i'm a super jealous person. i hate it so much. today my boyfriend called this morning and said he was coming over to my house to hang out with me, but his old friend called him while he was on his way to say she's visiting from california. so he called me to tell me he wanted to hang out with her. i felt super horrible the whole day, even though i knew he wasnt going to cheat with her or anything. then she tells him while they're hanging out that she's staying here for a while, not just visiting. so he didn't have to cancel plans with me and could've seen her some other time. which he's going to do. and i just HATE it. how do i stop feeling like this? why can't i let him hang out with his girl friends without feeling HORRIBLE the day he's hanging out with them?
2006-12-27 21:37:15 · 18 answers · asked by Jenniferrr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think the way you are feeling is totally normal, but what you have to remember is that this is your boyfriend and if you both love each other then nobody will get in the way, if he wants to hang around with his MATE then you have to deal with that, and I'm sure that is all it is, you need to learn to trust him and learn that he wants to be with you and no one else. I hope you can get over this as jealousy can sometimes ruin a relationship. Good luck
2006-12-27 21:52:03 · answer #1 · answered by Angel 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can completely transform any relationship,
no matter what it's like right now.
Every single relationship you have is a reflection of how you feel inside about you. You are a magnet attracting to you all things, via the signal you are emitting through your thoughts and feelings. Every relationship you have and every interaction with every person, is a reflection of your own thoughts and feelings in that very moment.
To transform every single relationship you have in your life:
Fall in love with YOU!
(you must love yourself deeply).
Make lists of hundreds and hundreds of wonderful things about you. Keep adding to it every day.
Know that you are perfect.
(do not think any negative thoughts about you).
Know that you are worthy and deserving of anything and everything you could possibly want in your life.
Focus on the wonderful things in every person. Look for only those things.
Do not blame or criticize anybody, ever.
Set an intention that you are going to see the best in everything and everyone.
Make your happiness the number one thing in your life.
(Happiness is an inside job.)
Free yourself of the responsibility of trying to make other people happy
(respect and love them enough to allow them to take care of their own happiness).
Get your attention off those things in others that don't make you feel good.
Appreciate and love yourself in every moment you can.
Do not expect others to behave in a way you want, so you will be happy. Release yourself forevermore and know that you alone control your happiness and it is a choice, no matter what anyone else is doing.
Love and respect yourself completely.
Know that you are PERFECT right now.
2006-12-28 05:42:31 · answer #2 · answered by TurnMeOut 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ebing jealous of your bf sometimes is good. IT's a matter that you do whenever you love someone a great lot! IT means that you really wanna hang out with him. Be careful,but, maybe he's trying to get you a message or something. There isn't just ONe man in the world!!
2006-12-28 05:45:03 · answer #3 · answered by m.buffon 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't you go along if they are just friends. Become friends with the girl and she may start liking to hang out with you more then him. Then he probably will not want to hang out with her as much.
2006-12-28 05:53:56 · answer #4 · answered by shorty2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get over it. That is not your BF but just a male friend. A bf would have had you along. Being super jealous too also is just a sign of immaturity and lack of self esteem.
2006-12-28 05:40:12 · answer #5 · answered by Big C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousies can often be a result of bad self confidence, that you are afraid that everybody is better than you and that the subject for you jealousies is going to give you up.
It can also reflect a fear that he/or she will do the same thing that you would do in a specific situation.
2006-12-28 05:46:25 · answer #6 · answered by toxisoft 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go watch When Harry Met Sally. It is not possible for a guy to "hang out" with his "girl friends" without there being some sexual tension/attraction. Either one of them is denying it, or neither is. If he wants to hang out with her, then you should be there too.
It's not jealousy, it's commitment to protecting your relationship.
2006-12-28 05:40:32 · answer #7 · answered by Sexy Summer - tvgirlgeek! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go do something yourself, or with YOUR friends. Don't revolve your world and every waking moment around anyone or anything. Get a life OUTSIDE of this guy, or you're going to be real sorry!
2006-12-28 05:42:12 · answer #8 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
girl just dont sit around because then you are going to think about it more then you need to, just chill and find something to do.whether its chillin with ur peeps. watchin a movie listen to some music or what ever it is that you love besides being around you man, and you should be good.
2006-12-28 05:54:03 · answer #9 · answered by confusion2469 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need some self confidence, trust and a deep breath realize he is with you and calm down
2006-12-28 05:43:35 · answer #10 · answered by caralinar 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋