i ended things with my bf last night, i love him to bits but the past few months have been awful, i had a miscarriage and my head has been up my ****!! but i went through his phone last night and saw he had all these received calls from girls he is very friendly with at work and im sick of the secrecy. he was with his x for 5 yrs b4 me and they r in touch and i know she texts n stuff but he hides it from me. cos he thinks i go mental when he tells me things, but all ive ever wanted is him to be open n honest, but he keeps things from me, then last night he had a num in his fone frm a girl he had met on a night out, i rung her to see wat had gone on n she said they just talked, exchanged nums n were txin for about a week, but it seriously gutted me. why get girls nums when u av a gf even if u dont cheat? i confronted him n he said that they got on dead well as mates n were just friends, but i dont think i can take much more of the secrecy....
2006-12-27 22:15:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Get ya another boyfriend.
2006-12-27 22:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by MFD 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'll speak plainly, bearing in mind that this will not be what you want to hear................it sounds to me like the issue is with you and not him. Men and women are allowed to have friends with members of the opposite sex, it's not a crime!
The fact that he is still in touch with his ex is, once again, not a crime. The fact that you went through his phone should be enough to drive him mental despite the fact that you actually called her to see what they spoke about!!! No wonder he is keeping things from you!
You need to relax or you'll end driving him away permanently and, in this case, probably straight into the arms of the girl he has been talking to and texting!
You have been your own worst enemy here honey.
2006-12-28 06:23:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe you have the answer to your question. Personally I feel that you should think carefully if you wish to carry on with this relationship. There is no point in holding onto a relationship when you don't even trust your bf. In any failed relationship time is always the best medicine to cure it but you need to really let go of the failed relation before you commit yourself to another new relationship.
2006-12-28 06:32:27 · answer #3 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the very best that you can do with this is to pray and pray and pray real hard. it does more than wonders, it heals more than a broken heart, it heals a lost soul as well, see you've just had a miscarriage. remember that love is more of a responsibility, even if it means breaking the one you love. this must be very hard yes, but trust in prayers, trust in Him.
i suggest you not to see him nor communicate with him.he's not worth your time, after all.
2006-12-28 06:27:50 · answer #4 · answered by ethan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U need to trust him more.goin thru his phone is a definate sign u dont trust him.but on the other hand u r rite why have all these girl numbers when he has a gf.he is probably had enough of all your questions and mistrust.go and see a counsellor for your own benefit and try and get him to go too
2006-12-28 06:21:37 · answer #5 · answered by jafsil 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try talking to a counsellor or healthcare professional. You may find that you will benefit from taking anti-depressants as this will give you a clearer headset to make difficult choices. Sometimes we need to take emotion out of our decission making process.
2006-12-28 06:19:01 · answer #6 · answered by rampington 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
open up your heart to somebody else to whom will respect you, care for you, trust you and ofcourse to be honest and open to you in everything he do, that includes his plans and his past. do you ever read a bible? read this verse 1 corthians 13:4-7 that will be your basis about love. stay in love and God bless you
2006-12-28 06:28:08 · answer #7 · answered by KRISTOFFER D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you had better try to get over him because it seems like he's not interested in you.
2006-12-28 06:22:12 · answer #8 · answered by Rocky 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
since he is not worth ur time or life there is nothing going to keep u from getting over him
2006-12-28 06:19:19 · answer #9 · answered by hema 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are smothering him Girl! Let up a little already.
2006-12-28 06:24:39 · answer #10 · answered by Lisa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋