Me and my mom are always arguing over stupid stuff! and it upsets me. i want to be close with her, but then again i feel like i don't! I think it's a little too late to resolve things. I'll try to avoid her or just keep my mouth shut... but she's always on my case about something. What should i do. I dont want to go to counciling. i want to tell her things that's going on in my life but sometimes she doesn't want to hear it
2006-12-27 20:35:34 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Have you ever think what it feels to lose your mom? Not only to death but to other people. Maybe she has problems but she don't want you to know. It ends to be too much for her to bare and she let go of her feelings to you in state of anger. Whenever you feel angry tou your mom, just try to imagine how much troubles she had gone to raise you up. No mother that doesn't love her own flesh and blood. Why don't you take your time to write a beautiful card to her and tells her how awful you feel about the condition of your relationship with her and you really want things to get better? tell her that you really love her and ready to share and hear what ever matter that troubles her. If you don't take the first move and then she gone, you'll be regret of your action for the rest of your life. Trust me, it sucks to lose your only mother. May God is on your side. I hope things will work between you two. GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!! :-)
2006-12-27 21:17:06 · answer #1 · answered by hidayah tarmizi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only advice that I can possibly give you is to tell her how you really feel. Mom's seem to think that they want to give you what they never had, not realizing that you are your own person and need to figure out things on your own. Try and make an effort to talk to her about it. If that's too difficult for you to do, write her a long letter, leave it somewhere so that she can read it when your not around. Then she would have the time she needs to really understand where you are coming from. It's a growth process for you both. 1st step though, is to begin the communicating. The bottom line is that you both love each other.
2006-12-27 22:57:15 · answer #2 · answered by Kim B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could just tell your mom some of the things that you've told us. "Mom, I feel like we argue a lot about unimportant things. I really don't like arguing with you. I'd really like to work with you on finding a way for us to get along better. I love you." Perhaps the three little words at the end might do a world of good. Give it a try.
2006-12-27 21:34:10 · answer #3 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried this on myself and it worked. If you can get some idea from this..
1. Do whatever she says (at least say "yes mom; sure" even if you won't do it ;) )
2. Let her say whatever she wants to, DON"T SPEAK A WORD..just think it in your mind. I know its hard but at least worth a try..
3. Everyday, compliment her saying "today you are looking great mom "
4. before going out take her permission (at least inform her)
5. Take her advise often (even if you don't agree with it)
6. For every shopping she does, you just have to say "this is great..your choices are too good" blah blah
7. Be patient..these tricks take a week to show their effect.
And lastly, love your mom from the depth of your heart.
I REQUEST YOU, ATLEAST TRY THIS FOR TWO WEEKS..IT WILL HELP, I PROMISE.
God bless.
2006-12-28 00:34:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Counseling is a good thing, unfortunately as mom we don't necessarily know how to approach our children even thou we something is going on with them so we rather pick a augment with you because it is easier to yell than talk. Sometimes timing is a good way to get moms to listen, like just before they are drifting off to sleep or early morn before they are wide awake, telephones are also a good way to get them to listen, because they can't reach you if they get upset at you. But talking to a outside party is always a good direction to go.
2006-12-28 00:19:02 · answer #5 · answered by stringhead3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your mum about how you are feelin Have you ever asked her what he childhood was like? Also dont forget that parents do the best they can. It aint easy for you but have you thought that it might not be easy for your mum?
Good luck
2006-12-27 21:53:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask her what her problem is.
what is she on your case about? Is she justified?
tell her you feel a distance and want to be close again. tell her you love her and be open and honest.
you will be able to work through this if you are sincere.
good luck
2006-12-27 21:54:16 · answer #7 · answered by Fuzzy Wuzzy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you love your mom but difficult to tell her. Write a note/card to her and state your feeling in frank.
2006-12-27 20:50:50 · answer #8 · answered by clare8899 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to counseling. That may be the best way to tell hear what on mind. PRAYING FOR YOU AND MOTHER.
2006-12-27 20:58:56 · answer #9 · answered by GOD IS LOVE 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋