. That was a major error. I didnt know. I was more concerned about dropping it.
She never spoke to me again. Horrible feeling of injustice but basicly I guess she was always reminded of it when she saw me.
You get no medals for caring when they dont want it. It sucks and the only way to get over sucks as well. But getting over it sucks less.
And you will get over it. Sometimes knowing that is the worst part. Dont stop being a caring person though. You find someone that appreciates it and the past becomes just another experience.
2006-12-28 06:44:05 · answer #3 · answered by philip_jones2003 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd send each gift back to the store and just send him a birthday card. It will take time to get over your heartbreak, but if he really loved you he would not have given you such a silly reason for breaking up with you.
2006-12-28 06:38:37 · answer #4 · answered by lady01love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time and space. He also lost his best friend. as for the B'day presant, just wait for the right moment. When he is ready for you in his life again, the first person he will want is you cos you were there for him. No 1 forgets good friends. Be pateint.
2006-12-28 06:36:47 · answer #5 · answered by Amanii S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand! He broke up with you because his father died? Unless you had something to do with his father's death, I don't see why this would be a reason for a breakup. You need to communicate with him and find out the real reason why he broke up with you.
2006-12-28 06:31:08 · answer #6 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
give him time k.when someone dies,people act without thinking.let him know you still care by sending him a text(but not too often),i'm sure he'll come around.
about the present,hang in there for a while k.let a few days/a week pass then give it to him.he needs time to sort his thoughts out.
2006-12-28 06:30:53 · answer #7 · answered by and we all have loved before 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to him. Maybe he's just going through a tough period, and doesen't realise that he still needs you. Give him some time.
2006-12-28 06:33:40 · answer #8 · answered by eradicate 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he broke up with you because his father died? what kind of explanation is this???? i don't know girl....if he really told you that then he is probably not worth it!
2006-12-28 06:31:42 · answer #9 · answered by 42 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋