2006-12-27 20:50:03 · 12 answers · asked by Gopal 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law Enforcement & Police
My mother-in-law (I danced the day she "passed") was the worst busy-body I've ever known. She did the most horrible things. Of course, they were just little things, but she did them nevertheless.
For instance, when I was moving into my husbands house I noticed that he had stocked up on Salmon. The man doesn't cook, so I didn't know what he did with it and I made the mistake of asking her. Well, she explained that he drained it, put vinegar on it and ate it with crackers. All was cool-- so I thought. When he came home he threw hissy fit as he started throwing all of the Salmon out of the house. Turns out that she had told him that I didn't want "his damned Salmon in the house."
Another time when I had to get off of the phone with her to go to a doctor appt she told everyone that I hung up on her. Then the word got around that I was pregnant and that was the only reason my husband (her son) and I had even married. It turned out that she told the stories.
She told his children that I said they were not allowed to visit our house and that I called them all sorts of horrible names. They still believe that I said that and that's been almost 10 years ago!
We never could go anywhere or do anything without her knowing about it or making up stories about it. What was worse is that we lived in a small town where people had nothing better to do than to gossip.
Girl, I hope they're not interfering like this. We almost divorced over her crap more than once. As a matter of fact, we did finally move about 1 1/2 hours away from her. Afterward she would tell him that she had mailed him stuff and convinced him that I had 'stolen' his mail. She was good-- she definitely had control over him, but she died and I'm still here. I think I got off lucky. I know that probably sounds terrible, but girl, she was one evil b1tch.
I don't know what to tell you to do except to look to your husband for support. It's up to him to stand up to his parents. For your sake, I hope he's not a mama's boy like my husband was.
Good luck.
2006-12-27 21:11:54 · answer #1 · answered by CyndiDrum 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
See, if you are in the track and not creating any damage to their respect in the first place. I know a guy, who gets drunk everyday, spend time in night clubs and complains that his in-laws are interfering in personal life.
Also, i know some cases where for each and every step they try to tell about some rituals and customs and make a pain. Just tell them to stop it in a firm but a polite mannner.I did it.
2006-12-29 03:21:30 · answer #2 · answered by liketoaskq 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a hard enough job getting two people together in one life without others interfering. First thing you should do is talk to your spouse about it. They should be supportive of you and your concerns. It is really their job to talk to their family about the disturbances. Why? Because they have the "history" with their family, you don't. If you receive no support from your spouse, then you have to take it on yourself, with the consequences. But try hard to get the other person to handle this, talk to him/her.
Counselling may help you if you get no outside help. Remember when you marry another person, you are marrying their family, too. Its a rough road ahead if things are not resolved right away.
2006-12-28 05:03:01 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This depends on how strong your bond is with your husband and how strong his bond is with them.If you have a true strong bond with your husband then you should sit him down and tell him what the problem is how you see it.But you must be very careful of your reasons.Everyone should have time to grow as a couple and if that isnt allowed by your in laws then its a power thing.Mother in law jokes are not just funny they generally have a bit of truth in them.
2006-12-28 05:02:13 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit with them and have a frank discussion. Keep your attitude positive. it might be that what you see as interference is really of advantage to you and your family. After this frank discussion if you still feel that they are interfering then ask them to keep distance.
2006-12-30 01:07:21 · answer #5 · answered by bindukarkari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make them understand that you are having a private life & they have no right to interfere
2006-12-28 05:27:30 · answer #6 · answered by Sania 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tactfully win them over and get them to stop. Even if you hate their guts and have to B.S. That's the easiest way. They're not going anywhere so "deal" with them. You have no choice.
Just make sure that they're not right in the first place and you need to change. Have been many a bad son/daughter in law also who needed shaping up..
2006-12-28 04:56:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do you think they are interfering in your personal life? There is always another side of the story. It's according to why they are doing so? If it's just to be nosey, I would ask them to backoff and respect your space. If they have some objection or reason, I'd sit down with them to discuss it.
2006-12-28 04:56:42 · answer #8 · answered by gone 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hun, you need to stand up for yourself no matter what it costs. And your spouse shouldn't allow this to go on further either. This needs to be 2 sided, you both need to stand up against them, and if it doesn't stop, either learn to ignore them, or tell them enough is enough. You don't want them ruining a marriage, a friendship or a life. Take care, Hope this helps.
2006-12-28 05:00:13 · answer #9 · answered by ~*~SpitFire~*~ 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Tell them in a direct manner to stay out of your business.
2006-12-28 06:48:32 · answer #10 · answered by WC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋