I was with my crush and his friend in a sauna. My crush was ordering me to bring him beer and to shower naked in front of them. He shouted at me saying 'What are you? 12? Don't be shy'
He was sitting in the sauna drinking beer, not even noticing that Im a girl and I need his attention. He treated me like a guy. He said that they took me in the sauna with them because Im a special girl. I walked into the sauna when I brought the beer and said that Im going home. I went to the living room and he came in. He asked if I was mad and I said no. He didnt believe me and asked me if he should walk me to the gate. I said No. When I left I realised that I left my jewellery at the house. Im going to have to meet up with them to get it.
What does he want from me? To be a Man?
I remeber me mentioned that he wants to take things slow in our relationship, but we already kissed and displayed affection so we are comfortable. I think I should stop being nice so he respects me. What do you think?
2006-12-27 21:53:31 · 18 answers · asked by babycake 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The reason why he treats you like trah is very simple and to the point. BECAUSE YOU LET HIM!
Why should he change and be Mr. Nice Guy? If you keep coming back and taking the verbal and mental abuse, he will not change. He sounds like a control freak with abusive tendencies. Get out as fast as you can. Do it now for your self-respect as a person.
2006-12-27 22:01:39 · answer #1 · answered by davester1970 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have about a million reasons to get rid of this idiot so don't waste any more time in doing so. His actions were abusive and a brazen disrespect toward you. He must have thought he was being a real man showing off in front of his friends with the drinking and ruthlessly ordering you about. Hope you see what you are in for if you stay with him any longer. So get your belongings back, slam the door in his face and don't look back. While you're at it, let this be a lesson to you. You put yourself in a precarious situation being inside of a sauna with these guys. This situation could have very easily gotten out of control and any number of bad things could have happened to you. What ever he wants from you certainly isn't in your best interests. So in the future consider your self respect and the fact that you are a female dictates that you don't warrant this kind of "attention".
2006-12-27 22:33:06 · answer #2 · answered by quantumview 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem is with you. You allow him to treat you this way and still consider him your "crush". Until you learn to respect yourself and learn to appreciate the millions of nice guys out there, you will never know love. Stop looking for love and appreciation from the wrong kind of men.
2006-12-27 21:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this guy is a jerk who knows that you have a crush on him and wants to see what you will do to "prove" your love for him. It was wrong for him to ask you to get naked in front of another guy. You should leave him.
2006-12-27 21:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by Rocky 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm gonna lay it to you straight. no, he is not treating you like a guy. he is treating you as a whipped b@#$%! don't take this, kick his a@# to the curb asap! some guys like to show off in front of their family and make it seem to them that he has you soooo under his control that you will do whatever he says. it's seriously stupid and immature!
2006-12-27 22:12:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be rude honey but he isn't treating you like a man, he is treating you like a prostitute!! It sounds like he wahts you to be his slave and his friends slave, and by him asking you to shower in front of his friends, come on, I would get as far away from him as possible, he sounds like a creep and it is only going to get worse!!
2006-12-27 21:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by esmooches726 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What are you doing with this guy? "Shower naked in front of them?" You have got lots of problems. That is NOT normal.
2006-12-27 21:59:35 · answer #7 · answered by Marc 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you go back you want to be treated that way, Sounds like he is a jerk.
Old saying: Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.
2006-12-27 22:05:43 · answer #8 · answered by mhp_wizo_93_418 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! Why are you allowing this jerk to treat you like a crap? Gee, this is giving me a headache!
And no matter how nice you treat him, he would not realize that. Girl, he is a blind moron!
So kick his butt off!
2006-12-27 22:03:31 · answer #9 · answered by Asian Cutie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He does not treat you like trash. You let yourself be treated like trash. Hea, If the guy does not treat you right, dump him. You will learn.
2006-12-27 21:57:27 · answer #10 · answered by Big C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋