How would you respond to a sudden marriage proposal by your short term girlfriend/Boyfriend?

Answer 1

Depends how they proposed to me, and what I thought they wanted me to say.
If I got the impression that they wanted me to refuse, I'd refuse.
I'd only say yes if I was sure that was the answer they wanted (and was what I wanted)
Obviously, it'd have to be sensible and have a long engagement, seeing as its a short-term partner. Nothing wrong with thinking about the future though, and having a general idea of where you want things to go.
But I'd assume he was just joking really.

Answer 2

By short term, do you mean....the 'second date'??

I think I would have to respond in a way that only makes me feel comfortable. If it was a short relationship, like less than 6 months, then I'd have to say that I would gently let this person know that as much as I appreciate their value in commitment, I don't think that marriage would be even considered an option, due to the fact that a relationship needs more time, and more to build on, in getting to know one another. I mean, I don't personally believe in marriage, but I think if my partner was telling me they loved me, blah-blah-blah...and carried on like we were life partners, etc, I don't think I would honestly feel the same way.
For me, personally, having an early proposal just isn't something I would give into, just because there isn't enough communication in a relationship, if it's too early, to know what you're getting into.
Getting married is a big decision, and shouldn't be taken lightly, or used a way of some 'in-the-moment' passion that gets out of control of what hard work goes into a 'long term' relationship, that may not have been thought of!!

Answer 3

Not sure how 'short term' short term is, but I never see the need to rush. At the start of a relationship you are overwhelmed with infatuation which tends to wear off either as the relationship grows into something deeper and stronger or just fizzles out. A compromise can be to say yes and then have a lengthy engagement.

Answer 4

Sudden proposal for marriage from girls/boys show some problems and must be responded immediately. If a girl proposes you for marriage it means she has become pregnant and she needs your attention. If b/f proposes for marriage, it goes to prove that he is very impatient and not in a position to remain away from his g/f. These are indicators for immediate attention.

Answer 5

I have been dating for 6 years. Still to early. Right now you are in the comfort zone (day 1 to 1 year) It would be to early before then, and never before you are living with each other.

You need to understand the person over 24 hours a day rather than 1 -2 hours a day.

Answer 6

I would respond by saying , WOW, this is a shock, but I think we need to wait a while. There's nothing wrong in becoming engaged, just don't rush the marriage thing.

Answer 7

one month ago I'd have said it's too sudden and rash but now? I fell in love with my short-term boyfriend, it can happen, I was shocked (and don't let him hear this but) if he proposed now? my answer would be "later - definately".

Answer 8

Shock! If its too shock for you I suggest you ask for time to know each other better and to work on the relationship before jumping into the back wagon.

Answer 9

I would put it on hold, and try to increase the time your spending with your collegue and y'kno... try not to make her/him think you dont wwant the marriage because it will hurt him/her

Answer 10

I suppose I would burst out laughing but only because I wouldn't know how to handle it...