im 22 yoa and i have terminal cancer. i dont want pity from my friends and girlfriend. should i tell them?
2006-12-27 21:54:41 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Cancer
the only person that knows is the owner of this yahoo name
2006-12-27 22:00:41 · update #1
You told all of us on Yahoo forum, so no need to share these news with anyone. As the Creator knows well, when He needs you, and the Doctors time is always misleading. My elder sister was diagnosed terminal Cancer, but she lived for 14 more years after this diagnosis.
Good luck my dear for a healthy long life.
2006-12-27 22:28:42 · answer #1 · answered by Hafeez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Telling your girlfriend? How long have you been dating and more importantly how close are the two of you? If I were in a very serious relationship I would tell her. However, keep in mind once you told a secret to one person, it is no longer a secret. Otherwise, personally, I'm a very private person, thus I would not tell anyone. Whether they love, care for you etc., people will treat you differently and I could not handle that myself. I have had several friends live many, many years beyond the Doctors predictions. They both started eating right, taking vitamins, changed their perspective on life (carefree, did not let the little things bother them, stress free lives). I am sorry you have been dealt such a crappy situation. I will pray to give you the strength to get through this and the wisdom to make the right decision for you! God Bless.
2006-12-28 14:53:50 · answer #2 · answered by Jeffrey 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good question. I think you should at least tell your girlfriend. I can understand that you don't want any pity from people. You're in a tough situation that not many people can help you with. There's a good movie out on this subject, called "Le temps qui reste" (only with English subtitles). The guy in the movie also doesn't tell anyone but his grandmother that he is going to die of cancer. He wants to spare everyone the pain and pity.
2006-12-28 06:13:55 · answer #3 · answered by HP 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes sincerely if I was in your position I would tell my friends. It's important for them to be aware of your situation. And as well you can have all the supports you need.
2006-12-29 08:04:20 · answer #4 · answered by Jo-Jo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"To walk alone down the path of death is a lonely one..." I believe. Open up your heart and allow your girlfrirend and friends to walk with you. Forget about being pitied because it is their support that may allow you to live longer and to help you know that you are loved. "I send my out-stretched arms to you - in the hopes that God will increase your days and years". If you believe in miracles of God, you will live longer than you think! Please write me back, I will try to help you to open up yourself and to be proud of your illness - perhaps you can write a book about your journey. Ms-No-It-All (Di)
2006-12-31 21:06:45 · answer #5 · answered by Ms-No-It-All 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should definitely tell them. Respect them enough to let them know. If they truly love you, they won't pity you if that is your request.
2006-12-28 11:44:16 · answer #6 · answered by paula_shotcalla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please tell them about it, they wont pity on you, they just want to spent time with someone they loved.Time's running out. let them be with you. If you hiding from them,they'll get more hurt & suffer.
2006-12-28 06:44:30 · answer #7 · answered by pinkylone p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋