I broke up with my boyfriend 5 days ago and it is so painful for both of us.We got so emotionally attached but we were so different in very important points in our relationship.We had our good moments and our bad...we both said "i love you" the moment we were ending our relationship.We both suffer but we can't be together...I don't want to, not any more. I miss him a lot...but i also miss the sex we had.Am sure he does too.He was amazing!!!Can i go back to him and ask him to be my fcuk buddy??I think that he will accept that...But is it right?Am so scared of moving on to someone else...because i can't believe that anybody will be better than him at sex...What you think?!
2006-12-27 21:05:55 · 27 answers · asked by Soulla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I did this a few years ago and it was a big mistake. We tried again and again and each time it got harder to separate...it just prolongs the agony...doesn't stop it from happening. I wish I had chosen different at the time and am happy that there is no further contact. After a guy gets to know your body (provided he takes the time) you will have that explosive sex again...trust me, it will even be better.
2006-12-27 21:10:02 · answer #1 · answered by westgaliberty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, first and foremost, while being friends with benefits can be fun for a while, ultimately, it's damaging. You'll end up having a harder time moving on from him, and vice versa. There will likely still be an attachment there, and if one of you hooks up with someone else, the other will probably get mad.
Secondly, while sex is great, it's not the most important thing. Sure, he may be good. But I guarantee you there are better out there.
If all you want is good sex, just have sex. Relationships are about far more than that.
2006-12-28 05:12:43 · answer #2 · answered by Cunning Linguist 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you dont want to be with him anymore, then dont. being with someone you love is more important than being with a sex buddy. where would u go from there? y waste your time when you can go find some guy u love. sex isnt everything. u and ur future husband are gonna grow old and sex with him will be the same as with anybody else anyway. its all about being with someone you love. thats the most important thing. so stop wasting your time over ur ex just because the sex was good. go find someone else and move on.
2006-12-28 05:13:52 · answer #3 · answered by christi815 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex is an essential part in a relationship, but don't base a relationship solely on sex. You can ask him to be your buddy, but that is not fair to the both of you. If you know that you can't be together, then cut if off completely and move on.
2006-12-28 05:11:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should give it more time even if it is hard to omit sex from your diet for a little while. Did you ever think that sex might have been that great because you WERE emotionally involved with him? I don't know... maybe you could do that if you don't get jealous and he doesn't get jealous of the other people you date. I wouldn't want to be with him anymore though if you really want to get out of the relationship.
2006-12-28 05:14:38 · answer #5 · answered by faithloveseternally 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ohhh noo don't do that, you will only torture yourselves NO kidding , been there done that , you both have to just get on with your lives and have as little contact as possible , none really would be best. Times is the only healer here and if you two become *uck buddies it's going to get messy and nasty and you will both suffer longer.
2006-12-28 05:27:49 · answer #6 · answered by springo88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't really understand why you two broke up but, if he were willing to just have a sex relationship with you and you were willing to also then, go for it. Don't let too much time go past because the more time that you're not with him the harder it is to communicate with him. It sounds like to me you two should have stayed together though.
2006-12-28 05:14:35 · answer #7 · answered by airtightreality 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can always find someone better at sex. I suggest you go out and have as much SAFE SEX as possible. We as men love pussy and will not turn it down. But in the same token haveing a cut buddy who also happens to be your ex can lead to diaster.
2006-12-28 05:10:47 · answer #8 · answered by Busgy Lanksy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you do that, there will always be tension and both of you wondering if there's a possibility your relationship is more than sexual. Not only will it be awkward being around him in public, it will be near impossible for you to have another real relationship. He may be good in bed, but is it really worth the negative aspects?
2006-12-28 05:20:01 · answer #9 · answered by Jason Roberts 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it is not right and I think you realize it is not right. You would be making a painful situation worse if you asked or if you both went through with it. The reason he might say "yes" to your invitation is because he wants to be with you and may hope that it will turn back into a relationship. Unless you enjoy breaking his heart, please do not request that of him.
2006-12-28 05:10:33 · answer #10 · answered by achristian520 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋