I have PDD-NOS (autism) and find it difficuilt to meet new people. I am also extremely shy. Do you have any suggestions?
2nd Q: Are friends something that comes 'naturally' or do you have to make a (big) effort? -would you join a club just because you wanted to make friends?
2006-12-27 20:47:28 · 14 answers · asked by Robert 2 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Friends don't come from nowhere. You have to make an effort at finding them. Sometimes you hit it off with someone right away, other times it takes longer for a friendship to develop. It varies on the people and the circumstances.
The secret to finding new friends is meeting new people. Go places where you don't normally come. Join a club or take an evening class.
If you feel that your autism is stopping you from doing these things, ask somebody you know to accompany you the first few times until you feel comfortable going there by your self.
Good luck!
2006-12-27 20:52:49 · answer #1 · answered by Great Dane 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was extremely painfully shy growing up. I went to 15 different schools 'cuz mom moved us a lot. Lucky for me, friends came naturally because I was genuinely nice, smiled and would say hello to the people that others would ignore. Being a beauty was an easy way to draw attention but people were more interested in my individuality, the way I carried myself, what I stood for, and how humble I was.
I did reach out to the underdogs which was not usual and that is what made me nice and drew the flies to me like honey.
As a beauty, I was quite isolated. It's sad.
My mottos:
Pretty is as pretty does.
Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.
My heart breaks for you. My daughter has Asperger Syndrome. She is a beautiful blue eyed blonde, with no friends. I think intensive training is the only way to learn how to make friends. But someone will come along who will love you for who you are just don't stay hidden behind your pc the way my girl does. Go out to quality places, join clubs, whatever it takes.
I have finally started putting in effort for making friends. If these people only knew what great strides I have made to initiate friendships...I've come a long way baby.
I wish you good friends wherever you go!
2006-12-28 00:34:39 · answer #2 · answered by Kiki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...Start talking. Greet people. Smile (though not all the time, that would be dangerous to both your image AND your muscles). Do kind things. Reply and listen to others.
Communicate! Huzzah!!!
But I guess the easiest things to do when you're shy is to listen and give replies to others, opposite to talking first and greeting others in a "first-move" way.
Friends are something that comes naturally, but it takes effort (sometimes big) to keep it up and going.
There's a low probability for me to join a club just because I want to make friends. There must be something in it that interests me, besides building relationships and such.
And I would love to be your friend!
Nice to meet(?) you! :)
2006-12-27 21:40:33 · answer #3 · answered by Someone. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to find friends, You have to get out and meet people!!! The people you meet that make you feel good when you're around them??? Those are the ones that will most likely turn in to good friendships....and if they disappoint you, which people sometimes do, you move on and meet more people!!! Easy as that. Good Luck baby....
2006-12-27 20:52:05 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-06 02:51:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go out and join sporting or social clubs.
People like others who have similar or same interests.
Call old school friends reconnect, it's never too late.
2006-12-27 22:34:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends that come naturally are good friends, friends that you have to make a big effort most of the time are bad. you have to remember to be kind to them as they are to you.
2006-12-27 20:49:52 · answer #7 · answered by kruzito21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
all i can say is be yourself and people will love you for who you are you dont have to try god made you how you are for a reason and id be your friend you sound like a really nice person ;)
2006-12-27 20:49:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude..for starters, i'll be ur friend..;).. Anyway... making friends..its an effort.. but...u dont have to try till sooo hard.... and being shy..is nothign wrong.. u just gta go..up to sm1..say hi....and..start a conversation...then, they'll talk smthing.....and soon....they'll becum ur frend.. just gat relax..tads all... good luck man....keep me posted...;)..
2006-12-27 20:53:19 · answer #9 · answered by Redweedplace ® 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
join a club, try hi5.com, talk to me dogmicjoe@yahoo.com. the dog does not bite.
2006-12-28 01:29:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋