My only son is 14 years old...and I'm thinking of having more kids... what are some of the difficulties with/benefits of having kids with this kind of age difference? If you could kindly share your experiences I would appreciate it....:)
2006-12-27 20:39:43 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Wow these are all GREAT answers, just the information I was looking for!... thanks you guys!
2006-12-28 20:55:06 · update #1
I have a sister than is 8 years old and I am 23. She was born when I was 15. I also have a son that is three =) Weird..huh? I find more joys in being a very older sister. I cherish and love my sister like my own child. As she is growing older she looks up to me. When she is getting tired of mom and dad she can always find salvation at "Sissy's" house. The only downfall I can think of is the bad teenager habits and attitudesmy sister picked up at a young age =)
2006-12-27 20:46:13 · answer #1 · answered by Lee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi I am a 30 year female who has a 16 year old sister and we have basically nothing in common, apart from our parents and other sibilings. While Im into working and raising a family and all the other stuff that 30 year olds do, she has just got a part time job and will be completing year 12 in 2007 and is into going out and talking and all the stuff that teenage girls generally get into.
As I was growing up my mum used to work and so I had to baby sit alot and when I was 16 Iused to take her out on the holidays to the movies or Macdonalds and people always used to ask me how old my daughter was!!!!! !:)? so I used to tell them she was actually my cousin.
Every families experience is different and your sons experience will be entirely different.
2006-12-28 06:51:12 · answer #2 · answered by perth2clarky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My eldest brother is 13 years older than me. My Dad's eldest sister and youngest sister have over 30 years between them. In my family the age differences meant the kids weren't as close. When the eldest is moving (or moved) away from home and has a family, its hard to relate to a much younger sibling. My Dad tried the most out of his siblings to keep a connection with the baby sister, but its hard when she's a teen and only cares about friends, boys, and clothes.
If you want more kids, go for it. Just don't be upset if the sibling bond is very weak. I love my brothers (13 and 11 yrs older), but I barely know them. Between them going seperate ways when I was still a child, the wives and other side of the family, and raising their own kids, its just not kept us close. Only one brother has even put any effort into knowing his baby sisters. The wives don't care. My nieces are only a few years younger than me and the nephew is a year older than my eldest. Even stranger, I became a great aunt in my mid-twenties.Its wierd family dynamics. For us there was the older boy set and the younger girl set. So even if my brothers are so much older, my sister is 16 months younger than me. So if you want more, have at least 2 more. I'm so much closer to my sister than I ever will be with my brothers.
2006-12-28 04:58:04 · answer #3 · answered by Velken 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Me and my brothers (25), older Brother (27), Younger Brother (16) and Youngest Brother (6), So between the oldest and youngest children there is 21 Years. My Mother is 47 Years old and Having a younger brother at this age, is fantastic, he is only 3 years older then my Boys and he feels lucky to have so many people to look out for him!
2006-12-28 07:09:32 · answer #4 · answered by Reagan T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have half sisters that are 11 and 15 years younger. It can work, but didn't for us...but has more to do with family dynamics than anything else. Most of the time with any age range more than 6 or 7 years I've heard is like having two "only" children.
2006-12-28 04:49:10 · answer #5 · answered by purplepinkanddots 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I say go for it! I was 13 when my mom had my younger brother- so 13 yrs difference... and I was 6 when she had my middle brother. With the youngest, I was able to take care of him a LOT... now my Mom would actually make me take care of him way too much (she wasn't very good to me though). Anyways, I loved protecting my younger brother- he was my buddy, and it really gave me experience for taking care of a baby- I now have a 15 month old son. I will say though, there were a lot of times, since my mom made me take care of my younger brothers too much, that I really wished I had some freedom and could go to my room or go be with friends, etc... and wasn't allowed to.
Now for the middle brother, we fought a lot- not sure why, he just really always caused friction between us... but once he hit high school, he really matured,and we are now pretty close.
Goodluck, and I wish you the best!
2006-12-28 09:44:54 · answer #6 · answered by m930 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have four siblings older than I am - each around three years between. However, I have a brother 10 years younger than I am. It is really not a great idea to have such a spread, but if you want more children, just go ahead and make it work.
2006-12-28 05:25:56 · answer #7 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My kids are close in age, but the difference between my youngest sister and I is 19 years (one sister in between, same parents). It was good for my parents to have such an age difference because my other sister and I were there to babysit and such. We were able to drive her around, do fun things with her. But, now that my sister is almost 8, she isn't going to have any more siblings (she wants a little sister). Also, my parents are obviously older and can't do as much with her as they did with us.
In the end, I'd be more concerned with your age, and any possible birth defects whose chances are greatly increased. (I am assuming you are mid-thirties or older). Just a thought.
2006-12-28 04:49:24 · answer #8 · answered by Stacy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sister & I are 10yrs apart , it was great having a really little sister but I moved out of home when she was three so saddly for her I didn't spend much time with her . I felt really guilty but I was a teenager & had my own things going on .
Now we're 19 & 29 and are very close , because she had me to answer all her questions about boys and girly stuff and now she asks me about baby stuff cause she just had a beautiful baby girl .
Now our girls are only five years apart so I hope they are closer in childhood then my sis and I were , because my sis said she was lonely with me only visiting every now & then .
2006-12-28 04:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the age gap between my lil brother and me is 11 years.. he is only my half brother from my mother.. but i do treat him like he came from my dad. one thing i can asure having kids with age gaps is that your older kid can be like his parent, i mean you dont have to do all the parenting stuff u did to your eldest. because im pretty sure your eldest son would teach his little siblings like what mom thought him, there will no more be jealousy and stuff cuz he is old already for that. and the best thing about it is he would be the 1st defense of his younger siblings. take from me, i am treating my younger brother as my own son=) so no worries
2006-12-28 06:46:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋